Hell Naw!
the "friend zone" sucks when you feel really strongly for your "friend"

the friend zone


ahh sexual tension is a wonderful thing to string along for years and years

Yes, they totally can....as long as they are BOTH NOT sexually attracted to each other.

I have male friends that I am sexually attracted to and vice versa but knowing that sex has a tendency to ruin things has stopped us from acting on it. I also have a male friend who I used to have a sexual relationship with but has evolved to a purely platonic one.

And, then there are just my guy friends.

girl you ARE me 4 years ago. I was really close friends with a guy friend of mine, and he had a girlfriend. It as his birthday and he invited me to meet him at a restaurant with friends, so I rushed from my class (i was in college at the time) got him and gift and got to the restaurant, and his friends weren't there, it was him, his girlfriend, and a friend of HERS and her boyfriend. Needless to say, I felt EXACTLY as you described. I had a hard crush on him, but the difference in this situation is, a few weeks before his birthday, he had told me that he was attracted to me and didn't know how to get rid of his "feelings"...I actually lied and told him that I didn't feel the same because I didn't want to get caught up in a web with him. I know if my boyfriend told one of his female friends that he was attracted to her, I would be hurt. But anyway back to the story, I was sitting there and it was as if it was just me and him talking and having a real conversation, while his girlfriend and her friends were talking.

I was so nervous I ordered an apple martini!!! I didn't know what else to do to calm my nerves.

So how did I deal with it....well he's my current boyfriend now.


On to you, I think you should go out on a limb and tell him how you feel...what do you have to lose??? You are single and you can do as you please. You may never know, he just might feel the same way about you too. But if he doesn't then just hold you head up high, and take a break from him, because you will need time to get over him.

Now to answer you question can mean and women every just "be friends"? Well judging from my experiences, no. If a man and a woman are friends there is almost always some kind of connection there. With every guy that i've been close to on a "friendly" level, there was ALWAYS an attraction there between us. I haven't been friends with a guy till this day that I didn't some kind of attraction for. Just being honest.

If you guys are doing the "old married couple" bullshit I say tell him. It could go either way, but it's kind of unfair to you to get your hopes up & feel all snuggly with him when he doesn't have a girlfriend (or she's not around) & then have to quell your feelings of attraction (which he's egging on, maybe unknowingly) when he parades the new chick around you.

You owe it to yourself to try to take the relationship to the next level, but be ready for things to go either way. If you feel like you can't get over your feelings for this dude, just decide if you want to be a friend regardless of how it goes or if you're willing to kill the whole thing should it become weird.

Good luck

If you guys are doing the "old married couple" bullshit I say tell him. It could go either way, but it's kind of unfair to you to get your hopes up & feel all snuggly with him when he doesn't have a girlfriend (or she's not around) & then have to quell your feelings of attraction (which he's egging on, maybe unknowingly) when he parades the new chick around you.

So today, I took some of the advice given, and I asid something to him (indirectly though, cause long heart2hearts aren't my style!)

We got talking on the subject of friends-dating, and I asked him 'hypothetically' if he'd ever consider dating a close friend like oh, say me? and his basic response was "not at this point in my life".

He was saying that since he's still only 25, any girl he dates probably won't be around longer than a year at most, and since he's not one to stay friends with an ex, he wouldn't want to loose a great friendship like that.
He ended by sayin, "Yeah, I coulndn't date you, we would have to get married, but that ain't happening any time soon"
Then he proceeded to tell me about his plans to break up with the girl he is dating, because he met someone better came along
and well, I'm just gonna let things continue as they are, and I'm going to just avoid going out with anymore couples being a friggin 3rd wheel!

THANKS AGAIN EVERYBODY!! It felt so good to get this off my chest
I think part of me just really needed to talk things out and hear some other ppls opinions

YOU. ARE. AWESOME! The saying about having nothing to fear but fear itself is often very true! Now that you did it, do you find the hemming and hawing you did this whole time made it seem worse than the experience actually was? For me, that is usually the case. Anyway, you did find out that he would MARRY YOU and I'd say that's a pretty good sign in the crush department Glad you said what you had to say and that you know exactly the cards you need to play now and in the future AND you didn't even have to play any games!

Thanks Supa!!!

It was good to get that over with, even though we talked about it in a joking manner...(I had to make things less awkward). Talking about things helped me put this crap in perspective and realize, it's not that serious
Although, I'd still like to jump his bones I know that I should just live my life not caring who he is dating, and just enjoy our friendship
If something happens it happens, and if not....Thats ok too!