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mdiver said: CarrieMpls said: No, no, no. I need full preparation. And last night it was hard enough for me to prepare to hang out with a bunch of people I don't know. It can take DAYS for me to work up to be able to talk to strangers at parties and such and it's worse when it's someone I find attractive. If I left it up to "natural" I'd never have a date at all. 
I really can be unbelieveably shy. A couple of girlfriends once tried to get me to do one of those speed dating things with them. They almost bought my ticket without even asking me cause they knew I'd be reluctant. I finally had to explain that spending an evening being forced to make chit chat one on one with potential dates would be a complete and utter living hell for me. One of them still tried to convince me even after that.  No wonder i didnt get to talk to you properly till sunday of the invasion 
BTW They dropped you in it... i think you should kick some ass and when you do can you wear the geisha outfit.....and post pics
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CarrieMpls said: mdiver said: No wonder i didnt get to talk to you properly till sunday of the invasion
BTW They dropped you in it... i think you should kick some ass and when you do can you wear the geisha outfit.....and post pics
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mdiver said: CarrieMpls said: Is that a yes or a no? : That's a .
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CarrieMpls said: mdiver said: Is that a yes or a no? : That's a .
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CarrieMpls said: No, no, no. I need full preparation. And last night it was hard enough for me to prepare to hang out with a bunch of people I don't know. It can take DAYS for me to work up to be able to talk to strangers at parties and such and it's worse when it's someone I find attractive. Well in that case if you'd known in advance that you were being set up you'd have been even more reluctant and might not even have gone, right? I think they did you a favour. This way there was not as much worrying beforehand, and you did get an opportunity you might not have gotten otherwise. 
If I left it up to "natural" I'd never have a date at all.
And that's why it was good that they set you up. I'm sure "natural" is great once you're there, which is what I meant, but you do seem to need that initial kick in the butt just to get you out the door.
It's always interesting that you claim to be so shy. You never look shy in the pictures, you're never shy in your posts, and you even have the guts to post videos of yourself! I guess there's just something about face to face interaction that makes you want to run for the exit, eh? 
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: No, no, no. I need full preparation. And last night it was hard enough for me to prepare to hang out with a bunch of people I don't know. It can take DAYS for me to work up to be able to talk to strangers at parties and such and it's worse when it's someone I find attractive. Well in that case if you'd known in advance that you were being set up you'd have been even more reluctant and might not even have gone, right? I think they did you a favour. This way there was not as much worrying beforehand, and you did get an opportunity you might not have gotten otherwise.
If I left it up to "natural" I'd never have a date at all.
And that's why it was good that they set you up. I'm sure "natural" is great once you're there, which is what I meant, but you do seem to need that initial kick in the butt just to get you out the door.
It's always interesting that you claim to be so shy. You never look shy in the pictures, you're never shy in your posts, and you even have the guts to post videos of yourself! I guess there's just something about face to face interaction that makes you want to run for the exit, eh?
You're right, I wouldn't have gone.
But as it was, I spent the evening avoiding him anyway. The pictures you've seen are of me with people I already know. So no need to be shy then. Even at the invasions, I've had a good idea about most of the people I was meeting and had at least a few (sometimes MANY!) intereactions with them beforehand. And the later ones, I've known many of them for years now. But even still, if you'd been to one, you'd know I mostly chat one on one with people in a corner, and in large groups I generally let everyone else do the talking. And I can fake it if I have to. At work, when I'm hosting something, etc. |
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CarrieMpls said: retina said: And that's why it was good that they set you up. I'm sure "natural" is great once you're there, which is what I meant, but you do seem to need that initial kick in the butt just to get you out the door.
It's always interesting that you claim to be so shy. You never look shy in the pictures, you're never shy in your posts, and you even have the guts to post videos of yourself! I guess there's just something about face to face interaction that makes you want to run for the exit, eh?
You're right, I wouldn't have gone.
But as it was, I spent the evening avoiding him anyway. The pictures you've seen are of me with people I already know. So no need to be shy then. Even at the invasions, I've had a good idea about most of the people I was meeting and had at least a few (sometimes MANY!) intereactions with them beforehand. And the later ones, I've known many of them for years now. But even still, if you'd been to one, you'd know I mostly chat one on one with people in a corner, and in large groups I generally let everyone else do the talking. And I can fake it if I have to. At work, when I'm hosting something, etc. Would you talk to me if I showed up at an invasion? | |
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I'm not a fan of the set up. I have lots of friends that mean well....and they know another gay guy so they always think of me.
It's sweet but it's a really horrible position to be in. I TOTALLY hear you Carrie. MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: You're right, I wouldn't have gone.
But as it was, I spent the evening avoiding him anyway. The pictures you've seen are of me with people I already know. So no need to be shy then. Even at the invasions, I've had a good idea about most of the people I was meeting and had at least a few (sometimes MANY!) intereactions with them beforehand. And the later ones, I've known many of them for years now. But even still, if you'd been to one, you'd know I mostly chat one on one with people in a corner, and in large groups I generally let everyone else do the talking. And I can fake it if I have to. At work, when I'm hosting something, etc. Would you talk to me if I showed up at an invasion? Of course I would.
But I'd probably not say much at first. I'd say hello and I'd giggle a lot at whatever you were saying (as appropriate of course). And it would take me at the least a few hours, at the most a few days before we'd have an actual conversation with my full participation. OK, maybe not that bad. But sometimes it is. |
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CarrieMpls said: retina said: Would you talk to me if I showed up at an invasion? Of course I would.
But I'd probably not say much at first. I'd say hello and I'd giggle a lot at whatever you were saying (as appropriate of course). And it would take me at the least a few hours, at the most a few days before we'd have an actual conversation with my full participation. OK, maybe not that bad. But sometimes it is.Oh, but if there are drinks, that makes it much easier. |
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CarrieMpls said: CarrieMpls said: Of course I would.
But I'd probably not say much at first. I'd say hello and I'd giggle a lot at whatever you were saying (as appropriate of course). And it would take me at the least a few hours, at the most a few days before we'd have an actual conversation with my full participation. OK, maybe not that bad. But sometimes it is.Oh, but if there are drinks, that makes it much easier.
You're so cute. 
I think we'd get along just fine. I'm not difficult to talk to and I'm usually pretty good at getting shy people to relax. Plus, even though I'm not your soulmate Anxiety or anything, I think there are plenty of things we'd have similar views on. 
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: Oh, but if there are drinks, that makes it much easier.
You're so cute.
I think we'd get along just fine. I'm not difficult to talk to and I'm usually pretty good at getting shy people to relax. Plus, even though I'm not your soulmate Anxiety or anything, I think there are plenty of things we'd have similar views on.
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This kind of happened to me a couple times. Once in college, my friends from A&M were supposed to set me up with a girl and we were all going to the SMU game in Dallas. I was to pick them (including my date) up in my dad's Suburban in College Station, drive them to Dallas for the game, then take them back College Station.
When I got to College Station, they said my date had gotten sick or something. So I got to drive 3 couples to Dallas and back. I was pretty pissed, because I was sure they were lying about even having a date for me. So as a result, I never spoke to any of them again. Of course, a lot of other things happened before I got to that point. Don't think I make snap lifelonn grudge decisions... Then the other time was at college, but it's even more boring than the story above. Plus, I can't think of a good punch line so the story stays buried in the vault. You can thank me later. | |
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