chocolate1 said:

Or maybe they just didn't see it right away...

I'm really sorry about your father's diagnosis.
There are treatments available, surgical, medication etc. I'll check webmd....

It's good to have a father who is a hero. I'm sorry

This link is from the American Cancer society:
http://www.cancer.org/doc...=LRN&dt=44

Here's one link that covers treatments:
http://www.rush.edu/rumc/...0257545521

There's also a guidebook, with resources on where to find a specialist in your area and the latest in research data:
http://www.medifocus.com/...ddercancer

The better informed you are, the easier it will be to ask questions, and make choices in treatment. Be sure to have a referal to a urology specialist. Get a 2nd opinion if needed.
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Stay strong and give your father big hugs, hugs are a good way to share without words

be strong for the rest of your fam

gemini13 said:

im sorry

I'm sorry to hear that. My prayers are with you and your family.

Im sad to hear about ure Dad and if its any comfort I know exactly how u are feeling right now My mother passed from non-hodgekins lymphoma and by the time the found it, it was well advanced

Tell him everything u ever wanted to tell him Ure not loosing ure sanity, even though it feels that way. I was incredibly close to my mother, I still miss her but I know she's always with me

There are alot of people that know exactly how u feel right now. My heart goes out to u and ure family

I hope you're holding up okay. Really sorry to hear this.

gemini13 said:

I've lost both mine - one to cancer, the other to emphysema. I know what it's like.

I pray your father will be all right. Stay strong for him!

I'm so sorry.

I told you before but I will tell you again

My husband had prostate cancer
I am here if you want to talk

find a local support group as soon as you can.they can be very helpful with people that are living the experience as well to share

Please please take good care of yourself you will be needed

CarrieLee said:

Exactly! They have many new, even experimental treatments now. My son's grandmother on his dad's side was given two months to live last year. They told us she would not make it until Christmas.

She had advanced lung cancer from asbestos. I was ready to fly down for her funeral, but they called and told us she decided to try a new experimental therapy and she is still here. Doing much better. Two of the tumors are completely gone. Don't give up, and there are also "support" groups for family members in every city. Call if you need to vent and no one else understands. I know they are strangers, but they may help.

I know we talked earlier, but I want you to remember that this is not the end.

And just say the word, and I'll hop in my car and go down there. I'll take you to the beach, shopping, dinner, drinks, movies, whatever. Call me anytime: you've always got someone to vent to. I'm two hours away, tops.

You're not alone and you never will be. It will be okay.

My aunt was given until July 06' when she was diagnosed with lung cancer that had spread to her adrenal glands and lymph nodes.
She is still surviving with it

Love and support to you and your family from both of us.

I'm so sorry Gemini

Stay strong for your friend

sorry

Cancer sucks!!

Prayin' for you dad!

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

My thoughts and prayers are with him, you, and your family.

Do your best to remain positive... There's hope..always hope.. And things might not be as bad as they appear at this point..

I haven't been here for a couple days and just saw this. I'm terribly sorry about your father, I lost mine a few years ago and still think about him everyday. No matter what happens, your father will be with you, he is a part of you,

Everyone is right, don't give up the good fight. There are so many things they can do now and they are discoverng more everyday. Just try to make sure he is getting the gold standard of medical care.

My prayers and positive thoughts are with you.
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I'll be thinking of you and your dad ...

Try very hard to stay strong and positive for your dad. As a cancer survivor myself, I can tell you that it made me feel worse at diagnosis to be around so many people that were crying and upset, and thought I was going to die.

I wanted to know everyone who had ever survived from cancer, particularly agressive forms. It's really encouraging to hear other people's faith in my healing.

And remember, no cancer is 100% terminal. There's always statistics that show certain percentages that survive after so many years. Even if it's only 2%, why couldn't your dad be in that 2%?

BTW...I've been stage IV since June 2004. I currently have NO SIGNS of cancer.

With a combination of medical advances in cancer treatment, good doctors, faith and a loving family, I believe your dad can and will survive!

Thanks to all of you! I was really down yesterday. I am much better today. The issue was that we thought he was going to be ok based on what my dad said, and according to the doctor. The truth was, though, that my dad was lying to everyone about what the doctor was saying to him. He didn't want us to worry, I guess. So, it was quite a blow to me that things weren't as great as I had thought, and I had to process it.

Thanks again to everyone!

Beloved, I am sorry to hear your father has prostrate cancer.

Arm yourself with knowledge about this cancer, to fend off some of the fears.
Support him in any way that you can think of...go to doctor visits, go out on dates with him or set aside time to spend with him - one on one. Make him laugh a lot...there is laughter therapy to help ease pain. There are natural therapies for cancers, here’s a website: http://www.raysahelian.co...ancer.html

My mom battled cancer for thirteen years. The year before her battle ended (1995), she was in the Interferon-Alpha group at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital, NYC. This natural protocol slowed the cancer, so that she was able to have a better “quality of life”. Before this she had several surgeries. What killed my mom was not the cancer but sepsis. The bedsore she had on her posterior became a type 4 and it’s bacteria shut down the only kidney she had left.

So Gemini, do all that you can for your dad and have for him the best medical and natural treatments his insurance can provide and money can buy. Most importantly do not allow this, this thing (cancer) to consume your living. Face it with knowledge, all the strength you can find and not for a moment allow your precious dad, to witness a loved one (you) being taken down a path (drinking) that will effect his health more than the cancer might. Fight all fear and anger with love and a spirit that will not bow down to their companions. Your health will be effected. Trust me, beloved. @)-}-----



Just read your "thank you" reply...
Mom did the same thing...not tell us the truth for 8 years of the 13! She didn't want to worry us. Her answer to all the doctor appointments = "It's my bodyaches, don't worry." Deep inside I knew there was something wrong, too many appointments. We let her know that while that was kind of her we didn't want her facing this by herself, any longer. My sisters & I took turns going to each appointment. God bless parents.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm dealing with my mom's illness too, not cancer but equally bad and if you want to talk orgnote me any time.