dannyd5050 said:

WTF is wrong with you mate? Either your are getting none or.....well you are getting none.....

unfortunately, yes. I was (am?) close friends with a couple I met travelling abroad. I spent Christmas with them one year, and the husband propositioned me. I tried to be diplomatic, but honestly, it's easier not to be friends with them anymore. It's like I know a horrible secret that could ruin their marriage. Since I last saw them, they've had three kids. It's kind of sad though, because I really enjoyed them as friends.

Oh, I'm getting plenty, sir, thank you very much. And why are you taking it out on me?? I'm only calling it how I see it...I told you it was messed up. I have beautiful girl friends. And, yes, I've slept with most of them. I think we're better friends now because the curiosity is over with...strange but true...

dannyd5050 said:

I kind of agree with you.


Maybe the guy wouldn't actually make the moves, but inside they usually want to I think.

hokie1 said:

Yes, I think so too. Of course there are exceptions where some men actually prefer the company of women in non-sexual ways but I don't believe that this is the majority of men by a long shot.

Has a friend ever compromised their relationship with you by coming on to you?
Yes

How did you respond?
with a no!

Did you friendship survive?
unfortunately no he was a great friend

Did they explain why?
they couldn't be just friends with me

Have you ever done it yourself?

No

I tend to have more male friends than female. The one who attempted to cross the line was in a relationship with a woman who was the complete opposite of me (which makes sense). He began pointing out the differences between his girl and me. Eventually, she hated me, he wanted me, and I was stuck looking for someone else to hang out with.

JDInteractive said:

yup.. and it wasnt cool .. cause he didnt tell me he was married and it had been a long while since i saw him .. let me explain: .. had been a very long time since i saw him.. he wanted to swop numbers and we did ..i had always thought of him as cool and i felt it no harm in keeping in touch .. he mentioned going out on some dates.. i said 'sure, why not?' ..so .. he begins to tell me 'not' to call his cell phone on Wednesdays... saying his job has him very tied up .. i didnt think anything of it ..and actually i forgot about it after awhile.. k so .. few weeks go by and i decide to give him a ring.. and so happens to fall on a 'Wednesday' (and i forgot about his comment of not calling on those days) .. so .. i call .. a kid answers .. so im like 'hi, how are ya? where's your dad?' (i knew he had kids) .. i hear in the background a female talking: 'who's that?' the kid: 'a lady' .. chick gets on the phone 'who's this?' .. i tell her who i am 'yeah hi, im such n such.. a friend of him blah blah' .. she then tyrades into 'Well! im his wife!!' (so.. the wife has the cell phone on Wednesdays ) and then proceeds to curse me out and hangs up on me .... and im like wthell? so.. i called her back .. and i explained to her that it wasnt fair for her to be pissed @ me.. i had no idea he was married and he never told me that.. ok ... so .. the wife decides she wants to scheme, plot and plan for both of us to walk up on him @ his job.. (chile some Jerry Springer stuff) and she's like 'Ok, you meet me @ his job, we'll both show up' ...well girlfriend did enough cursing and blasting on the phone for the both of us.. i told her i would show up, but i never did.. cause he was already in trouble (she found out my name and everything so.. he couldnt lie) ..and there wasnt any need for me to be in public with that type of mess... so.. i forgave him, but we have no more friendship .. and no, i have never done this myself..

Flowerz said:

You did the right thing by not letting her see what you looked like, because judging from the situation, seems like you could have acquired a stalker that would show up at any time she had an issue with her lying hubby.

paintedlady said:

true i didnt want to be in public with a Jerry Springer scene
[Edited 12/31/07 23:33pm]

Flowerz said:

Nevermind him defending himself, if she and he decided that they were going to stay together, they would have turned on you quickly, just like one of those bad Cheaters episodes

dannyd5050 said:

so true. And vice versa, I know most if not all the male friends i've had in my life i've been either attracted to, tried to get with at some point, or just wanted to fuck him. And if you have a bf and he still has females friends that he talks to on the regular...watch out, if he isn't fucking them now, he will be later on. Women with bf's who have male friends use the males friends as emergency dicks in glass cases..."just in case of emergency, break the glass".

Flowerz said:

damn thats real messed up. now you know, that he wasn't about shit. And if she was a smart woman, then her ass wouldn't had "planned" on making a scene at his job...c'mon now all of that is not needed. Take that shit like a woman and handle his ass in the privacy of your home.

missfee said:

Almost all of my friends have come on to me.

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