violator said:

now theres another option worth considering. I do have someone that would work perfectly for that...

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Well just like 2 months, I was trying to be respectful

thekidsgirl said:

Well you aren't interferring in a marriage It would suck for that girl if he did something about it but you aren't trying to break up their shit, you are just being honest about how you feel. It would be his call and if he did break it up for something with you then what he had with her wasn't all that to begin with. All is fair in love and war right?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

True, true! Now, I'm all confused as to what to do, cause the me thats reading all these replies is ready to march right up to him and just say everything thats on my heart and mind, get it over with and go from there! Sitting behind this computer as just thekidsgirl, I feel like "oh, piece of cake...what was I fretting about"

But then, one I get up walk out of here I go back to being shy, insecure stacey and want to just sit outside in the cold feeling confused

I feel so torn, and I really gotta use the bathroom
why do I make everything so difficult.
Supa, you're my role model...I wish I could be more like you

thekidsgirl said:

Well in the year and a half since I broke up with my ex I have been trying to get over all my bullshit and fears and I have approached some guys to tell them I'm attracted and all that and there have been a couple times when I could tell there was no interest in my even saying words in their general direction so I just basically told them that I have been trying to be bold about my feelings and trying to get over my bullshit and my fears and that I didn't care what they thought that I wanted to say I thought they were hot! I straight out shot myself in the foot in order that I just say what I feel. Oh well, I said it and I meant it and in those instances I could tell they didn't care anyway so whatevs

Now take your dump and get some balls!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Thats exactly what I need to do! Get over my bullshit and fears and get some balls

I am gonna try, because life is alot easier when you don't give a damn what ppl think
But first things first...gotta take my dump

thekidsgirl said:

I love you

You have balls. they are called Ovaries! They just never descended

Yes, men and women can be "just friends". Sometimes it's more complicated than others.

And yes, tell him. Either he's into you or not, but either way you don't have to sit around wondering.

Although sometimes, I have to admit, it's kinda fun to let the tension build. Sometimes two opposites that never meet is way more exciting.

violator said:

I was thinking the same thing.

ThreadBare said:

Or even better...go ahead and find a new hot dude and don't even bother trying to make anyone jealous, just have some fun with a new interest.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, Carrie knows all about that She broke the tension one day while I was doing dishes!
[Edited 11/6/07 19:51pm]

JustErin said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

CarrieMpls said:

You dirty little girl

JustErin said:

That would probably be healthier than touturing myself with long dinners full of awkward silence or sitting by the phone wondering if he's going to remember our regular wed. night phone chat

I agree w/Erin.

Only if there's DEFINITELY no sexual attraction on the part of at least one of parties.

Although, generally speaking, men admit to me that they don't want to even be just friends with a woman they don't find attractive.

CarrieAnn said:

I am so happy to see you here.

Lothan said:

Awww, hey, same here. You keepin up the good fight and all in life, Lady?

CarrieAnn said:

Oh yes. real life got real kick ass the last couple of days.

CarrieAnn said:

I think I am a bit like that too my girlfriend once gasped and asked why all my male friends were so good looking, before proceeding to try and shag them all

ZombieKitten said:

I suppose it's just an evolutionary thing. We humans just can't seem to override our basic impulses, can we, even though we're supposed to be the ones with the intelligence!

CarrieAnn said:

yeah,
and even though we douse ourselves in artificial scents, those pheromones pervade

ZombieKitten said:

I find all of my friends really attractive too (male and female)
but sometimes I think people who have personalities that you like, just look better to you.

To me it's one of those "Which came first?" type of things...

Did you become friends because he/she was attractive OR
Is he/she attractive because he/she is your friend

thekidsgirl said:

actually that is very true of sexual partners for me - the more I love them, the more attractive they become (yeah, I loved them all )

There was a time when I thought I couldn't be physical with someone I thought of as a friend. And if something was going to happen, it had to happen fairly quickly or I soon put that person in the 'friend' category.

It's not like that anymore.

violator said:

the friend zone


ahh sexual tension is a wonderful thing to string along for years and years

ZombieKitten said:

Yeah... well youth and all that...

ZombieKitten said:

Hell Naw!
the "friend zone" sucks when you feel really strongly for your "friend"

ZombieKitten said:

That's only fun if you don't really want them but like to torture them.

Sexual tension from both sides with no eventual relief is not cool at all.

thekidsgirl said:

Feel strongly? As in strongly wanting to fuck?