So, in my hemisphere, it's Friday, the end of the week. So, I'm thinking of the ends of things.

When you reach the end of something -- your wit's end over a problem, the end of a relationship, a job, your participation in an organization, for examples -- how well do you manage the change?

I don't mean to get all psychoanalytical and stuff, but I'm curious -- as the past few years have seen the successive ends of stuff in my life -- how healthily you approach change.

Do you run from change? Or do you embrace it in a "life's too short to wallow" kind of joie de vivre?

How do you approach... the end?




Red wisdom edit.
[Edited 2/1/08 15:53pm]

First!

That which does not kill me makes me stronger.

RodeoSchro said:

indeed.

By the way, your hidden message is showing...

ThreadBare said:

With a stiff one in one hand and a bottle of Courvosier in the other!

I can't tell you how I managed, but I can tell you that I did manage.

I'm always the least prepared emotionally, but I think I draw strength from somewhere, cause I don't usually fall to pieces. Not entirely anyway

In 2 years all my kids will be at school and I will go back to work. Which means the end of my life as a stay at home mum will come to an end, 10 years of this! I'm not exactly sure how I will deal with it, but I know that I will.

the only constant in this life is change.

I take several deep breaths and say it's out of my hands, it's suppose to happen or be this way. then I tell myself what does not kill me will only make me stronger, ending with "please jesus give me strength, Father"

it's apart of my everyday life...

ThreadBare said:

first i bum out and eat way too much chocolate. then, i resign myself to the fact that life grows progressively more and more depressing as we age. i mean, the older we get the more loved ones we have dying off, friends, family, dropping dead alllll around us. not to mention the older we get the more decrepit our bodies become.

other than that though, i have no problem with accepting end changes.

XxAxX said:

at least we will have lots of things to talk about like our multitudes of physical ailments

ZombieKitten said:

yes! we will sit around, drooling into our tea, chatting about our bowel mopvements (or lack of) and generally enjoying our old age.

One4All4Ever said:

Exactly! For instance, you weren't first this time!

One4All4Ever said:

my manager reminded me of this just this week.

I reflect like crazy in blogs, poetry, and sometimes art. I rarely talk to people about endings. I probably should. I'm not really a vocal person. My boyfriend changes that, though. He'll know when something is wrong and will nag at me calmly until I tell him. My father (when we are in get-along mode and he's patient) can be the same way. I dunno...I feel like my little problems and situations are only but a mustard seed against the rest of the world's problems. I'm only 22.
I cope, though. With the few problems I have. I think the hardest time I have with endings is when it's a relationship. That happened to me recently with the ending of a friendship that I assumed would last forever. It really hurt to know I was wrong, but...in the end it was for the best. I was literally at my wit's end with this person.

Ah well. All the endings and changes make for some good stories and a stronger character!!

i hate change. i seriously dread it, and so far every change i've been through i've been forced to accept.

LadyLuvSexxy said:

I suppose you're right but it would be nice to have something other than me and my strong character that's consistant in my life.

I am sorry threadbare. . I love you but I am reaching for the beginning of all kinds and things, and for me (as my fdear riends will agree) I am reaching for the start of the begining !!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

The strength that has grown within you.. damn, you KNOW I don't come out with these words, but you have captured something wonderful/beautiful.. things one only can you capture and see within, that frame and from that - I see a gift!

change...
i release all my feelings, if i keep my feelings towards the end inside, they'll only manifest in new beginnings, posing a a problem with moving on...

i cry, i sleep, i keep to myself and let it sink in...
...eventually i accept it - though i may not by entirely happy with it - and i move on...

...mind you it always sneaks up later on and haunts me (like today...funny you should post this) but i hold on and know tomorrow will/should be better.


i'm not saying it's healthy, but it's helped me thus far.

damn right it's the end of an era

evenstar said:

we shall overcome!
he'll be back

evenstar said:

dont get all personal

REDFEATHERS said:

when do we not get personal here on the .org?

REDFEATHERS said:

See, I totally like that perspective, too. I mean it less from a standpoint of "the end" (even though that's how I've framed this thread) and more about change itself.

Certainly, change brings beginnings. But, some things must end before those beginnings can arrive. Maybe it's a glass half-full/-empty, syntax deal.

We're on the same page, lady.

ahhh my dear threadbare

i would love to tell you that i embrace change as it's only going to lead to new paths and experiences in our lives. sure, that is true for some change. but other change i have been avoiding like the plague! it's the fear of the unknown i think. as is always the case, if i would just confront that scary unknown then it wouldn't lurk so big anymore.

i love and respect you. trust yourself. you are a wonderful person

emm said:

:swooningoveremmasusual:

Thank you, ma'am.

evenstar said:

aww, sweetie it'll be okay

With anything in my life I always apply the same idea: I don't worry or continue to mull over things that I cannot change or do anything about. I work towards the things I can change. And those things always incorporate ways in which I can make myself better or not make the same mistake. complaining and bitchin about the same thing over and over is not going to make it better. Move on.

RodeoSchro said:

I used to run from change. I did everything in my power to avoid thinking about and dreading and making change. I was terrified of it, even though I knew the changes would be better for me and everyone around me. Recently, massive change came about anyway, probably because of running from change (or running from doing better) and I'm no longer doing that. I'm embracing chanage. I'm looking forward to it. I'm making it my own and part of who I am, instead of burying my head in the sand and letting life pass me by. Many, many things have changed, are changing, and will change. I'm open to that. And I'm trying to make some really important ones happen now.

heybaby said: