paintedlady said:

Uh-uuuuuh Painted!!! You CANNOT be doing that !!!

paintedlady said:[quote] At this entire thread..... uh, but I agree with Teacher, Rhonnie, us gisls gotta do our thing too.... I would never sleep with my friend's current man or even a friends ex without making sure that my girl is OK with it first, but, other than that... no ring? IT IS ON!

Ottensen said:

Why?

Tell Boris I want to lick him from head to toe.

paintedlady said:

have at it...

don't roll like that.

I think its foul and believe me, I've thought about this alot lately.

karma is a bitch.

Rhondab said:

Read my mind.

Rhondab said:

It's just a girlfriend....not a WIFE!!

Rhondab said:

I've learned that men lie to get what they want... if I tell them I don't care that they have a girlfriend, then that is when the truth comes out. I decide then if he is worth it or not.

Being cheated on all my life, and I don't cheat, never did, so I guess I've been jaded,
but that won't stop me from seeing that the reality is
when you find a connection it is always worth exploring if the man is not married,
life is just too short for regret.

That being said, if I feel that he loves another (instinct usually tells me), even if he is not with her then he is not worth the time, he is already taken.
[Edited 2/28/08 7:33am]

paintedlady said:

Teacher said:

You are so freakin' awesome.

Stymie said:

Whaps All Around!!!

Whap whap whap whap whap!!!

paintedlady said:

Hell to the yeah!


I thought Dex would appreciate the sentiment.

Ivy

Teacher said:

paintedlady said:

But when you mention the ring being a primary force in what deters you from pursuing a man, that says to me that you don't consider a relationship valid or committed unless the previously connected couple in question has a government sanctioned written contract or...

paintedlady said:

With all due respect, because one day you might fuck around with the wrong couple and find your face sliced up Teresa Saldana style by the woman you carelessly hurt and disregarded in your quest for pleasure.

Not tryin' to be funny, but I actually discussed this topic with a myriad of women today...a lot of folks don't look at this laissez fraire attitude too kindly as it intereres with their lifetime emotional investment, whether they've signed a marriage decree or not.

Just sayin...watch'cha self out there, Lady

Ottensen said:

Hold up... who said I'm talking about just sex? If I meet somebody who I REALLY think I could be happy with for the rest of my life, why should I leave that only based on the fact that the person is in a relationship? I NEVER said anything about just sex, we're probably all in agreement that just sex is NEVER worth the hassle of getting in the middle of any relationship for. Love though, that's another matter. Those of you who condemn others views on things on this thread seem to feel a need to trivialise our needs so that we're lesser beings who'll fuck anything that moves. That's just stupid but very much like how women think.

what was this thread about, again?

KidaDynamite said:

Ottensen said:

She oughta be slicin' her man up.

Ottensen said:

Lifetime? Listen who said anything about fuckin' a man that really loved another woman? If he loved that woman he wouldn't push up on me, let her deal with him.

And sorry, any woman that is cheated on needs to take her issue up with the man that decides to cheat on his "love", I was cheated on and I always went after the one that hurt me, the GUY, not the woman.

So if I get with a guy that lies to me and tries to keep a girlfriend while he is with me that's his ass, and if she has a problem then she can take that up with him.

Now as far as threats go, if I am threatened, I can, and always have handled myself well, I do not go down easy, and I have fought girls with razors before. I do not have a scratch on me. I am not worried, that's what the law is for.
She'll be the one in jail while I'm fucking her man. HARD.

paintedlady said:

Y'all goin' to hell.

violator said:

paintedlady said:

Oh shit! LOL! How did we go from me throwing my panties at Boris' married ass to bitches slicin' and dicin'???? LOL!
[Edited 2/28/08 13:19pm]

SCNDLS said:

That's what i'm sayin....WHAT THE HELL!!!

Ottensen said:

No, if a man has a girlfriend and he loves her I will not pursue a relationship with that man, and experience will tell me if he is lying about his feeling for her. I do not and will not ever want a man that belongs to another woman, whether by marriage or by heart, even if he is alone.

Now if a guy likes his girlfriend,dating for say 6 months or so and is "in love" but doesn't feel like she's the "one", because he's still trying to feel her out.... or say he's been with a woman and sees that it won't work out then he is fair game, as long as he doesn't keep us in the closet.

I do not seek out men that have girlfriends, or try to prey on men that tend to "emotionally" cheat, I am an honest woman, and open about my life, I will not be kept as a secret, or choose to involve myself with a man that has made a home with anther woman.

But unmarried, living alone,and still looking.... is fine with me.

violator said:

paintedlady said:

Personally...I don't roll like that. If its high morals, so be it. Its about respect, period. This has always lend itself to man-sharing to me and its sad to me that women have to feel like they NEED to push up on another woman's man because he's NOT MARRIED. WTF is that mess. For a woman to say, Oh well her man cheated, she needs to deal with him and YOU knew he had a woman.....ugh. This is truly why HIV is what it is, people don't respect relationships.

Ya'll some untrustworthy folks. I'd never bring a man around ya'll.

This is why you have so many women that don't trust each other.


I personally wouldn't do this to another woman even if I don't like her. Its just lame, in my opinion. Believe me, this is a CURRENT issue. I'm not pushing up on another woman's man no matter how hard he is pushing up on me. I've settled this very issue recently.
[Edited 2/28/08 13:35pm]

Stymie said:

you think this way too.....?

lawdy....

DexMSR said:

yeah but Dex, you don't believe in marriage.....you'll always have "just a girlfriend".....right?