A friend invited me to go with him and his boyfriend to see the Frida exhibit at the museum tonight. We were meeting some of his boyfriend's friends there. Long story short, we all finally meet and it's 2 gay couples, a straight couple, me and this guy.



Why don't people warn me about these things? I was wearing my work clothes. I didn't even bother with make up.

In any case, we were clearly not each other's type at all (though he was cute) and I purposely spent the night walking around by myself in the museum and sitting at opposite ends of the table when we went for drinks after.

I am horribly shy.


Has anyone ever done this to you?

CarrieMpls said:

you shy?.... when

IAintTheOne said:

It's true! I swear it!

the few times this has been done to me in the distant past, i've had to SERIOUSLY contemplate how my friends must view me in order to think i could EVER be interested in some of the (nice enough and perfectly charming) FREAKERS they've chosen to set me up with.

Yes!


But whenever I've been in that situation, it was because I was having to take the grenade for the team.

Anxiety said:

Perhaps I read too much into it and that wasn't the case, but it all seemed terribly, I don't know, convenient.

And he didn't seem too thrilled about it either.

CarrieMpls said:

not around me..

sir noze devoidofunk have never been in that situation aaa haa hahahahahaaaa

Imago said:

I don't understand the concept.

And find it rude, kinda.

IAintTheOne said:

I guess you're just special.

CarrieMpls said:

It is rude.


"Taking the grenade" for the team, for guys means, when you're willing to go out on a double date with the dumpy or psychotic friend of the girl your buddy is seeing.

It's all part of the "Bro's before Ho's" thing that I'm glad I've outgrown.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah..... end result toothbrush guy! My girlfriend STILL cant forgive herself for that.

Thank God, no. I've been spared that experience.

But, a good friend's sister asked me why I wouldn't take her out... She was being deliberately awkward that weekend, as I recall.

Imago said:

No, no no. I know what it means. I just think it's RUDE! Why would you go out with them anyway?

Yeah, girls don't do that.

Anxiety said:

You can say that AGAIN!

CarrieMpls said:

yayyyyy im tho thpeaaaaathaaaaal

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I don't think you told me about toothbrush guy.

Spill!

IAintTheOne said:

She is!

ThreadBare said:

I hate awkward.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, it stinks.

CarrieMpls said:

David.. the last one..... OF COURSE YOU KNOW!

I thought this was going to be a thread explaining why my great thread is still not up.

My best friend once tried to set me up with a man at a bar, but the man wasn't my type at all. But I don't think he was too interested in me, either, so it wasn't too awkward.

That was some years ago. I don't know whether to feel sad or reliefed because my friends don't try to set me up anymore.

No.

Yeah, it's happened to me a couple of times the last year or so. It's interesting though, because they've been "sex setups" rather than "relationship setups" (they've even admitted it afterwards). I guess people assume I'm in a much more desperate need to get laid than to find love.

Either way I think it's a nice gesture, for lack of a better term. I mean, it's not ill-intended or anything but rather the opposite, and if they don't give you a heads up it's probably just because they want things to unfold in a natural way and give you a chance to feel like you discovered this person yourself without their assistance.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah once.

It really pissed me off,
cuz
I just couldn't imagine what I ever said or did to give em the impression that
paintings done by some unibrowed mustached spanish chick was something worth doing other than staying home & catching up on my "stories" that I had TiVoed.

retina said:

No, no, no.

I need full preparation. And last night it was hard enough for me to prepare to hang out with a bunch of people I don't know. It can take DAYS for me to work up to be able to talk to strangers at parties and such and it's worse when it's someone I find attractive. If I left it up to "natural" I'd never have a date at all.

I really can be unbelieveably shy.

A couple of girlfriends once tried to get me to do one of those speed dating things with them. They almost bought my ticket without even asking me cause they knew I'd be reluctant. I finally had to explain that spending an evening being forced to make chit chat one on one with potential dates would be a complete and utter living hell for me. One of them still tried to convince me even after that.

CarrieMpls said:

I can relate


Me too

CarrieMpls said:

No wonder i didnt get to talk to you properly till sunday of the invasion

BTW They dropped you in it... i think you should kick some ass and when you do can you wear the geisha outfit.....and post pics
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