I say No


I am a 47 year old successful Woman, Mother, etc; I have married the same man twice and am thinking about marring him a third time. He is a good man, a great father, a wonderful provider. We divorced after three years the first time because of an affair. I forgave him and we remarried again after three years. Things were going well. After a couple of years he started up again (another affair). I began my plan to leave again. I bought another house and moved on. He married the affair (everyone knows you never marry the affair).When she moved in (the house we purchased for our family) She began remodeling the house, spending thousands of her own money. I assume trying to remove any remembrance of his family. I believe he married her out of monetary obligation, and never thinking he had another chance with me. Eventually he realized the error of his ways and now wants his family back. The new wife is having a fit, she tried to alienate him from his children, tried to have me put in jail for calling their house when our daughter was missing, didn't put the children in their wedding, etc, etc. He has now filed for divorce. I was the biggest problem in their marriage, yet I never interfered, (I probably should have, take back what the devil stole from me) yet he would tell me that 80% of her/their conversations were about me. When I left, he was devastated and so was I. I can't deny that I have always loved him with all my heart. I want my family to be together, yet there are so many issues to resolve, selling one of the houses, changing the children’s schools, COMMUNICATION. I am sure that all of this can be worked out when both parties are determined to give it another chance at forever. I remember something someone said "When a man is with another woman, it means nothing if he doesn't love her". I didn't know that back then. I have let that sink in and I know that this man has always loved me. When I left, he was devastated and so was I. I guess I really don't have a question, just would like your opinion. Signed. Love that's strong is patient.

Hell 2 Tha Nizzaw!!!

She shouldn't of married him the second time!

Liz Taylor re-married Richard Burton.

Its odd enough to remarry once, but twice? Just dont bother re-marrying.

As for this woman, this dude cheated on her TWICE, and married the "home-wrecker" so to speak, and she still wants him? This is the stuff soap stories are made of? Maybe I need more info, but this woman needs to move on.
[Edited 11/14/07 21:32pm]

one more time. exes are exes for a reason.

heybaby said:

Reason being, they are failed relationships LOL

Janfriend said:

I married my ex twice! Dont feel bad, I know how you feel. He is now working on his 5th marriage( and the idiot STILL cheats on his women) I quit after the second time of marriage with my bozo of a ex. I would say a bunch more harsh words but not going to I think you all get the idea.

toots said:

No offense, but why do some women, time and time again, believe they can change men into not cheating again?

So what if a woman loves someone? If you cheat, then basically, you should kick his ass and move on. Are some women really that insecure that they just stick with lowlifes because they fear that they cant live without their cheating partners? Some women need to wake up.

thesexofit said:

Its called stupidity in my case!

Note: NOT stupid anymore, I got bigger fish to catch

thesexofit said:

basically yes.

toots said:

I didn't write this

Let me repeat your question back to you and then you tell me is it worthy of more then a cautionary tale?!?!?!?!?!??!?!??!

thesexofit said:

There are sometimes when a dispute can be settled, but this situation is absolutely crazy. Usually if someone commits infidelity, they have their own issues going on, and it's best just to move on.

She should only marry him if she can live with his infidelity. There may be other factors in the marriage that compensate for the infidelity. Lots of people deal with relationships like this.
It might not be a weakness on her part to take him back, maybe she sees him for what he is and accepts that.
I would suggest lots of councelling and couple's therapy before they remarry.

She's the dumbest broad ALIVE if she marries that fool a third time

People really are good at exploiting those who "love" them. This person needs prayer and counseling.

I am not going to read that -

going on gut instinct - NO

Of course she shouldn't remarry him - but she most likely will.

Her recounting of this relationship comes across as incredibly warped, romanticized even. There are people who are addicted to self-created relationship drama and its accompanying emotional rollercoaster and, for whatever reasons, thing that's what "real love" is all about.

Both this woman and her ex-husband need counseling, or their pattern of reuniting and breaking up will just continue to repeat itself.

CalhounSq said:

Mach said:

That Exactly what I did!