Read this. Is this not crazy:



Here is my dilemma...20 years ago I had a sexual encounter with a married man , as a result of this I became pregant. This was a one time deal....he went his way and I went mine. Two months later while I was in the Police academy I started getting really sick...I had a pregancy test conducted and to my surprise , I was with child....I was totally devasted....I took a medical leave from the academy and had my child.. The DNA confirmed this man is the father and I filed for child support and the money started rolling in. The father and I never had any contacted with each other in the last twenty years, I only saw him at child support hearing. He has never had a relationship with our daughter, who is now a sophomore in college, majoring in education. Her not having a relationship with him really did not bother me, because I did not want people to know I was stupid enough to concieve a child from a married man, espically working in the law enforcement field. He did not want the news to get out because, he did not want his wife to know about this child. So we both were OK with this. His wife founded out about our child five years ago, when IRS garnished their income check for non child support. Plant City is such a small town, word spreaded fast concerning this news. Well, my daughter had the opportunity to meet and develop a relationship with a sister and a bother that are also childern of this man. These two children are also children from women other than his wife. My daughter developed a strong sisterhood bond with her sister. Her sister past away a few days ago from a lenghty illness. My child is devasted, she has missed days from school and from her job. My child was notified by her sister's mother that her father's wife has requested that my daughter's name not be placed on the obiutary, because she does not want people to know that he had an outside affair with another woman. And she does not want my child to ride in the motorcade or associate with the family. My child stated to her sister's mother that it did not matter to her, because the obiutary is only a sheet of paper. She knows her sister loved her and she loved her sister and they had a strong bond together so, that is all what matters. I can't accept this...I want to fight firer with firer. I am at the point where I plan to attend the funeral and pass out copies of her DNA test, along with the obiutaries to let everyone know who's the baby daddy, just to get justice.I even through about calling child support enforcers just to let them know where to find him. I am really mad because the father is not stepping up and being a man. I know I sound vindictive and full of vigor, but I do not like the way my child is being treated. The only thing that is keeping me from being so triffling right now is that I am employed as an educator. Steve whatever inspiartional music or words of wisdom you can give...I can use it right about now. much love; from an anrgy mother Dorothy



Crazy, right?

My cousin died and at the funeral, a whole 'nother secret family showed up.

Talk about astounded...

That happened at my great great aunt's funeral. Apparently she had a father she didn't know. When she died, at 90, his surviving relatives showed up and said they always knew she was one of them. My mother and grandmother were shocked. My aunt found out later in her life, but never told us

Also, "had any contacted with each other"? "founded out"? "word spreaded fast"? "fight firer with firer"?

My opinion is that the daughter ought to go to the funeral. She doesn't have to state who she is unless someone asks. Then, I'd tell the truth.

The craziest part is that the author is an "educator". I may not spell everything correctly the 1st time but least I make talk good.



Let it sink in. That was intentional for ironic expression.

Janfriend said:

Crazy, disrespectful, rude, immature...and insanely unnecessary. When people let their emotional desire for "justice" (spite is more like it) dictate their actions, nothing EVER good comes of it. She should take the high road...the deceased has done nothing whatsoever to deserve having her funeral abused this way. The mom needs to grow the fuck up and use a dictionary.

Byron said:

Did you just say fuck?

Janfriend said:

Well, I typed it...but yeah lol ...

Janfriend said:

I was thinking the same thing... Byron...??

Byron said:

I don't think I've ever heard or read you use profanity Not like that anyway

violator said:

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuckity fuck fuck fuck...

violator said:

Janfriend said:

I say "fuck"...really...

And on rare occasion I do it, too lol...

Byron said:

Janfriend said:

Where is this from?

AnckSuNamun said:

It's the "Strawberry Letter" from the Steve Harvey morning show

Janfriend said:

Oh.

the child should go, and the mother should stay home, tied up if necessary.

Byron said:

i think the daughter should go to the funeral, on her own. what need is there
to be tagging along with her father and his wife when she's never had any
sort of contact with them for 20 years?

she got to know her siblings and had a good relationship with them, so just
go to the funeral for your sister. the whole fatherhood thing has nothing
to do with this. it's an internal matter and that's it.

Janfriend said:

You should be proud that you raised a young woman with a good head on her shoulders.. The fact that she recognize that the obituary is nothing but a piece of papers sometimes filled with lies.. She knows that her sister loved her and the relationship that they had.. I don't understand why his wife could make any demands on the family of the deceased anyway, I do however think the mother of the deceased should acknowledge your child in the obiyuary.but don't go to the funeral and make a scene.. It's not the time or the place for it..But do let the child support enforcers know where he is

banks said:

I agree!

Mars23 said:

no sheet

janfried do you listen to the steve harvey show? did you listen to him go off on her?

btw i think she would be wrong to do that. her daughter is fine with it so she should just be the better woman and close her mouth. this is about her daughter not her.

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heybaby said:

I only listen to the Strawberry letter. I find the rest of the show highly offensive. Yeah, I heard his response