There is a semi-shock jock out in L.A. called Tom Leykus who says that to ANYONE who asks...."How Are You"?

Do you really care when you ask or are you just being cordial most of the time?

Cordial here....

i genuinely care when i ask
if i didn't care i wouldn't ask...

but i think people generally think that it's just apart of conversation, so they never really let you know how they are..

I care for real when I ask.

sammij said:

Me too

sammij said:

Same here ...

how are you sammi ?

I care, why ask if you don't?

90 percent of the time I really do care... if I don't care, I don't ask

Mach said:

i'm trying to keep my head up
a few issues have popped up on the org that i feel strongly about
and i'm just trying not to come off as weak... i hope i'll be alright


how are you?

I mean it everytime I ask.

DexMSR said:

Ahh Tom Leykus...where most of the orgers of the old days got their tired men vs women material. I usually "think" you don't care why are you asking depending on the person.

But im usually cordial.

sammij said:

On the org? Well it happens li'l sis.....handle it and keep it moving....

Whap!

I care when I ask. But I always get the same answer "I'm fine. Thankyou"

Depends on the context it's being said in. If it's just Hi, how are you? as in greeting, then obviously it's cordial. If I'm having a geniune conversation with someone and I do ask then I mean it. I'd like to say I would never ask but it's a habit that usually attached to a generalized greeting.

sammij said:

You will be alright

I am going through some transistions - last weekend we did a Sekhmet trance posture and she is whiping my ass a bit - invited of course

Other then that life is good and very busy which is how I like it

Mach said:

busy is often a good thing
i think i have too much time to myself now and i'm not handling it so well
but i'll be alright
i dont get that Sekhmet trance posture - what is that all about?

DexMSR said:

thanks

sammij said:

Holding an Ecstatic body posture for 15 minute to a drumming sound and calling in the Goddess Sekhmet - with a set intention prior to the trance ( all done in sacred space of course )


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morningsong said:

Same here

Mach said:

that sounds amazing, i'll have to find a group that does that around here

DexMSR said:

Cordial here, too. Reflex thing.

it's mostly cordial for me...in the south that's just another way of saying hello...and I say hello to people I dont really give a shit about too

Most cordial.


But one thing that I learned is that a polite cordial smile works wonders in some people's days.

I remember once, it was my birthday, and I just decided I was going to smile at everyone I met today, regardless of who there were or if I knew them.

I got some of the most surprising smiles back from at least 1/3 of the folks I did it to. It was a nice day.

Imago said:

when a stranger smiles at me, I always ask "How ya doin'?"

roodboi said:

That's hot

I'm smiling at you now

Imago said:

I know how you're doin'...

If I ask my friends, I really do care.


otherwise .....uh well....

Tom Leykus is an idiot.

I care about 5 % of the time.

DexMSR said:

I think it's just a cordial thing to say when it comes to strangers. Next time some one asks you how are you just say you got really bad gas.

DexMSR said:

Leykus used to be on here (he's syndicated).

My personal belief is that everyone is just being cordial and that we don't care about anything unless it ultimately involves making us feel good.

But that's just me.

P.S. I'm a big Dex fan; he always poses provocative questions. Then again, I'm only saying this because his provocative questions and their threads make me feel good.