xplnyrslf said:

im planning to leave everything to my cat.

my cat is terrific marriage material, by the way.

Marriage material means both parties need to reveal traits. It's not for everyone. And if folks are marriage material and their sig. other is not, it is a combination for disaster. Like the female stalks, slashes tires, or the man pops up at your job...

I found that I am Holly Housewife all day. Since moving in with boyfriend, I see that the wife or mom wife traits are there. I am finishing my MBA and have stashed enough money to hold down the house and concentrate on school and look for a GOOD job and not something quick that will make me miserable; plus as part of my studies and inspiration, develop my own business....it's so exciting...I digress.

Dude...I'm way too holly housewife, I have to get busier outside. Familiarity breeds contempt. But he's definitely one that has had his fun and was/is ready to embark on the team effort in life. Just saying, marriage material to me, is complimentary attitudes on marriage and life together.

DexMSR said:

No matter how great a catch a person thinks they are, others have another idea.

eraclito said:

I was gonna say that.

You see we even think alike what's your phone# again?!

If I cant presently answer that question then it probably means at the moment I am not huh?

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

take my hand, let's walk the beach.....

heybaby said:

honestly, when I re-read my post it seemed like overkill (to me), when a highfive would've been sufficient. plus, I was in a really nice state of crazy yesterday from lack of sleep.

abierman said:

Deal....

Stymie said:

I want love. and lots of it. Don't care where in the world.

ArielB said:

you make me wanna cry Ariel.

Stymie said:

It's the last thing I want to do, Ivy. Unless it's a cry of joy after I paid a visit downtown

ArielB said:

I wanna cry because what you said was so beautiful.

The other part:

I'm not

DexMSR said:

in my case it wasn't a timing issue, in all honesty after you take away all the bullshit covering I wasn't who they wanted or they weren't who I wanted. the main consensus among all those who know me and those who think they do is that my standards are to high, I'm not open enough and don't let people in, I don't have enough or any middle ground, I'm too independent, strong minded, not needy or vulnerable enough,. I don't allow for people to make mistakes or change their minds about things, which isn't true because I do, I just hold people accountable (my way) for the things I'm concerned with and matter to me and the list goes on.

so it appears that I'm the reason why I'm not married, no one wants to deal with someone like me. not unless I change a few things about myself but then I wouldn't be me, I’d be what they created, what or who they want me to be and not who I really am…. in my view. in any event, I'm not for the faint of heart.

statuesqque said:

I love your answer. In m case, I keep hearing how great a person I am and then there's the "but" part. At this juncture, if it happens, it happens. If not, I can be very happily single.

I'm just not doing it!

It's so unnecessary to me!!

It's about the committment to work, not a title or piece of paper....

DexMSR said:

I would honestly have to agree!

DexMSR said:

I would make a good wife, but I have always said that just because you have a piece of paper between you, it doesn't mean the other person isn't going to walk away or leave.

1sexymf said:

That little "piece of paper" seems to scare a hell of a lot of people, I'm not talking about anyone here but just generally. I find it a tad ironic that people dismiss it as a piece of paper, something inconsequential yet wont get married, if its so unimportant whats the big deal? Obviously its not just "little piece of paper"...just saying.

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LleeLlee said:

Very well put, lady.

LleeLlee said:

Nope, it's a little rubics-cube and if you turn the pieces just right, Pinhead will appear and dice you into pieces.

Imago said:

I totally forgot about this movie, and haven't seen it in years

LleeLlee said:

LleeLlee said:

You're very right. Everyone has to decide it for him/herself. When my husband was my boyfriend I always said I didn't wanted to marry. I was afraid of being tied by means of this piece of paper.
We have a spicy (with words) relationship and I always wanted to be able to leave him if I couldn't handle it anymore. We were together for almost 8,5 years when I suddenly wanted to marry him. Something hit me and it seemed to be love and acceptance. I thought, nothing will change and even this stupid paper doesn't hold us if we want to split up. Realizing this I really wanted to marry him, being able to call him my husband and wearing his ring as a symbol of love for him. It felt so different than the friendshipring I had worn for 8,5 years. It went deep into my heart.
That's when I also wanted his child which I never wanted because I had enough problems with myself.
Being married is only worth something if YOU want it to be worth something.

Isn't that the thing with everything in life? If we don't give it a meaning, everything is meaningless. Friendship, work, money, love, even the org....
We aren't here on earth for nothing.
Today (again) someone threw herself in front of the train. That's when I think I'm glad I give meaning to a lot of meaningless things in life, she obviously didn't.

Stymie said:

I know, I get that. I'm at the same point.

my junk.

CJanssen said:

Dude, that is deep. And I can totally understand what you are saying.

Well, I am, after all, me...

KatSkrizzle said:

me too, I've only experienced it that deeply once.

DexMSR said:

Unfortunately, until fairly recently, not much. Or at least I didn't think so, so I hid it, buried it, hid FROM it. I've rediscovered what I've got in myself in the last several months.

Mental/emotional stability MOST of the time.
Actual ambition, though
Committment to my partner (and everyone else around me), even though it may not come off that way.
Intelligence, compassion, a sense of humor.
I'm an idealist in matters of the heart and the world. But I'm very realistic with practical matters.
Patience and a desire to better for others and myself (until recently, I didn't have that for myself).
The ability to hold down a job and a desire to do something every day to provide for myself and for my loved ones.
The ability to try to make bad situations work for me and for others and a faith that things will get better with some hard work.
Everything I have to give, I will give. Even if that isn't much, whether it's financially or emotionally, or whatever.

And about 500 other things I've realized about myself in the last several months, but blah blah blah. Whatever.
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