For some reason I was thinking about the movie Cloverfield this morning, and something struck me that completely escaped me before: The lead male character's brother told him twice that he loved him -- once in a recording meant for him; once directly to his face... and neither of these was in a crisis moment. I thought how unusual.

I quickly considered my own life, and I thought about the males who've actually said the words "I love you" to me: my father; maybe my grandfather (I was so young when he died, I don't recall); several of my gay friends; only one of my straight male friends; I don't think my uncle said it; and never my brother or males cousins . Is this typical?

In your experience, do males tell other males "I love you"?
[Edited 1/28/08 9:23am]

I tell my friend 4 life that I love U Bro all the time when we talk and he does the same back !

IrrisistableRich said:

That's cool.

I usually only hear fathers tell their sons "I love You"

Hehehe. Most guys go like 'ermmmm' when you tell them you love them, esp when the guy saying it is gay.

veronikka said:

Same here.

HamsterHuey said:

It's funny: Because I'm out to my straight friends -- men's men to the core -- I suspect they accept me as having a layer of "weirdness" anyway , and so I don't care if I make them uncomfortable by saying I love them. They're generally cool with it. Yet only one has ever said it to me.
[Edited 1/28/08 9:11am]

My uncle says it to my brothers.
Before my grandfather died, he said it to his son and my brothers.
My friend tells his best friend he loves him.
And my brothers say it to each other everyday

DanceWme said:

I think that's great. That's the way it should be, IMHO.

I say it to all my male friends that I genuinely love.

when they are drunk... "I love you man".

shanti0608 said:

...right before they throw up on them to prove it, eh?
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Lammastide said:

Yeah i mean why not. If u feel that way, then hey.
I hate when men feel its too 'manly' to tell another male they love them.

Dont wait until its too late and then say "I wish I could've told him I loved him"

I've heard that before and its just sad.

Lammastide said:

exactly..

I hear it and say it to my homies all the time, mostly after a night out and we are all going our seperate ways

veronikka said:

only the ones in the church or to other family members... that's it.

Cloudbuster said:

To you I'd say; I would love to do ya.

I mean, that's the start of love, innit?

to my dad I say I love you to his face.

to some of the homies on the phone I say love ya man

to my homies in jail I write much love

To my brother and my partner. Biut not to my male friends (gay or straight)

Interesting you heard it in the Cloverfield movie. It was also done in the episode before the Season Finale of LOST and was a highlight of the episode.. LOST and Cloverfield are produced by the same company.

HamsterHuey said:

My husband tells our son he loves him quite often, and he tells my older son that too
But in my family that dosent really happen. I dont hear alot of Australian males tell one another things like that....and no, hubby is NOT Australian. He's American/ Italian

Yes.
Which is why I don't have any male friends.

The master and his best mate Vinnie say it to each other. Not even drunk!

ZombieKitten said:

chillichocaholic said:

Vinnie is hot!

ZombieKitten said:

He says it to Vinnie because he's hot?

chillichocaholic said:

dunno, but I do!

ZombieKitten said:

All they Wayans boys hug/kiss/tell each other they love each other all the time... that's my only example, not a lot of men in my family