Janfriend said:

No. I cannot do that. Then I'd be sure that I killed our friendship. We're really best friends. I'd rather be around her some of the time and try to act reasonable.

The only good thing about it really is that you feel inspired to write songs and lyrics. Most music really seems to come from a place of sadness, not happyness.

And he/she did not return the feeling? Man, that sucks. Had to tell my best friend on New Year's Eve that I wanted more. Not that I really expected her to return the feelings, but her ex-boyfriend came by, told her the same and although I did not want to, I had to let it out. I think she really could not believe what was happening, because she really did not notice any of it. Now we're being really reasonable about it, acting like the adults we're supposed to be, seeing each other and doing what we always did, blablabla. But I cannot deal with her not being here all the time and someday I will have to bring it all up again and then I will really damage our friendship. Feel like a 14-year-old writing this on an internet message board, but what the hell.
So, any of this happened to you? What happened?

calldapplwondery83 said:

GAWD! I feel your pain!! Im kinda exactly where you are right now and it is indeed torture

I made a thread too like a 14 year old to get some advice http://prince.org/msg/100/251328

but despite several great suggestions I'm still up in the air
I feel for ya!

It hurts like a knife to the heart hearing a friend talk about all the crappy relationships he or she is in, when you know that you two would be perfect together

My best friend is Satan, does that count?

calldapplwondery83 said:

GAWD! I feel your pain!! Im kinda exactly where you are right now and it is indeed torture

I made a thread too like a 14 year old to get some advice http://prince.org/msg/100/251328

but despite several great suggestions I'm still up in the air
I feel for ya!

It hurts like a knife to the heart hearing a friend talk about all the crappy relationships he or she is in, when you know that you two would be perfect together


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calldapplwondery83 said:

GAWD! I feel your pain!! Im kinda exactly where you are right now and it is indeed torture

I made a thread too like a 14 year old to get some advice http://prince.org/msg/100/251328

but despite several great suggestions I'm still up in the air
I feel for ya!

It hurts like a knife to the heart hearing a friend talk about all the crappy relationships he or she is in, when you know that you two would be perfect together



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what's worse is when the relationship turns around and the friend has nothing but good to great things to say about the person. they're the happiest they've ever been in their life, there's nothing greater and that person is the only thing that matters to them. as the friend or best friend you have to listen, smile and be supportive especially if you want to remain friends. because as the best friend you want nothing but the very best for them and anything other than that would not be understood.

it takes a depth of strength you don't know you have to be that best friend.

Janfriend said:

No. I cannot do that. Then I'd be sure that I killed our friendship. We're really best friends. I'd rather be around her some of the time and try to act reasonable.

The only good thing about it really is that you feel inspired to write songs and lyrics. Most music really seems to come from a place of sadness, not happyness.

Yes, but he was straight, so what could I do.

Raze said:

That is one of the sweetest things I've ever heard

heybaby said:

I will be in love with that man until the day I die.
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I'm straight.
So, I'm assuming that my answer to this thread-question would be no.

yes.

and now i hate this friend.

sometimes loving someone froma distance is best.....she may not be as observant of your plans for her. She may think they 're a little freaked out, like once i had a man that wanted me to leae my boyfriend and come live in a homeless shelter with him. COme to find out, he was the reason me and him broke u in the first place, cause he was so stupidly jealous.....

Illustrator said:

You took the words right out of my mouth!

thekidsgirl said:

what's worse is when the relationship turns around and the friend has nothing but good to great things to say about the person. they're the happiest they've ever been in their life, there's nothing greater and that person is the only thing that matters to them. as the friend or best friend you have to listen, smile and be supportive especially if you want to remain friends. because as the best friend you want nothing but the very best for them and anything other than that would not be understood.

it takes a depth of strength you don't know you have to be that best friend.

statuesqque said:

Oh thats the worst! I mean talk about conflict of interests
Suddenly "she" wants to hang out with the 2 of us, and "he" misses our Thursday dinners together, because "she" already cooked for him.

but the good friend is supportive and happy for his or her friend...

thekidsgirl said:

it's indescribable and a horrible, horrible place to be in. but yeah, the good friend is supportive and happy for him or her... no matter what the pain or hurt is for you. because you truly are that persons friend, you suck it up, put an understanding smile in your voice and on your face, like it's no big deal. the thing that can not be forgotten is to them, you are just the friend or best friend. so it's how they view you and it... not how you do.

statuesqque said:

I kinda messed up the other day, when got a bit grouchy when me and my bestfriend were coming back from dinner. He casually mentioned that later that night "one of his hoes" (thats what he jokingly calls his dates) was gonna come by to stay the night.

I told him that I was feeling kinda sick from the sushi, and thats why was "being weird"...

my life is so pathetic

I really believe that you should get intimate with your best friend if their was always a sort of sexual flirtation going on between you. That can make for the strongest relationship. I was hanging out platonically with my girlfriend for a year before she became single and we went for it.

Who wants to live or be married to someone that is not also one of your best friends that you hang out with and laugh with? Not me!

KidaDynamite said:

I'm straight too. All best friends don't hhave to be the same sex.