Has a friend ever compromised their relationship with you by coming on to you? How did you respond? Did you friendship survive? Did they explain why? Have you ever done it yourself?

JDInteractive said:

no

yes

Yes twice, the friendship was never really in jeopardy from my point of view TBH, as far as i am concerned it is water under the bridge and lets just move on. The friendship was strong before so why cant it be afterwards???

One i am cool with and TBH she didnt want a relationship just a roll in the hay so that was nothing deep, the other i am cool with but she is soooo not cool with me so whatever.

It could have if he wasn't such a dick about it all







Nah...

JDInteractive said:

Yes, one major one sticks with me though. I had a dear friend that I liked deep down but never told him because he was my friends boyfriend and I dated his brother. A few years into our friendship he opened up and told me that he had feelings for me too. He went into detail telling me what I was wearing the first time we met many years ago. I was so shocked but I had moved on by that point and I was in no situation to start a relationship with him..he was too late.
We were able to remain great friends and we still chat from time to time. We both know that the timing was never right for us.

Yes. I went on one date with him, and when I didn't sleep with him he didn't talk to me again. Nice, eh?

My first boyfriend, we were best friends first. I made the move. We were together for 2 years.

CarrieMpls said:

Hmmmm. Yes.

Imago said:

yes. i pulled away for a while then we got back to being friends again. it's not worth it.

Yes. It happened with three friends. I ended up dating two of them. I'm no longer close friends with either of them, but I still talk to one of them sometimes. My friendship with the 3rd one fell apart. I've discussed this on here, but he and I didn't speak for several months. We decided to try to be friends again, but it ended up being very awkward and now we are no longer speaking.



I've never done it myself.
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JDInteractive said:

Yes and yes (long time ago).

Former: polite redirection. The friendships survived for a while, then they eventually stopped calling.

Latter: I was young, dumb and wanted her full of my cum. After an awkward period, the friendship recovered.

Not sure what you're referring to when you ask, "Did they explain why?".

No and yes

mdiver said:

True. Glad we're still friends.

HamsterHuey said:

You are different...i mean....i wanted you!

That happened to me. He told me he didnt wanna jeopardize our friendship but he really wanted to be with me. I said no and figured we could still be friends. But, it didnt work out.

A friend of mine fell in love with me many years ago and we are still friends. It was even more complicated as about the same time another friend of mine fell in love with me as well and he became my boyfriend and the two guys had been friends before they had met me. Their friendship ended for some time, but then we all got along well again .

Yes, all but one of my close male friends wanted to get involved physically.

I ended up hooking up with most of them at some point (thanks a lot alcohol )

It didn't ruin our friendship and other than some wanting to get into something a little more exclusive (which I didn't want), nothing really changed.

Yes, I actively went after one friend...we got involved, it got messy for a bit but now we are cool with each other

JustErin said:

yes they have

and no, when that happens I usually get pissed off and stop talking to them.

About 99% of all my friendships with guys ended up like that. With the subtle hints and then one of them got to the point to showing up to a movie theatre I was at. It really pissed me off, not only because wtf he stalked me, but two it's like none of them had the balls to say something. Had they said something it would have been different because I could have expressed how that I did not feel anything fro them in that way and that I didn't want to compromise our friendship. But since guys seem to think with their dick and not their brain well I get pised and completely "Freeze" them as my friends like to call it and they will never hear from me again. I'm not a piece of meat and I'm not going to be treated like one.

I don't think I've truly been in that situation...my wife is the only relationship I've had that started off as a friendship...before then, pretty much any girl I called a "friend" was somebody I wanted to get with, so nothing would have been compromised....

Happens all the time. It's why so many of my female friends describe me as aloof. I play it up, more or less, because those are situations that I don't want to be a part of.

violator said:

See you in March, "friend"!

I've been put in a few compromised positions by female friends.
But that's what female friends are for.

JustErin said:

it's happened yeah, and it was pretty great what we had, but things got complicated, we backed off, and we're still friends now (going on 8 years)

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The best thing to do in these type of situations is to sleep with the friend but be really really lame in the sack. I'm talking corpse like. The friend will get over you quickly and then you can go back to being friends.

Yes,twice I had a friends that came on to me. Both times I tried to become romantically involved, I couldn't get into it. Lost both friendships as soon as I got involved with men I was attracted to. Oh well, guess they weren't real friends to me after all.

It's sounds messed up but guys will usually ONLY be friends with girls in hopes of getting some. Especially if you're pretty. Don't be naive, ladies. Unless your "guy friends" are gay then they all want to sleep with you. Why else would they stick around? No guy wants to really be in that "friend zone"...