I don't keep things of exes. not because of painful memories or anything like that but just that I tend to not dwell on past things like that. Honestly I don't hold on to things I don't care about anymore-especially romantically. I generally consider it clutter. I have one photo left of my ex (and my kids' father) out of everything. and I only kept that because my kids wanted it.

evenstar said:

I know, it's pretty crazy.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

i can totally toss pictures

maybe i don't have a soul?

evenstar said:

i do it without thinking twice

evenstar said:

I can't throw out pics! I pretty much hold on to everything.

Except recently I got rid of a bunch of old emails from my past relationships and trysts. Some went back about 5 years. I never read them or anything. I just kept them for some weird reason.

I've thrown most momentos away, except for a few things that are important to me.

evenstar said:

Well I was more thinking of pictures with me in them but as a general rule I don't believe in tossing pictures ever

heybaby said:

Me too

but I understand why some would. and thats them. My brother's wife told him that she wanted him to burn old pics that he had of him and his exes, some were just harmless prom pictures. I think he's crazy if he does it. to keep the peace I advised him to just let my dad or mom keep them.

heybaby said:

i just think the different reasons why people keep them are interesting. & my mom totally still has prom pictures prom/dance pics are one thing, but i think i've only personally kept the pictures from the year i went with a friend.

heybaby said:

He needs to tell her to fuck off controlling bitch

I do not keep a single thing besides memories--and I try to get rid of those too.

heybaby said:

I had an ex who's new gf ripped up all the pics of him and I together.

I seriously don't get that kinda of behaviour.

JustErin said:

In these pics....did you 2 have any clothes on?

mdiver said:

YES!!

Geez...

JustErin said:

Just figured that might be why she was pissed

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I must concur. but she's not controlling in the least just insecure to a degree. btw he's not going to do that

sure, it's part of our lives. Maybe not on the mantle, not beside my bed, but just because it's the past doesn't mean I want to eradicate it from my life.

JustErin said:

i can see not wanting them like, framed and displayed around the house or something , but if he wants to keep them that's his choice.

I have kept things...and got rid of things. It really depends on what the item is.

I have a shoebox in the back of my closet with cards, letters and photos from my ex. She was the first and only woman I ever loved. The box is sealed shut never to be opened, but never to be thrown away either.

heybaby said:

I

WILL

DO

IT

FOR

HIM!

sextonseven said:

thats all kinds of sweet but I feel sorry for the newbie

heybaby said:

She'll have to learn to respect the box.

That was my first love, I can't just throw all that stuff away.

sextonseven said:

keep the box! Some day you'll be glad you did.

I don't see the difference between keeping some stuff in a box or keeping some stuff in out memories & in our hearts. Any grown up knows we have a past and some of that past was really, really good, and we'll never forget it.

I wouldn't want my girl to throw away pics or little momentos of ex boyfriends. I like to know about her past & see who she dated. And I'm not insecure about her feelings, so it doesn't bother me at all.

sextonseven said:

And no woman should expect you to do that.

Serious said:

exactly. some women cross the line of thinking that they can be your mother as well

heybaby said:

Some women!?!

I keep every myspace message I receive, same for orgnotes or MSN conversations ...