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Reply #120 posted 02/28/08 10:08am

MIGUELGOMEZ

onenitealone said:

MIGUELGOMEZ said:


WOO HOO!!! I'm just over the moon. I can't wait to just hang out and just be. It's funny that I learned while I was there 2 years ago that England is a place where I can just go out and walk, sit and people watch, and have a great time.


Yeah - we have laws against that kind of thing. confused

cop cop cop






j/k lol hug Miguel, I was be SO thrilled if we get to meet again this Summer - seriously! I'm looking forward to it already. Lovely to see you and I hope all's well!




Naw, I'm saving cop for Amsterdam.....heeheeeee!!!!

That would be wonderful if you can come down so we can hang out. Yey Alun!!!!!
MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits"
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Reply #121 posted 02/28/08 10:20am

PEJ

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This thread is so ghey! biggrin
To Sir, with Love
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Reply #122 posted 02/28/08 12:30pm

SupaFunkyOrgan
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NDRU said:

babooshleeky said:


omg, did u know it was a man?


Yeah, it was all in good fun. No big deal.



Ok wait, was there tongue? If so, you need to seriously consider doing this again.....WITH ME! lol
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Reply #123 posted 02/28/08 1:01pm

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

NDRU said:



Yeah, it was all in good fun. No big deal.



Ok wait, was there tongue? If so, you need to seriously consider doing this again.....WITH ME! lol



lol
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Reply #124 posted 02/28/08 1:18pm

NDRU

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

NDRU said:



Yeah, it was all in good fun. No big deal.



Ok wait, was there tongue? If so, you need to seriously consider doing this again.....WITH ME! lol


lol no tongue! And you'd have to be looking like a really hot girl!
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Reply #125 posted 02/28/08 2:13pm

SupaFunkyOrgan
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NDRU said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:



Ok wait, was there tongue? If so, you need to seriously consider doing this again.....WITH ME! lol


lol no tongue! And you'd have to be looking like a really hot girl!

I can work my shit! nod

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I hate that you're off limits pout

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Reply #126 posted 02/28/08 3:10pm

squiddyren

May will be the month that marks my one-year anniversary of coming out. Indeed, it hasn't been very long yet, and many folks think that a lot of teenage bisexuals (i.e. me) are just going through a phase or letting their wacky hormones override their better self-judgement. While I DO agree that at least PART of the "bi" craze among adolescents (particularly high-schoolers) can be attributed to factors like confusion-causing hormones, a desire to experiment, trendiness, etc.... I know what *I* and some others genuinely feel, and it sure as hell isn't heterosexuality. Here's my story:


Eversince the beginning of high school (I know there was a bit of time in middle school prior, but the REAL beginning point was probably 9th grade), I have had sexual fantasies and desires on a daily basis. I started off getting my jollies to thoughts of guys only, but as time passed, thoughts of GIRLS began entering my brain, and (sporadic and brief as the episodes were) were making me more reactive and bringing pleasure equal to that created by thoughts of males. Hell, I even had a dream where Christina Aguilera molested me, and I liked it. falloff

But was I comfortable with these new, uncontrollable desires? Not one bit. You see, it got to where (in an attempt to repress that part of me) I was having 'sessions' and trying to exclusively get off to thoughts of guys.... but it wouldn't work. I dead-seriously couldn't stimulate myself anymore without switching my fantasies over to females. They were dominating my helpless mind.

All throughout freshman and sophomore year, I had firmly denied my (ever-surfacing) bisexuality. Whenever me and friends would be in class or at lunch.. just goofing off and chattering and being idiots... I would assert that I was completely straight whenever the subject of sexual orientation would come up. "Not even a bit bi-curious."

But you know what? By the END of sophomore year, my sexual desire for girls had become so strong that it got to the point where I had no choice but to alleviate the pressure of hiding myself from the world and just come out. I posted a very lengthy blog including this revelation (although it was mainly dedicated to my similarly developing and at last full-blown Agnosticism... yup, back then was a huge time of change for me) that is still up on my myspace.


It's been nine months, and eversince my coming out, I have not once had a real sexual fantasy about a male. Little passing thoughts, yes, but for all these nine months, all of my true fantasies (and believe me, I have them very frequently) have involved me and a female. It's a very deep-rooted thing that feels almost lesbian, but here comes the weird part about it all: Emotionally speaking, I long for a MALE. Dating a girl is a concept I'm not totally against, but overall, I'm very "meh" about the idea. Whereas with BOYS, I feel like I would truly be emotionally fulfilled. In fact, right now, I'm seriously crushing on one, and it almost hurts sometimes. Not to mention not a single one of my musical/celebrity crushes are female.


So, basically speaking, I'm a bisexual 17-year-old who longs for females sexually (don't worry, though; I believe in abstinence at this age) and longs for males emotionally. HOWEVER.. and that's a big 'however'... because I have neither had sexual relations with either gender nor dated anybody once in my life, I'm not going to go so far as to set these preferences in stone. Somewhere down the road (and I have a long road to travel), I could sleep with a woman but end up not liking it and "reclaim" my heterosexuality (sounds ridiculous perhaps, but I guess it's true what they say about sexuality being more fluid in women than in men). Or... I could date a man but end up not truly feeling him as much as I did initially, or have some bad experience, and go lesbian. I dunno... there are several potential ways my sexuality could change at some point in my life, but for now, as I said at the start of this post, I know what I FEEL, and you wanted a story, buddy, so there ya go. lol
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Reply #127 posted 02/28/08 3:17pm

benyamin

squiddyren said:

May will be the month that marks my one-year anniversary of coming out. Indeed, it hasn't been very long yet, and many folks think that a lot of teenage bisexuals (i.e. me) are just going through a phase or letting their wacky hormones override their better self-judgement. While I DO agree that at least PART of the "bi" craze among adolescents (particularly high-schoolers) can be attributed to factors like confusion-causing hormones, a desire to experiment, trendiness, etc.... I know what *I* and some others genuinely feel, and it sure as hell isn't heterosexuality. Here's my story:


Eversince the beginning of high school (I know there was a bit of time in middle school prior, but the REAL beginning point was probably 9th grade), I have had sexual fantasies and desires on a daily basis. I started off getting my jollies to thoughts of guys only, but as time passed, thoughts of GIRLS began entering my brain, and (sporadic and brief as the episodes were) were making me more reactive and bringing pleasure equal to that created by thoughts of males. Hell, I even had a dream where Christina Aguilera molested me, and I liked it. falloff

But was I comfortable with these new, uncontrollable desires? Not one bit. You see, it got to where (in an attempt to repress that part of me) I was having 'sessions' and trying to exclusively get off to thoughts of guys.... but it wouldn't work. I dead-seriously couldn't stimulate myself anymore without switching my fantasies over to females. They were dominating my helpless mind.

All throughout freshman and sophomore year, I had firmly denied my (ever-surfacing) bisexuality. Whenever me and friends would be in class or at lunch.. just goofing off and chattering and being idiots... I would assert that I was completely straight whenever the subject of sexual orientation would come up. "Not even a bit bi-curious."

But you know what? By the END of sophomore year, my sexual desire for girls had become so strong that it got to the point where I had no choice but to alleviate the pressure of hiding myself from the world and just come out. I posted a very lengthy blog including this revelation (although it was mainly dedicated to my similarly developing and at last full-blown Agnosticism... yup, back then was a huge time of change for me) that is still up on my myspace.


It's been nine months, and eversince my coming out, I have not once had a real sexual fantasy about a male. Little passing thoughts, yes, but for all these nine months, all of my true fantasies (and believe me, I have them very frequently) have involved me and a female. It's a very deep-rooted thing that feels almost lesbian, but here comes the weird part about it all: Emotionally speaking, I long for a MALE. Dating a girl is a concept I'm not totally against, but overall, I'm very "meh" about the idea. Whereas with BOYS, I feel like I would truly be emotionally fulfilled. In fact, right now, I'm seriously crushing on one, and it almost hurts sometimes. Not to mention not a single one of my musical/celebrity crushes are female.


So, basically speaking, I'm a bisexual 17-year-old who longs for females sexually (don't worry, though; I believe in abstinence at this age) and longs for males emotionally. HOWEVER.. and that's a big 'however'... because I have neither had sexual relations with either gender nor dated anybody once in my life, I'm not going to go so far as to set these preferences in stone. Somewhere down the road (and I have a long road to travel), I could sleep with a woman but end up not liking it and "reclaim" my heterosexuality (sounds ridiculous perhaps, but I guess it's true what they say about sexuality being more fluid in women than in men). Or... I could date a man but end up not truly feeling him as much as I did initially, or have some bad experience, and go lesbian. I dunno... there are several potential ways my sexuality could change at some point in my life, but for now, as I said at the start of this post, I know what I FEEL, and you wanted a story, buddy, so there ya go. lol



whilst what you wrote was fascinating, you signature is what seized my interest. Long live Nine Inch Nails. Welcome. hug
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Reply #128 posted 02/28/08 3:22pm

squiddyren

benyamin said:

whilst what you wrote was fascinating, you signature is what seized my interest. Long live Nine Inch Nails. Welcome. hug


Indeed. biggrin hug
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Reply #129 posted 02/28/08 3:23pm

Imago

squiddyren said:

benyamin said:

whilst what you wrote was fascinating, you signature is what seized my interest. Long live Nine Inch Nails. Welcome. hug


Indeed. biggrin hug

You're the girl that lives in Bartow, just 20 minutes down Hwy 60 from me, aren't you? confuse


Tampa has a pretty active GLT scene, despite Hillsborough county. Once you turn 18, the nightlife here is good for that too.
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Reply #130 posted 02/28/08 3:28pm

squiddyren

Imago said:

squiddyren said:



Indeed. biggrin hug

You're the girl that lives in Bartow, just 20 minutes down Hwy 60 from me, aren't you? confuse


Tampa has a pretty active GLT scene, despite Hillsborough county. Once you turn 18, the nightlife here is good for that too.


Yessuh. biggrin

You actually cross my mind from time to time, Dan, because I think it's pretty interesting that a fellow orger (a very popular and active orger at that) lives so close to me.
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Reply #131 posted 02/28/08 3:43pm

Imago

squiddyren said:

Imago said:


You're the girl that lives in Bartow, just 20 minutes down Hwy 60 from me, aren't you? confuse


Tampa has a pretty active GLT scene, despite Hillsborough county. Once you turn 18, the nightlife here is good for that too.


Yessuh. biggrin

You actually cross my mind from time to time, Dan, because I think it's pretty interesting that a fellow orger (a very popular and active orger at that) lives so close to me.

When you turn 18, I'll take you out sometime. Tampa is designed for youth. lol
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Reply #132 posted 02/28/08 4:49pm

benyamin

Imago said:

squiddyren said:



Yessuh. biggrin

You actually cross my mind from time to time, Dan, because I think it's pretty interesting that a fellow orger (a very popular and active orger at that) lives so close to me.

When you turn 18, I'll take you out sometime. Tampa is designed for youth. lol


Do not trust this man.

Christ you were born in 1990! disbelief and I think I'm young!
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Reply #133 posted 02/28/08 6:47pm

Anxiety

benyamin said:

Imago said:


When you turn 18, I'll take you out sometime. Tampa is designed for youth. lol


Do not trust this man.

Christ you were born in 1990! disbelief and I think I'm young!


by 1990 i was well on my path to substance abuse and chronic whoring. wow. i feel like iggy pop's nutsac now. sigh
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Reply #134 posted 02/29/08 5:26am

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benyamin said:

Imago said:


When you turn 18, I'll take you out sometime. Tampa is designed for youth. lol


Do not trust this man.

Christ you were born in 1990! disbelief and I think I'm young!

lol
Love
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Reply #135 posted 02/29/08 8:44am

MIGUELGOMEZ

Anxiety said:

benyamin said:



Do not trust this man.

Christ you were born in 1990! disbelief and I think I'm young!


by 1990 i was well on my path to substance abuse and chronic whoring. wow. i feel like iggy pop's nutsac now. sigh




That has got to be the funniest thing I heard you say!!!!! falloff
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Reply #136 posted 03/04/08 9:48am

Imago

benyamin said:

Imago said:


When you turn 18, I'll take you out sometime. Tampa is designed for youth. lol


Do not trust this man.

Christ you were born in 1990! disbelief and I think I'm young!



brick
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Reply #137 posted 03/13/08 6:47pm

Imago

onenitealone said:

Like I said in my original post, it's really hard to describe to people what the coming out process is like. The self-doubt, the fear of how others may react, potential rejection, being something different to what you already know, opening up to something that will completely change your life. It's bloody scary!

It's like: Remember everything you know about yourself and where you stand, what you think, what you like?? Okay, take that, throw it away and now do this. Go! eek And to get to that point - just within yourself - can be agonising. Then you have to go and tell other people?! disbelief

I know, when I came out, I made the mistake of thinking "Aha! That's what it's all about!", thinking everything would click into place. After years of being single, I automatically assumed that that guy would come straight round the corner, we'd get married have a baby, call him Nate... you know, the full works. WRONG. lol I still don't know where this mysterious guy is. confused But as one chapter of your life ends, it opens up an whole new set of issues. Maybe that goes for ANY significant change in your life, I don't know...

You can take so many things for granted in your life, when you stop to notice, it can be a real wake up call. nod For example, growing up, I assumed that at this stage of my life I'd be married, 'settled', have kids, etc.. And I clearly remember - several months after coming out, in fact - where I suddenly realised that was unlikely to happen. omfg Logically, it makes complete sense. Yet I literally hadn't thought that far or processed it in that way - it was like: "Hmmmm, I'm gay... so that means I like men... hmmm... what's for dinner tonight?.... Oh shit! I'm never going to get married/have kids!!". omfg I would get these little lightbulb moments, now and again, where my entire sense of self would shift and I'd have something *else* to consider. Coming out is not always plain sailing; as I say, you walk out into something new, but have to deal with the issues that come your way on that particular path.

If there's anyone going through that right now, and they're reading this thread, just have faith in yourself and remember you're not alone. It can be difficult nod but, ultimately, I think these things make you stronger and give you a heightened sense of self-awareness. Something some people would benefit from. wink hug Oh, and at least you get to have sex with people you actually fancy. woot! lol That's got to be worth something. lol



Oh please! talk to the hand

I'm that guy Alun razz
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