I want to know ...

Who has held/touched a person that had passed away

and what were your thoughts on the experience ?

Mach said:

They were not cold...they passed while i was there. It was traumatic as we were trying to save them, other than that a few RTA's but usually the coroners did everything after we checked for vitals....was pretty matter of fact as i didnt know them but still wierd sometimes.

As unpleasant as you'd expect....

I kissed my grandfathers head at his funeral in July.....

pardonme4livin said:

I have held death in my hands one time to many perhaps

I am not sure exactly how I feel about it overall

I do know that the processed body ( @ funeral home ) has a much differnt feel the holding a newborn right after passing ...

I'm alwayz afraid 2 touch the body.

sexxydancer said:

Do you know and understand why you are ?

Mach said:

I alwayz imagine the skin might break r something.

I have touched bodies in caskets but really quick they feel stiff and kinda cold, they always look different to!

My ex mother in law was dying as we took turns holding her hands and touching her.
The machines were the only things keeping her alive but her body was cool and making noises as it was shutting down. I am glad we were there to hold her though on her last days on this earth.

I don't like even seeing dead bodies and I can't imagine ever touching one intentionally. I've only seen 3 in my life, both of my grandmothers and one of my grandfathers and I hope I don't ever have to see one again.
It creeps me out. I just don't like it.

KidaDynamite said:

They look - dead

shanti0608 said:

What a great gift to her - from you

CarrieMpls said:

This reminds me of my friend Cheri- who I just went to Michigan with to another friends funeral - I saw her reach out and just swiftly touch Greg;s hand in the casket

I was amazed that she did that

Mach said:

Exactly!!!

Mach said:

It was not easy since I had never ever been that close to death before but she was always wonderful and caring towards me even though I only had a little over a year with her. I owe her a lot...she passed before we married so she was never really my mother in law but she always made me feel like I was one of her children.

wow...she passed 10 yrs ago this coming Dec 8th.

Mach said:

I wouldn't go near the caskets at any of my grandparent's funerals. At my one grandmother's they had her "displayed" near the entrance of the church so you HAD to walk by her on your way in. There was a long line of people and I had to just stand there for a while. I kept my back to it.

I just don't like it.

If I have my way there will be NO viewing of my body when I die and I'll be cremated with a quickness.

I don't even like to think about it.

shanti0608 said:

KidaDynamite said:

Why is that funny ?






~smiles~

Mach said:

KidaDynamite said:

mdiver said:

I understand the trama part - I tried to help save a shooting victim, car accident and motorcycle victims and one heartattack

Mach said:

In honesty losing them sucked more than touching them, i wasnt wierded so much as pissed but trauma is different. When you save one...that is the best feeling, i remember a guy i pulled back from a stopped heart and no signs after an accident...when he thanked me a while later in the hospital....it meant the world because he was there because of what i did. AWESOME

mdiver said:

I understand all that

We are talking bout DEAD things though Mikey



want some of my wine ?


TR comes home friday night
good thing huh ?

Mach said:

That is awesome and yes i need more wine....i just finished.

As far as TR.....great news!

When he gets there..hug him, tell him we all missed him and then have some you and him time

The first funeral I had been to was my father's when I was 26. It was a horrible experience. But, I've been to many since. I'm not a fan of touching the body - I know some people are comfortable with it, but I'm not.

Until my sister's death this year, I didn't really see the value in viewing the body after the soul has gone from it. My family and I didn't get to do that with her (long story), so there is really no true closure there. Even though I know she's dead, not seeing her "shell" has sort of taken part of the healing out of it for me.

I'd never experienced death in my whole life until last year, after I turned 24. My Oma (grandmother) passed away from cancer three days after diagnosis. I was holding her hand. For some reason, I felt absolutely no fear or avoidance over the concept of her body shutting down and becoming cold to the touch. I cried the least of everyone and couldn't believe how well I held up through the whole thing. There's still a hole in my heart that will never heal, but from that experience, I've learned that I don't fear death in the slightest. I'm seriously more afraid of life.

My Opa (grandfather) passed away this month and I wasn't there. It was harder. I wish I could have been beside him to ease him. He was in a lot of physical and emotional pain. It's probably viewed as morbid by most, but I feel extremely comfortable around the dying and dead. I have so much empathy for the amount of pain we all experience while we're living in these bodies that life here is far more frightening than its absence to me.

Not that I don't have reverence for life. But it holds many more unknowns and is far scarier, in my opinion.

Mach said:

applekisses said:

Understood

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