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I have 2 agree with justerin here.
If you're not a bit "selfish", taking care of No.1. Then you're no good for anything, or anyone. It's vital to know when, and be able to end a disfunctional relationship. Most especially when you are a parent. small circles, big wheels!
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Rightly said: I have 2 agree with justerin here.
If you're not a bit "selfish", taking care of No.1. Then you're no good for anything, or anyone. It's vital to know when, and be able to end a disfunctional relationship. Most especially when you are a parent. I was the complete opposite from selfish in most of my last relationships and what a fucking wreck I was. These days I feel more together than ever before and I think it's because I take care of me first which I think is because I know if I don't it will have a direct effect on my son. | |
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I've never had the (dis)pleasure of living with a partner so I can't really answer objectively. Having lived with people I can, I can sometimes find it a bit trying. I enjoy my space and like a home to be calm and serene. Something I have experienced to different degrees. Having said that, I do enjoy the company of others and have bouts of loneliness.
I have never been in a relationship long enough to warrant, I feel, moving in together with a partner. I think I would possibly irritate them and vice versa through my independence, over sensitivity and awkwardness. Yet, these are the things we tolerate in partners and vice versa I guess. There's Joy In Expatriation. | |
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There's no ecaping loneliness - other than learning how to deal with it.
From my experience I know it's a big mistake to expect that someone can or should clear that issue for you. It always comes back to looking after yourself. small circles, big wheels!
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Rightly said: There's no ecaping loneliness - other than learning how to deal with it.
From my experience I know it's a big mistake to expect that someone can or should clear that issue for you. It always comes back to looking after yourself. I agree 100%. | |
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Rightly said: There's no ecaping loneliness - other than learning how to deal with it.
From my experience I know it's a big mistake to expect that someone can or should clear that issue for you. It always comes back to looking after yourself. True, but even in relationships sometimes, you can still get lonely. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: shaomi said: Tried it twice.
Swore 2 myself i'll never make that mistake again  Please elaborate. Well, sorry i was a lil bit off-topic. what i meant was that everytime i tried 2 live with a woman it ended up being a complete disaster 4 both of us so i definitly won't do it again with or without marriage Unless maybe i settle in India and marry an Indian girl  | |
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missfee said: shaomi said: Tried it twice.
Swore 2 myself i'll never make that mistake again Please elaborate. Well, sorry i was a lil bit off-topic. what i meant was that everytime i tried 2 live with a woman it ended up being a complete disaster 4 both of us so i definitly won't do it again with or without marriage Unless maybe i settle in India and marry an Indian girl | |
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shanti0608 said: ZombieKitten said: I reckon if I had not moved out before I was 18 I would have been kicked out too. My mom had a few set of rules that she stuck by no matter what. I think she made me aware of the "moving out before 18" one when I was about 10 years old. That way I could start planning I guess. I never got in to trouble, she just had a rule and that was that. She was that type of parent..she was a single mom so she had to be the mom and the dad..she sure accomplished that. She wanted me to be able to live on my own, she did not help me buy a car and I had to wait until I had enough money for the car and the insurance because I was not allowed on her insurance policy. I do not think I will be that strict if I have a child. She took it to the extreme. My parents always thought that making their children leave at 18 was cruel. I think it was more of a cultural thing. I kind of disagree with them now. If I was made to be more responsible at an early age I think I would be a more successful human being. I was sooooo spoiled. MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: shanti0608 said: My mom had a few set of rules that she stuck by no matter what. I think she made me aware of the "moving out before 18" one when I was about 10 years old. That way I could start planning I guess. I never got in to trouble, she just had a rule and that was that. She was that type of parent..she was a single mom so she had to be the mom and the dad..she sure accomplished that. She wanted me to be able to live on my own, she did not help me buy a car and I had to wait until I had enough money for the car and the insurance because I was not allowed on her insurance policy. I do not think I will be that strict if I have a child. She took it to the extreme. My parents always thought that making their children leave at 18 was cruel. I think it was more of a cultural thing. I kind of disagree with them now. If I was made to be more responsible at an early age I think I would be a more successful human being. I was sooooo spoiled. My mom's greatest fear was having a spoiled child. She used to tell my great grand mother not to hold me when she would drop me off at here house while she went off to work. There are disadvantages to making children grow up too soon and be responsible at an early age. I guess like anything there are pros and cons. You turned out to be a wonderful human being M so I think they did just fine. 
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shanti0608 said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: My parents always thought that making their children leave at 18 was cruel. I think it was more of a cultural thing. I kind of disagree with them now. If I was made to be more responsible at an early age I think I would be a more successful human being. I was sooooo spoiled. My mom's greatest fear was having a spoiled child. She used to tell my great grand mother not to hold me when she would drop me off at here house while she went off to work. There are disadvantages to making children grow up too soon and be responsible at an early age. I guess like anything there are pros and cons. You turned out to be a wonderful human being M so I think they did just fine.
I do not think if I ever had a child that I would be as strict as my mom, I would hope to have more balance. I too believe that balance is the key. MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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