She makes me feel angry and stupid and she always yells alot and she never really listens to me and she also makes me feel that I let her down sometimes

nothing is like a mother's love. wish mine was still here.

Fury said:

..... I love her but, I hate being around her sometimes she one time told me I was nothing and threw a suitcase at me.

NastradumasKid said:

seriously, although she probably loves you a whole heap, your personalities might be a bad match. I've got one kid, that I adore (probably more than the other 2 - controversial!!!) but he gets on my nerves a LOT, he is too similar to me

NastradumasKid said:

ok, that's NOT good how old is she?

ZombieKitten said:

almost 48

NastradumasKid said:

maybe I should live with my dad...I miss him

NastradumasKid said:

how old are you?

living with your father is an option, but maybe that's just how it is with your mother. I know mines gets on my nerves sometimes, which is why i'm finally moving out , but sometimes, if you don't have anywhere to go, you have to endure things like you described until you are mature enough and financially secure to move out on your own and away from her.

Sometimes space between you and your parents helps to strenghthen the relationship.

Fury said:

heres 2 that

NastradumasKid said:

What precipitates the yelling?

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In the end, your mom loves you. She HAS to, its instinct. Some moms wouldn't, but thats rare.
But, a personality clash would make someone start doing some whack ass things. What makes her mad?

I can't count how many times I've yelled at my kids. I bet they felt bad, too, but the situations were justifiable. Having friends over late, and keeping me up, when I had to be up early for work; borrowing my credit cards/$ without permission; leaving the door open so the dogs got out and have to be located...the list is long. I love them, and they don't seem to hold it against me.
One shouldn't have to yell, but sometimes a normal voice doesn't work.
Where I grew up, Italian, Irish, German families, all the kids were yelled at. Beat, too. This was the 1960's. No one felt unloved, just a little "sore". Whatever it was you did wrong, back then, you just didn't do it again.....unless you wanted a whipping.

Fury said:

Exactly, wish mine was here too

iceblue07 said:

I don't really get in trouble it's just that she's always been crazy like for as long as I could remember it's just getting WORST

My mother is dead.....

how else could i have become.....





.....entangled

NastradumasKid said:

Is she stressed or angry over something? I know some parents *cough*mine*cough* Can just take their anger out on EVERYONE when they are mad over something else.

tell her how you feel.

NastradumasKid said:

Ask her...communicate with her...hug her like she won't be here tomorrow...you only have one and if mine was here I would do all of these things.

Life is short.

Fury said:

That's not true in all cases though. I love my mom and I know she loves me as well, but there nver was e real bond between the two of us as it usually is between mother and daughter and it never will be.

BlackAdder7 said:

It's your mother's job to make you feel angry and stupid. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Chances are, she's trying to teach you something - like how to take responsibility for your actions.

Trust me, what you feel now is nothing compared to what life is going to hand you when you're an adult. Your mom is just preparing you for that. At least it's coming from someone who cares enough to do it - instead of trying to be your friend and turning you into just another little wimp.

Genesia said:

also appreciate your mother please. I lost mine 15 years ago. Every day is a chance for you to make things right with her.

NastradumasKid said:

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My mother made me feel the same way when I was a kid. There's a reason I moved out two months after graduating high school. We speak and everything, but I'm REALLY glad she's 3000 miles away. Seeing her last year at my sister's wedding confirmed that fact.