RodeoSchro said:

Not just cowardly but terribly hurtful.

And anyone willing to be the third party to the affair is equally guilty. What kind of person would be a willing party (if knowingly) to that? It's like praying on someone whose going through a difficult moment of conviction--it certainly isn't helping them.

The times in my early 20s where I've been situations like that (not involving anyone married though--just boyfriend/girlfriend stuff), its always been ultimately about ego for the guy. More complex for the girl, but still dishonest.





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ZombieKitten said:

I hope everything works out for you. Don't give up!

My marriage went from good to great when I learned how to say the three little words taht every woman needs to hear: "I am sorry". And their three cousins: "It's my fault".

Funny thing was, I only said them a handful of times before they didn't need to be said much anymore.

Anyway, I hope it all works out for you.

RodeoSchro said:

it isn't JUST words we need to hear

RodeoSchro said:

Mr. Schro ... as much man as I am (and being a coward in your eyes), those words are up there in my vocabulary and I can say them ... In my humble (and very very humble I may add) opinion, a relationship is about allowing your partner to grow beyond themselves, and that should work both ways. If I were to do it all over again, I wouldn't settle for any less. I mean someone that can be happy for me to be myself and support me in my endeavours and vice versa.

Ok.

That's all ...

Bye.

Nope. I haven't. I'm against it. I believe you reap what you sow. I wouldn't want to reap an unfaithful marriage because I'd sowed some oats with some other man's wife.

Of course, I seem to get the most "looks" from married women...


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ThreadBare said:

lick my legs

I have no real opinion on this subject, but everyone needs to remember, that what might be a wrong reason to you why someone decided to have that affair, might seem like a right reason to them. You can't preach until you have walked in that other person's shoes.

Moni has left the building!

MoniGram said:

Holy shit.
I say the same thing to my friends who make fun of the fact I get my hair done in a salon.

Imago said:

MoniGram said:

Second that.

wrong wrong wrong wrong WRONG!!!!!


That said, it's way more common than anyone would like to think. And everyone makes mistakes and all that.




It's such a depressing subject.

I swear I didnt know the guy was married.

Imago said:

You are such a bandit!

I've got all of mine in order.

Cuz you never know.....

ZombieKitten said:

You're his wife - his life partner - the mother of his children

How can a man be to busy - have no time for - the most important person in his life ?

Mach said:

Mach said:

You would be surprised. I have sort of been in Charlotte's shoes before. Some men do not get subtle hints, they do not pick up on vibes or pay much attention to their partners emotions.
I think some of it comes down to change, I have found some men HATE change. They want their world to stay the same, it is easier to look the other way than to wake up and make changes.
I was in a relationship where he thought it would be easier to look the other way, he knew I was unhappy and felt alone. He was willing to live the way we were, without sex in order to keep the life we were living.

All men are different so me telling you what you need to do to make it work would be wrong. I would suggest a good long heart to heart even if you have to write it down so he can go back and reread. You might have to be brutally honest about your feelings and needs.
Living the way you are living is no good for any of you really.

shanti0608 said:

Best post ever

shanti0608 said:

I am not surprized in the least I too have been there done that made the choice not to continue

And everything you have stated about some men - is also true of some women

AndGodCreatedMe said:

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Not sure about best post ever..just speaking from past experiences.
I let my situation go on too long because I did not feel like I deserved to make someone open up and listen to me.

Mach said:

True... I must say that I was at fault in the situation as well and made my share of mistakes.

shanti0608 said:

me too been there done that as well

Mach said:

Here's to learning from our mistakes..growing and getting better.

shanti0608 said:

happens to the best of us.

PeaceandLoveCowgirl said:

I think you are right

Just makes us stronger.

PeaceandLoveCowgirl said:

And the worst of us.

Illustrator said:

And those of us whose lives are so mundanely filled with mediocre static that we can't classify as either extreme.

Illustrator said:

shanti0608 said:

After you get married,
I am planning on ensnaring you into an affair with me.