eraclito said:

I am making you pay for that call on my phone bastid

gyro34 said:

Gyro has your sister always been reserved? Is she this way with everyone, or just you?

It may not be that your sister doesn't trust you, but possibly (from your description with the "test") has an issue with self-esteem and didn't want to say anything to anyone in fear that she might not do well on the test, which would therefore cause others to see her as "not good enough". There may be reasons that your sister is very reserved that have nothing to do with you, but everything to do with possible events that you may not be aware of. Then again, she may just be "wired that way". What I mean is that there are some people that are naturally reserved, that are naturally private and have never shared openly with others.

My sister and I are 7 years apart in age. She was 5 months old when our mother died, and I took care of her a lot (even while my mom was alive). We ended up moving in with an aunt and uncle when I was 8 and she was 1. They raised her like she was their own. I (according to my aunt) was already set in my ways and there was nothing they could do with me. My sister and I are totally different people with different values and ideas. She still lives within a block of where she was raised and has never left that area. She's satisified with no education (dropped out of school to get married and raise a family) and to continue to live in the same area without taking any type of trips outside of the state (she's never been outside of 200 miles of where she was raised). I am the one that attempts to maintain contact with her, she never calls. When we do talk, there is a huge gulf between us because we have absolutely nothing in common. Usually we just talk about our kids. While I would love to have a closer relationship with my sister, I realize that who I am is so far separate from who she is, that my sister would never nurture a closer relationship. She has never approved of my "wild ways" (Zen Buddhist, wear jeans, wear a swimming suit when I go swimming, wear make up) and considers me temptation personified. She has 3 teenage sons.

A funny incident to explain: When my daughter was around 8 months old I went to visit her and my daughter needed changing. I asked my sister if she had somewhere where I could change her. When she didn't answer, I just laid my daughter on a blanket on the floor and was getting ready to change her. Her sons came in the room at that time and my sister jumped up like she'd been shot and told me to take my daughter to her room. She told me in the room "My sons have never seen a female, even an infant one, and as long as they are in my house they never will. Once they see what a woman looks like down there, that will be all they think about and all they'll want and they won't focus on their careers." We're talking about a baby girl that will somehow tempt her sons and make them focus on sex. The careers she was talking about: her oldest son dropped out of school and is now helping some old man on his farm, her middle son dropped out of school and works in a saw mill and goes logging with his dad, her youngest son is about to drop out of school because he has been logging with his dad.

So my sister and I are completely different people with completely different interests and the only thing we share in common is DNA.

nah..I pass on my brother.

he's a jerk.

gyro34 said:

Yes, she does keep a lot to herself.
For example, her fiance was killed al ittle over two years ago. She was still mourning a year & a half later, still hurting badly over it and none of us knew. She broke down and told me one day when she couldn't hold it in anymore. I wish she would have told me. I would have tried to help her as best I could.

Genesia said:

I can relate. I am also the eldest. I've got a similar situation with my mom and my sister. My mom expects us to tell her everything about ourselves. But there are things we don't know about her and she doesn't talk about them. And information tends to travel really easily from my sister to my mother. Every time this happens, I get so upset! Then, I spend so much time beating myself up for sharing stuff with my sister that I thought she would keep secret. When she shares something with me I always keep it secret.

I'm the sibling that doesn't share, he tells me about all the crap he's doing, who he's seeing etc., but he and the rest of the family have no idea what's going on with me.

gyro34 said:

Yes, sometimes I feel like there's a wall, but it's a wall of my own making, if I let it be.

When we're all together under the same roof for any amount of times, we bicker like we're still teenagers growing up together. And none of is is younger than 25 now

LittleRedCorvette said:

Thanks for sharing, LittleRedCorvette.
That is a very inspiring post. It has allowed me to see my sister in a new light.
My sister is like that with all the members of my family. Since, she doesn't talk about how she relates to her friends, I have no way of knowing how is she with them. It is difficult for me accept the way she is and not take it personally. I just realized... that this is the struggle my mom has with me. She has never accepted me for who I am. She tried very hard to prevent me from having a separate identity. But she did not succeed.

mdiver said:

hell i will even pay the line rental for those ten minutes i used the phone too

ivy is worth it..

eraclito said:

Ok ....Donnie is after you Ivy..better watchit.

1sexymf said:

So sad she had to go through so much emotional pain. If only she would've opened up...
I get it now. Yep, that's just like my sister.
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I like this thread, nice to know i am not alone.

to you all

mdiver said:

So be it.

He should have never let me see him smile....

Whitnail said:

Well you cannot pick your blood relatives.

statuesqque said:

Does he annoy you when he's telling you all that stuff about himself?

eraclito said:

Your voice is soooo freakin' sexy.

Stymie said:

Get your sexy ass over here

Raze said:

That's interesting.

Whitnail said:

Thanks.

mdiver said:

If the planets line up, then I'm there in 2 months.

Stymie said:

Thank you! My sister is a very cold woman! She had never really liked the idea of my parents adopting me.

Stymie said:

so this smiling thing really works, huh..

lol

Stymie said:

OMG

MoniGram said:

I'm sorry.
Sounds like a very jealous sibling. It is not right to take the anger she felt toward your parents on you.

eraclito said:

You better be smiling as your ass gets out the door mister...



Yes.. all of the ladies like your smile..now GO!!!!

eraclito said:

Keep them pearly whites covered muthafucka

shanti0608 said:

i'm gone

gyro34 said:

I agree...like I said, she is a very cold woman. It's okay. She just hates the fact that I act more like our parents, and I am the one who is adopted and she isn't.

eraclito said:

I am so infatuated with you since that pic with you and Valory.