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The Dreaded 80/20 rule! We all have been in this matrix. Either you have a partner that meets 80% of what you are looking for and you tolerate that 20% that drives you nuts.
Or... You have a partner that is around for that 20% that you want around and keep them at an arm's length because the remaining 80% is just too much to make a solid part of your world..... 
Shall we talk people? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Goddamn it, Dex. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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INSATIABLE said: Goddamn it, Dex.
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INSATIABLE said: Goddamn it, Dex.
What?!!? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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I thought you meant 20% of the people do 80% of the work. | |
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By the way, keep looking for that 100%-er. They're out there! | |
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RodeoSchro said: By the way, keep looking for that 100%-er. They're out there!
It's a myth....there is never a 100!'er!! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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RodeoSchro said: By the way, keep looking for that 100%-er. They're out there!
 you really think so??? Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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DexMSR said: RodeoSchro said: By the way, keep looking for that 100%-er. They're out there!
It's a myth....there is never a 100!'er!! I married the myth! veronikka said: you really think so???
I know so! | |
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DexMSR said: RodeoSchro said: By the way, keep looking for that 100%-er. They're out there!
It's a myth....there is never a 100!'er!! Put it this way: I bet you've met women who thought YOU were the 100%-er. | |
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RodeoSchro said: DexMSR said: It's a myth....there is never a 100!'er!! Put it this way: I bet you've met women who thought YOU were the 100%-er. In initial stages of infatuation I can see your point on both sides, but there is no such thing as you LIKING everything about anyone....unless you are hypnotized! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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RodeoSchro said: DexMSR said: It's a myth....there is never a 100!'er!! Put it this way: I bet you've met women who thought YOU were the 100%-er. I doubt that  | |
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DexMSR said: RodeoSchro said: Put it this way: I bet you've met women who thought YOU were the 100%-er. In initial stages of infatuation I can see your point on both sides, but there is no such thing as you LIKING everything about anyone....unless you are hypnotized! If there is no such thing as a 100%-er, then there's no reason to assign any percent to someone. If you can't win, why keep score? | |
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RodeoSchro said: DexMSR said: In initial stages of infatuation I can see your point on both sides, but there is no such thing as you LIKING everything about anyone....unless you are hypnotized! If there is no such thing as a 100%-er, then there's no reason to assign any percent to someone. If you can't win, why keep score? On point. | |
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RodeoSchro said: DexMSR said: In initial stages of infatuation I can see your point on both sides, but there is no such thing as you LIKING everything about anyone....unless you are hypnotized! If there is no such thing as a 100%-er, then there's no reason to assign any percent to someone. If you can't win, why keep score? The point is....you will never like EVERYTHING about anyone....that's all. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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I've met a Mr. 100%er and a Ms. So I KNOW they exist.  | |
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Stymie said: I've met a Mr. 100%er and a Ms. So I KNOW they exist.
Are U with them? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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DexMSR said: Stymie said: I've met a Mr. 100%er and a Ms. So I KNOW they exist.
Are U with them? | |
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DexMSR said: RodeoSchro said: If there is no such thing as a 100%-er, then there's no reason to assign any percent to someone. If you can't win, why keep score? The point is....you will never like EVERYTHING about anyone....that's all. OK, that's true. I thought we were talking about fully loving someone. | |
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DexMSR said: RodeoSchro said: If there is no such thing as a 100%-er, then there's no reason to assign any percent to someone. If you can't win, why keep score? The point is....you will never like EVERYTHING about anyone....that's all. | |
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Stymie said: DexMSR said: The point is....you will never like EVERYTHING about anyone....that's all. U my dear...are an anomaly!!! WHAP!! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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DexMSR said: Stymie said: Says who? You?
U my dear...are an anomaly!!! WHAP!! This lady couldn't get enough sex, so she went to see a doctor. She explained that she had sex with her husband six times a day, but that wasn't enough. She had three lovers on the side who saw her a couple times each a day, and even that wasn't enough. The doctor scratched his head and said, "Over ten times a day and that's still not enough? You're an anomaly." The lady said, "I'm an 'anomaly'? Thank God - my husband say's I'm a slut!" | |
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RodeoSchro said: DexMSR said: U my dear...are an anomaly!!! WHAP!! This lady couldn't get enough sex, so she went to see a doctor. She explained that she had sex with her husband six times a day, but that wasn't enough. She had three lovers on the side who saw her a couple times each a day, and even that wasn't enough. The doctor scratched his head and said, "Over ten times a day and that's still not enough? You're an anomaly." The lady said, "I'm an 'anomaly'? Thank God - my husband say's I'm a slut!"  | |
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RodeoSchro said: DexMSR said: U my dear...are an anomaly!!! WHAP!! This lady couldn't get enough sex, so she went to see a doctor. She explained that she had sex with her husband six times a day, but that wasn't enough. She had three lovers on the side who saw her a couple times each a day, and even that wasn't enough. The doctor scratched his head and said, "Over ten times a day and that's still not enough? You're an anomaly." The lady said, "I'm an 'anomaly'? Thank God - my husband say's I'm a slut!"  The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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uummmm MmmmKay | |
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Well, I don't know about 100%, but I know that I love her faults just as much as I love her good qualities, and without them, she wouldn't be perfect for me  | |
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I love my wife 100% of the time. | |
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RodeoSchro said: I married the myth!
wouldn't that make her a mytheth? [Edited 2/15/08 21:07pm] | |
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I think it's more of a sliding scale, really. Throughout the course of any long-term relationship, it can be anywhere from 90/10 to 10/90. The main thing is to stick it out, and it will eventually balance out. Unless it just stays at 20/80 for the long-haul. "Half of what I say is meaningless; but I say it so that the other half may reach you." - Kahlil Gibran | |
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i think the 20% is important. a little bit of irritating imperfection is good, because it keeps you from forgetting that your partner is just a person like you, instead of some kind of idealized love god. which isn't to say that you can't consider your partner a love god and still acknowledge things about them that get on your nerves, but i like having that little fringe of annoying shit to keep things in check. in fact, i try to be at least 40% annoying for the one i love. | |
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