A girl at my work has recently thawed out and is talking to me now. She didnt for ages and I dont know why. We get on like a house on fire like we did when I first joined. Apparently she does with everyone if you ask her to do some additional/demanding work. I dont like it being ignored per se.

I think acting on other's behavior, depends on how much of a "problem" that behavior is. Does it affect you or others adversely. Is it unsafe for anyone? Does it prevent or interfere with progress? etc....

xplnyrslf said:

Quite! It would really unnerve me if someone ignored my instructions regarding a health/risk hazard!

Does it unnerve you when people seem to ignore you?

Only if it's someone I care about.

Are you often right or are you just imagining it half of the time?

I don't usually have a problem with friends or family ignoring me.

Do you confront them if they are making you feel that way?

I'd confront them and ask them if I did something to upset them. If they say no, I'll just let it go. When I don't hear from people I just figure that they are busy with their lives.

Do you yourself ignore people purposely or confront them if there's a problem?

I ignore people I don't like. As for friends/family, if there is a problem I'll confront them.

JDInteractive said:

That's not being ignored. That's her response to being asked to do additional work. She's angry. It's also immature.
There's nothing wrong with being upset with a co-worker, but the bottom line is this: civility and politeness are expected, no matter what.
Not speaking to another, makes the work environment unpleasant.
I'd definitely confront her (privately) the next time it happens. Tell her, you understand she's upset about the additional work, but it has to be done.
I had a co-worker who didn't speak to me for 2 months over something. I complained to my boss who did nothing, then made an appointment with the HR department. After the meeting, her behavior changed immediately. She was wrong.
She also caused problems with other staff.

In one situation, an aide did something unsafe with a patient, then left for a 50 minute lunch break,(we only get 30 min) while the rest of us were too busy to eat. I "allegedly" yelled at her when she returned, and it was reported. I was reprimanded for not communicating well, and it showed up on my evaluation.
I was PO'd with my boss. I still spoke to her, though.

In conclusion, it's better to ignore someone in certain cases, than be overly expressive...
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If I don't really care for the person i will just let it go (whatever "it" is) and ignore them. Otherwise i will talk it through. I will often ignore certain situations because it can hurt too much to bring them up.

PREDOMINANT said:

me 2

Does it unnerve you when people seem to ignore you? it depends on who they are, if it's someone I know then yes, it does... but if it's not, then no it doesn't.

Are you often right or are you just imagining it half of the time? it's about half and half when I'm right and when I've imagined the whole thing.

Do you confront them if they are making you feel that way? with someone I know yes, I will. but if they don't respond or answer me and continue to ignore me then it's clear to me that they've stopped talking to me for whatever reason.

Do you yourself ignore people purposely or confront them if there's a problem? I do sometimes, though I try not too because it is rude. with people I know I'll them know the reason the next time we talk or whatever. other people usually call back and if there's a problem then let's deal with it.
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1. NO
2.Yes
3.Yes
4.I confront them and then ignore the people I don't like. But I tell them I don't like them first, because I don't want there to be any misunderstandings.

I often feel ignored. I don't say anything, for the most part, because I don't want to come off as whiny. And there's always a chance that I'm just being paranoid. I usually ignore back. Most of the time, I'm just being taken for granted. I'm not being ignored on purpose.

Now if I'm upset with someone, I say as little as I have to. It's mostly so I can cool down and try to put what I'm mad about into perspective. Once I have my cool off time, I start talking again. No one has ever confronted me when I do this so it's probably not even apparent that I'm mad at them.

JD, you've been ignoring me and it hasn't unnerved me.

People in my class often ignore me, but that's probably because I don't put up with their bullshit and I do ignore people myself

Geez u mean I actually have to answer something sensibly? U know thats gonna be hard for me right?

Okay in all seriousness...
If someone I dont know is ignoring me I dont pay any attention. I guess u could say I "ignore" their behaviour
If it is someone I know, like recently my neighbour, when given the oprotunity I confront them. I cornered her in a hallway of a shopping complex and asked her why she was not talking to e. Apparently it wasnt me personally. My husband had been running his mouth about her, and we sorted it out. She dosent ignore me anymore
Do I always think Im right?? Oh good Lord no

I usually dont ignore people if there is a problem. If I have a problem with them I let them know.

If its Hubby...well...I tell him what the problem is...then give him the old silent treatment for a couple of hours...never lasts long...I HAVE to talk

JDInteractive said:

chillichocaholic said:

queen of confrontation!!!