alexandernevermind said:

Oh dear!

i don't think it is that people are "overly sensitive" i think it is that there are more and more people who make bad lifestyle decisions which affect their mindset.

for example, the more time folks spend here on the internet, the less time they are actually out in the REAL world learning skills they need to survive. as a result we see more and more people who are unhealthy and unbalanced, who spend their entire lives on the internet.

here are a few free tips: eat right. stop sitting around doing nothing but talking smack on the internet and cramming yourself with junk food. don't you know that shit kills your brain?

why not go outside and get some sunlight and exercise for a change? you will improve your physical condition as well as your mental outlook and you will feel much, much better as a result.

get OFF the computer and go OUT into the REAL world to learn some skills and to learn how to interact with other people. posting on the internet never did anything for a person except their waste time and ruin any chance of healthy personal interaction.

in other words, get a life.*
















*oh, and ps: sorry if i offended anyone. next time try not to be so overly sensitive

can't we learn to not give a fuck or to not be bothered and move on...if the org has become something you don't appreciate or enjoy anymore - move on...

I've heard it said many times that the org has changed alot...I lurked here for many years and in my eyes not alot has changed at all...

if you dont feel like you're getting out of it what you put into it, find somewhere or someone who will provide what you're looking for...

roodboi said:

I don't think it's as easy. I just think people want to fit-in regardless of where it might be. I do agree though just to ignore people who try to bring ya down. Most people on here are pretty nice.

roodboi said:

yep, the same people different day, bitch and snitch

horatio said:

Not to be "insensitive," but who died and left you all "masters of the forum"?


I'm just kidding, but then again, I don't think there is anything wrong with people sharing how they feel. If somebody has a complaint or has been hurt... well maybe he/she is just trying to "talk" about it? There's nothing wrong with that. At one point, a person DOES have to decide if it's worth it to keep coming back, but there's a lot of GOOD on this forum. I don't think people should leave because a few have been assholes--and there are a few who have been assholes. In other words, I don't think people who have some complaints are necessarily unjustified in sharing them. However, at one point if a person doesn't have anything good to say or is just unhappy participating all of the time, then yeah.. it might be time to move-on. I just don't agree that there isn't something or someone "good" here for everybody.
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HereToRockYourWorld said:

this thread is a flammin' bag of dog poo

horatio said:

...and should be blindly stomped on accordingly...

horatio said:

don't be so sensitive

Isel said:

it really is as easy as ignoring threads you know wont interest you and avoiding online pissing contests with other posters that you always disagree with...the thing I'm having a problem undestanding is what some expect from the org...
people should speak their minds but there comes a point with some where it becomes repetitive and pointless...like I said, if someobody feels they're not getting out of it what they put into it, then they should move on...thats what people do in real life, why should it be any different here?

roodboi said:

I think the problem seems to be that some people let a "few" assholes--or asshole-like behavior/confrontations whatever influence them. In other words, it's like one bully can change the whole dynamic for a person if he/she feels picked upon.

Have you ever run across internet bullies on message boards? I have. And I agree the best thing to do is stand-up for oneself and then ignore the bully. I used to be polite, but I've learned to stand-up for myself-and not back-down from expressing my opinions at least ONCE before letting it go. However, the problem is that unless the bully is banned, well he/she isn't going to change behavior, so it's going to happen again and will be something ALWAYS needing to be confronted. Nonetheless, I agree that it's pointless trying to change that person's behavior. It ain't gonna happen. It's all in the way we respond to bullies or not. It ain't going away.

I just think is a shame if people decide to leave this or any other forum based upon a few bad experiences with a select group of people. Don't you think most of the people here are pretty nice? I do.. and I've had my bad experiences just like anyone else. Now there are some "bullies" here, too. There's no denying it, but there are bullies on any internet site--or in real-life, too. I just don't allow those experiences to prevent me from posting if I have something to say.

Even though I'm not the most popular, I like this forum. So.. I'm not going to allow the fact that I'm not the most popular to influence me one way or another.
I figure, I don't cause any trouble, so why should I leave because some other people might be rude from time to time?

I might be HYPER-SENSITIVE , but I just don't want to trivialize somebody else's feeling if he/she has had some bad experiences by saying essentially "if you don't like it or can't take it, just leave."
I just think it's more about admitting that yeah people--myself included CAN BE insensitive sometimes. And yeah, we aren't going to like EVERYBODY on this forum. But there are cliques within cliques.. and "friendships" that develop outside of cliques--just like in high school! So.. I'm just trying to encourage people not to take it so seriously--and to realize if they have had bad experiences--well we ALL have had bad experiences, but those experience can't control a person.

eh

horatio said:

Isel said:

my mom is bi-polar. I always tell her she needs to smoke some pot.

horatio said:

Isel said:

I agree with everything you've said...

I agree, it's not fair to trivialize peoples feelings, but alot of the complaining comes from folks who, from time to time, participate in the very things they complain about...
If things are ever elevated to a personal level, then I agree thats something to be addressed...but for somebody to be dissatisfied with the direction they feel the site is taking with regards to their opinion of how the site should be, then after awhile the complaining falls on deaf ears...

cliques aside, opinions asides, quality threads or piss poor threads aside, most people come here to have fun...all I'm saying is choose the fun you want to have...if you find that you can't have your kind of fun, then maybe it's time to move on...when the majority of your time spent here is complaing about the site, then maybe its time to move on...

but other than that, I think everything is just right in the org universe and it's time for a party...

A bully on here can only really be a bully if they get a response. Ignoring them is the best thing you do. They are looking for a response, so why feed them if in the end it's just going to upset you? If it's not going to, I say go for it, fight away if that's what you really want.

I say think of a key word to always use in response to a bully's post, like always just say "loser" and nothing more. Then watch the bully beg for more of a response than that...but you never give it to them. Just keep on posting "loser". That kind of situation always cracks me up because it shows just how desperate for attention the bully really is...and in the end, they end up looking like the true weak one.











And if someone responds to this post with simply "loser" here is a preemptive "fuck you".

JustErin said:

:fuck you too, loser...

roodboi said:

Well.. maybe I just didn't understand the specifics!

But I have to admit, I have seen some heated discussions here and there where it's like one person trivializes the other. I think it's hard to take sometimes.. or it can be difficult to learn how to deal with it. I think a person's first response is to just take his/her toys and go home--particularly maybe a new member. I just think it's better to stand-up for oneselve--not back down.. Or to "call-out" person attacks.. not by resorting to a personal attack but either taking the higher road or maybe even addressing it in some situations. Sometimes people don't realize they are making things "personal," ya know?

I just don't think a person should leave due to the behavior of a few. Actually, even in my life off the internet.. learning how to deal with confrontation--and stand-up for myself here has helped me quite a bit. I stand-up for myself now more than I ever did before participating in messages boards. At one point, we all need to take a stand while learning how to "listen," too. I think this site has taught me how to "listen" better, too even though I might not agree.

JustErin said:

I always just say 'you have awesome hair'.

Fauxie said:

Loser.

JustErin said:

Fuck you.

chillichocaholic said:

This sounds so awfully familiar. I have to do this sometimes with my own boyfriend!!! Sad but true. Sometimes he'll get in this mood where he has to prove you wrong so that he can say he is right and then throw it in your face instead of letting it go. He's the type to be this insensitive character most of the time (trying to be macho I guess) then when you say some of the same things to him that he says to you or if you actually prove him wrong (as i have on many occasions with him looking stupid), he can't take it. He'll throw a fit, or ask why I have an attitude. My response is..."this is your mirror, don't like how it looks do you?"

And his mother is the same way. She's so quick to correct you on something if you are wrong. It's almost like you have to do your homework on the game of "life" before you talk to her...because she knows it all. But if you correct her, you better have proof you know what you are talking about or else she will say you are wrong to the end. And get this, if you say something awfully mean, then she looks hurt.

Why do people who act like assholes 90% of the time ready to cry when you pull the same stunts they pull right back on them?

and then most of the time I really don't give a fuck if my boyfriend is overly sensitive or not. I hope this isn't a bad thing...
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