JDInteractive said:

I would.

hokie1 said:

Stop ruffling feathers Hokie.

CarrieMpls said:

You told me you didn't like my hair in Minneapolis. Do you know how much that haircut cost me?

Then Muse joined in and agreed.

It was like fighting off the estrogen wonder twins.

JDInteractive said:

Well, you WOULD look ridiculous. I would just be trying to save you from embarrassment.

Imago said:

Ignore Carrie, everyone's hair is vile to hers in her eyes. Just because she has a stunning bob. I think you hair looks marvelous.

Imago said:

Imago said:

I did NOT say I didn't like your hair!!! I initially told you I liked it (cause I did), but agreed with you when you said you were going to go back to dark. I thought the reddish/purplish streaks were fun, but all dark (or even dark with just the tiniest hint of blond streaks) suits you better.

So nyah.

JDInteractive said:

What are you getting at? That sounds vaguely like my own pajamas.

CarrieMpls said:

oh.




Why do I always remember these episodes to be so much more dramatic?

JDInteractive said:

Oh, and if you were planning on wearing that in public, I'd laugh, as you'd surely be laughing as well.

Imago said:

You only heard the negative. You don't give yourself enough credit.




But you're still not complex.

CarrieMpls said:

They are my 'Sunday bests'.

JDInteractive said:

Do you spend Sundays in bed?

JDInteractive said:

It is not that I like to ruffle feathers, but I will most certainly be honest when asked for my opinion. It really depends on who I'm talking to though. I am more reserved with people that I don't know well.

CarrieMpls said:

same here.

people who brag about being outspoken and "in your face" confound me. i mean, that's great and all, but what if people aren't in the mood for your revolutionary diatribes? there's a whole world going on beyond our individual opinions - sometimes i like to pretend i'm part of that world.

CarrieMpls said:

No, I'm up to wear my best.

JDInteractive said:

Then, yes, I'll tell you you look ridiculous.

But I'd you just the same.

Anxiety said:

You typed this statement for the applause. I'm not falling for it.

Imago said:

go stick a feather up your ass and call it macaroni

I have a friend that has absolutely no filter. The good thing is that she wont bullshit me if I ever ask for advice.

I prefer not to ruffle feathers but normally if I do, it wasn't intentional, so I'm not really bothered to be overly concerned about it...If I have an issue with someone, I do one of a few things.....approach them with it, keep my mouth shut about it, or talk about them behind their back (yes, I know how that sounds but I'm honest)...

If I approach a person with an issue, it's one I deem major...if it's worked out fine, if not and feathers are ruffled, fine...but it was brought to light and as far as I'm concerned, that's all that matters...

If I keep my mouth shut, it simply doesn't bother me enough to bring it up...I have found that some folks' feathers become ruffled when you don't show concern...I find that funny and somewhat petty...

If I talk about somebody behind their back, I simply don't like them...mind you, I'll never say anything behind somebodys back that I wouldn't say directly to them if approached or confronted with it...the person I'm talking about almost always knows I don't care for them, so it really shouldn't be much of a surprise if I called them an asshole when they weren't around...


for the most part, I consider myself an honest and affable person...I find that most feathers I ruffle are due to my sense of humor (or lack thereof) or to preconceived notions...

roodboi said:

So anyway, I rather enjoy irritating and upsetting people who already dislike me. I don't really go out of my way but those people usually make it so easy that I just can't help myself. So, in that sense I like to "ruffle feathers".

depends on my mood, situation or who it is.sometimes i hold back at the expense of my own feelings in order not to hurt the others persons feelings or because it may not be worth it when you think of the big picture. I would have to be in a really irritated mood.

JustErin said:

what the fuck are you rolling your eyes at...

JustErin said:

i understand that impulse, but the problem i have with irritating or upsetting people who already dislike me is that i end up engaging someone who i'd really just as soon not interact with, and if i'm pissing them off, then i have all THAT to deal with. screw that. if i don't like someone, i'd rather them stay out of my face and leave me alone than for them to keep whining and nagging at me. plus, let 'em imagine what i'd like to say to them. i'm sure in their twisted little pointy heads, it's much more severe than anything i'd actually have the wherewithal to actually say to them.

CarrieMpls said:

What she said.

There have been a few moments where I "ruffled feathers" just to be difficult. I've felt terrible afterwards almost every time I did it. I care too much about people's feelings.

JDInteractive said:

I think....then I ruffle....I think?

Anxiety said:

Ya, I understand and agree with that way of dealing with it as well. In general, my rule of thumb is to just ignore people like that...however, sometimes there are certain people who just respond is such funny ways that I get a kick outta it. Most times it's not even me engaging with them directly, it's just I like to play up the things they hate about me even more.

There have been a few instances where folks said things to me here on the org out of spite, or to be mean. I've always moved on. I don't really see the point of arguing over a message board. In most cases, you don't care or know enough about the person to engage them. Face to face is a different story... I'm of the opinion that most people say things over the net that they'd never say to your face.

Generally speaking, I'm not the ruffling feathers type. I guess because in the end, I just don't care enough to.

sometimes i'll ruffle feathers without meaning to, just by saying something brutally honest that i don't realize will have a polarizing effect. at the time, i just think i'm offering a harmless opinion, and the response i get is like "holy crap, we can't believe you just said that!"

more often than not, i don't regret saying these things - mainly because my intent wasn't to ruffle feathers; but if that's what happened, maybe feathers needed to be ruffled? i dunno.