I know that I should be grateful for the life I am living, but I am not happy at all at the moment . So I can relate, bestest friend .

Serious said:

That's one of the hardest feelings to deal with. When you should be happy but you're not.

Serious said:

funny if I had those tight abs, you have..I'd think I'd always be like but that's just me.

statuesqque said:

sometimes people are waiting for someone else to initiate change in their own lives. Maybe you wouldn't have to cut all ties, but could bring some people with you into a new place.

NDRU said:

Cinnie said:

That's me right there!


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NDRU said:

Love those cufflinks.

NDRU said:

It's not that I don't know why I am unhappy, but I can't find a way to change it. It's a dead end situation I am in . Still I am aware that many people got it far worse, but knowing that doesn't make me feel any better....

When I was younger and got bored nightclubbing, I'd ask myself, "What Would Mick Jagger Do?" I always figured Mick Jagger was the coolest dude out there, and I was sure he NEVER got bored.

So I'd just ask, "What would Mick do?" and creativity/fun/weirdness would ensue.

Later, someone ripped off my idea and started the "What Would Jesus Do?" concept but I didn't get any royalties.

I don't think Mick Jagger got any, either.

Serious said:

Ive never belittled the emotions of us spoiled folks! All people experience a full range of feelings and our sadness is sadness all the same.

Cinnie said:

the whole look is basically what I'm sporting right now!

Serious said:

When I get in that mood, one thing that jolts me out of it is this:

Go find someone random and do something nice and unexpected for them. Odds are that the joy you see in their face will make you feel good again.

RodeoSchro said:

Satisfaction? I think he had a song about that.

Seriously though (and it appears to have been said on here at least once), when I'm unsatisfied at any point, it's because I'm not giving enough. Things ALWAYS balance out in my heart that way. If it sounds too simple to be true, give it a whirl.

Cinnie said:

No, he got plenty of satisfaction. He just didn't get any royalties from my "What Would Mick Jagger Do?" concept.

Of course, I had no intention of paying him anything.

Cinnie said:

Yeah? There's no such thing as coincidence! Which post is it? I would love to read it.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

Thank you . But I have no tight abs, just a flat belly . So you think being good looking makes a person happy? Not that I consider myself that good looking, it could be a lot better and it could be a lot worse , just asking .

RodeoSchro said:

Maybe I should try that.
I haven't felt good for quite some time as I have to make a decision in my life and either way I could decide seems so wrong . So while I am trying to find my answer I have the feeling I am losing myself along the way if that makes any sense at all.

Serious said:

I think it helps, I am not a dog mind you, but I have always admired beauty.

NDRU said:

PaisleyPark5083 said:

I agree. I know it's shallow, but being not unhappy about the way you look certainly is something that is helpful for being in a good mood. But it's mainly about the way a person sees himself/herself, not how beautiful that person is considered by the "public". So it's about a state of mind and a healthy sense of self confidence IMO.

Serious said:

NDRU said:

good for you! As long as you don't change anything thinking it will please others. Especially when u change something about ur inner self, the best motivation is how the new you makes you feel. Nomatter how positive the change is, it doesn't always bring positive responses from the people around you, because people simply do what works.

I am currently being very much involved in the changeprocess of one of my girls. She is working on being more assertive, learning to stay true to what makes HER happy and letting go of her need to please others. One of her own girls is giving her a hard time about it, because she is simply used to hearing 'oh, okay' from my girl whenever she demands something from her. Instead of not taking it so personal and embracing the growth of her girl, she now functions as serious testmaterial when it comes to learning to say no to things she doesn't want to do.

Any change brings resistance when it changes what people can expect from u. That is why selfrespect and respect for others is equally as important in changing urself. Respectfully re-introduce urself and explain why it no longer works for u to handle matters the old way and stay true to your new approach to the situation.

It's very tricky. Yet, sooo interesting! What do YOU want to be satisfied?

NDRU said:

One thing that's odd is that what sounds like stability (like relationships & job & friends) are very tenuous if you think about it.

It seems like I should have deep roots by now. But then I should be thankful for what roots I have.

Cinnie said:

But you really hit it. It's all about our actions.

We are lucky to have as much freedom as we do, and we can really create our own worlds

NDRU said:

All our lives can change completely any day no matter how well-planned our lives may seem to be. It's the same with our look at life or our priorities in life.

My apologies. Apparently I'm alone on this one.