uh-oh.
Last night, I messed up bad. Yelling. Saying some really unkind and hurtful things. Terrible things. I called back, no answer. Today, she went to her office and did not talk to me at all. She shot me a really mean look when I was walking past her office. So I stopped in the doorway and mouthed "I'm sorry." She just looked away.
I feel terrible. Not completely at fault here. But 51% at fault. Okay, 70%. How do I fix this?

ugh.

alwayslate said:

By trying not to fix it...

Honestly, are you really at fault here? If so, own up to it and move on.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah,thats all u can do

booze....

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I am. -mostly. I said I was sorry. She won't talk to me. The messed up part is that this is all because of a work-related issue she told me about. Maybe she was just venting and wasn't wanting my opinion but we were having a conversation. She took what I said way too personal. I got mad and then went totally off on her (booze, involved). So now she's mad and I'm sad. I think we should just never have a work-related conversation and she should maybe talk to someone else about that stuff. Gawd, she is so damned sensitive.

alwayslate said:

That's precisely why you don't try to fix it. Usually, a little time and insight will bring her around... Keep living life...

violator said:

I'll call tonight. If she doesn't answer this time, I'm just gonna give up. I haven't really said much about it on the org but we've been arguing a lot lately. This is just the latest/greatest. I am starting to feel like a goddamned yo-yo.

alwayslate said:

Always remember,if someone doesnt ask for advice or an opinion-dont give it.


Dont try to fix things

ThreadCula said:

Great minds and all that...

If you care for her I would say write her a letter, apologizing for your actions and maybe say how you hate how you two have been fighting lately and suggest you take some time apart to figure out why things are not working.

Thats just my suggestion since I'm not so good at vocalizing my feelings. Good Luck though!

thekidsgirl said:

you mean, break-up.

You know this all started when I told her I was in love with her. That is the problem. Never say "I love you."
It kills relationships.

alwayslate said:

not 'breakup' but really, give each other a little space...It sounds like things were moving kinda fast between you two and sometimes that can make tensions really high. But when you have some time apart, you begin to recall what you really like/love about that person.

violator said:

like you did at first.....when yall were bestest friends.....lol

alwayslate said:

i almost want to laugh.....(i feel so bad),
But, my best freind was jackin around with my boyfriend and didn't think I knew.....When I found out, I never said a word.....

I dumped her, and her friend ship....She tried to appeal to me through my kids, but they knew too. The only thing, she is the type to whine and cry for years over what she pretends to never be at fault about.

alwayslate said:

I hope you get everything worked out..but one bit of advice...don't say that she is so damned sensitive to her face or by phone. That will only dig you into a deeper hole!

MoniGram said:

too late.


I give up. I can't keep apologizing. It's getting tiresome. I'm not always the one who is wrong either when we fight. Maybe this time I am but all I can do is apologize. She does this immature crap because of some imaginary power struggle she created in her mind between us. I am not interested in who has the upper hand here. I have always thought it was her anyway and never had a problem with that. but now I am kinda feeling like "to hell with this." I think it's time for me to be alone again.

alwayslate said:

That is to bad. I am very sorry she is acting this way.

alwayslate said:

Shag someone in the copy room.

alwayslate said:

Well look at it this way. At least you got to bone down with her big time hardcore You coulda never had it at all. Perhaps if you act like you don't love her, maybe she will start wanting what she thinks she can't have

myfavorite said:

This reminds me of one of the best excuses for cheating with your best friend's husband. I was listening to the radio and the topic was friends relatives cheating with your partner and this woman called in to say that her friend slept with her husband and when she confronted her about it, her friend told her that she loved her so much that she slept with her husband as a way to get closer to her. She said she could fully understand her friend if she could fully experience her life I'm surprised she didn't try stuffing her kids up her twat to see what it's like to give birth to them

I just got in from work. I wanted to tell somebody this mess.
I told her privately today that if she was going to continue being childish about all this to please leave me be.
I honestly have gotten all that I wanted from this relationship and I hope that she did too. I was curious about being with a woman. That particular woman. It was everything I thought it would be and more. Thrilling.
Things got a little more involved than I thought. I "caught feelings" some would say. Now I just don't have those feelings. And I am especially turned off by the mind games.
I'm all "don't try to play me like some damn man. I know all the games cuz I played them too and it will not work on me." And I started to get into it. BUt I just was like, "okay I ain't going thru no changes here."
Really I was the one doing most of the "work" in the sack (80%) so it ain't like she can withhold sex. She's the one who would be missing out. You cannot control me with pussy. I have one, remember?
I've enjoyed our little 'experiment/relationship' and I don't wanna ruin good memories with petty bullcrap. So I basically put her notice today that this is pretty much it unless she gives up this stupid "whose got the control?" nonsense. I said I care very much for her but I cannot deal with this kiddie stuff.

alwayslate said:

alwayslate said:

What did she say?

Take a shit on her desk and put a cocktail umbrella in it.

benyamin said:

Then make her wear Sun Glasses that were converted from blinds!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: