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PrintableIf heartbreak must happen, it is much better to get it out of the way, or that is something else that will keep you hung up on someone for a long time while you avoid being hurt but never really get over that person. Once you hurt and come to the realization that it won't happen, you can move on. But you have to tell them while your feelings are actually current. Otherwise they won't really understand your behavior from now on. | |
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benyamin said: JustErin said: This is a serious thread.
I'm not talking about falling in love org-wise. 
I love someone here. 
[Edited 10/30/07 11:09am] Hahahaha! This edit is very different from what you said originally. | |
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violator said: I hope you decide, ultimately, to tell him. I think you'll end up regretting it if he never knows how you feel. Or if you never force him to confront how you feel.
Yeah.... ps  | |
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Cinnie said: If heartbreak must happen, it is much better to get it out of the way, or that is something else that will keep you hung up on someone for a long time while you avoid being hurt but never really get over that person. Once you hurt and come to the realization that it won't happen, you can move on. But you have to tell them while your feelings are actually current. Otherwise they won't really understand your behavior from now on.
This is how I see it too. | |
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I feel so Pollyanna about this, but it's the god honest truth. I married the only man I have ever loved and said I love you to, we have been married now, 24 years and counting.  | |
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JustErin said: benyamin said:
I love someone here.
[Edited 10/30/07 11:09am] Hahahaha! This edit is very different from what you said originally. I know!  I got an angry IM. | |
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benyamin said: JustErin said: Hahahaha! This edit is very different from what you said originally. I know! I got an angry IM.
That's what I figured. | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: I feel so Pollyanna about this, but it's the god honest truth. I married the only man I have ever loved and said I love you to, we have been married now, 24 years and counting.
That's sweet. Its so great when that happens and people are truly happy. That's not my lifestyle though. | |
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JustErin said: benyamin said: I know! I got an angry IM.
That's what I figured. And I'm supposed to be the man in this relationship.  | |
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JustErin said: Cinnie said: If heartbreak must happen, it is much better to get it out of the way, or that is something else that will keep you hung up on someone for a long time while you avoid being hurt but never really get over that person. Once you hurt and come to the realization that it won't happen, you can move on. But you have to tell them while your feelings are actually current. Otherwise they won't really understand your behavior from now on.
This is how I see it too. They are words of wisdom Erin  | |
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dress up in some lace and wait till he walks into the club, wait a bit then start singing beautiful ones, if he starts crying when you get to the bit about you wanting him, him wanting you. then you are onto a winner...
if the fucker starts laughing or worse looks embarassed, then sorry baby you lucked out... personally i think you need to address why you find it so hard to be yourself around men you like, shit, if you played it like you can play it, this whole thing would be the other way around and he would be telling you, rather than you telling him. but anyways that's another story and this is still some brave shit baby, go for it and good luck... are you ready for submission
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JustErin said: PaisleyPark5083 said: I feel so Pollyanna about this, but it's the god honest truth. I married the only man I have ever loved and said I love you to, we have been married now, 24 years and counting.
That's sweet. Its so great when that happens and people are truly happy. That's not my lifestyle though. and I understand that...it runs in my family though. My 2 sisters have been married 32 and 29 years...and my parents and grandparents to their death bed. wierd, I guess. | |
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eraclito said: personally i think you need to address why you find it so hard to be yourself around men you like, shit, if you played it like you can play it, this whole thing would be the other way around and he would be telling you, rather than you telling him.
wayyy easier said than done | |
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Cinnie said: eraclito said: personally i think you need to address why you find it so hard to be yourself around men you like, shit, if you played it like you can play it, this whole thing would be the other way around and he would be telling you, rather than you telling him.
wayyy easier said than done life is some difficult shit, i agree... are you ready for submission
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Everytime I pop on a Prince tune, I fall in love with eraclito.  He knows why.Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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anyway, erin, don't be a wuss (like me) and just tell him.  | |
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INSATIABLE said: Everytime I pop on a Prince tune, I fall in love with eraclito.
He knows why. | |
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eraclito said: Cinnie said: wayyy easier said than done life is some difficult shit, i agree... That's a whole other thread right there. It has to do with a severe lack of confidence. | |
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JustErin said: I'm a complete idiot when it comes to dealing with boys I like.
I'm gonna go with what Ace suggested and if the conversation doesn't end right there and we start talking a bit I will tell him how I feel about him. I think that's a good mix of both suggestions. Agreed! |
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CarrieMpls said: Ace said: Anyone who's a regular here knows that well. I wasn't implying that you're desperate; just that everybody would be better off rubbing one out instead of chasing something that I believe is not compatible with human nature. That's your key right there. "I always compare marriage to communism: they're both institutions that don't conform to human nature, so you're going to end up with lying and hypocrisy." - Bill Maher | |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said: I'm a complete idiot when it comes to dealing with boys I like.
I'm gonna go with what Ace suggested and if the conversation doesn't end right there and we start talking a bit I will tell him how I feel about him. I think that's a good mix of both suggestions. Agreed! Don't do it!  | |
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On the very few times that I've done this,
I was smart about it. I didn't tell her until after she finished blowing me. It keeps the situation from becoming awkward. | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: JustErin said: That's sweet. Its so great when that happens and people are truly happy. That's not my lifestyle though. and I understand that...it runs in my family though. My 2 sisters have been married 32 and 29 years...and my parents and grandparents to their death bed. wierd, I guess. Not weird. Beautiful. | |
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Illustrator said: On the very few times that I've done this,
I was smart about it. I didn't tell her until after she finished blowing me. It keeps the situation from becoming awkward. LOL, you could moan "I love you" and if the other person goes weird on you, you could say you were moaning "I love it" and save face. | |
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Ace said: "I always compare marriage to communism: they're both institutions that don't conform to human nature, so you're going to end up with lying and hypocrisy." - Bill Maher
Bill Maher is an idiot. | |
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send him a link to this thread | |
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One4All4Ever said: send him a link to this thread
Very funny. | |
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RodeoSchro said: Illustrator said: On the very few times that I've done this,
I was smart about it. I didn't tell her until after she finished blowing me. It keeps the situation from becoming awkward. LOL, you could moan "I love you" and if the other person goes weird on you, you could say you were moaning "I love it" and save face. My intention was leaning more towards saving head than saving face. (Oh, & BTW, I hope that this doesn't cum off as me correcting your grammar. I'm not. I hate it when someone does that to me. She's such a sweet old lady.) | |
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Illustrator said: RodeoSchro said: LOL, you could moan "I love you" and if the other person goes weird on you, you could say you were moaning "I love it" and save face. My intention was leaning more towards saving head than saving face. (Oh, & BTW, I hope that this doesn't cum off as me correcting your grammar. I'm not. I hate it when someone does that to me. She's such a sweet old lady.) I see no reason why my advice would not save both head and face. [Edited 10/30/07 14:52pm] | |
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paintedlady said: Never tell your boyfriend you're in love, unless you know he loves you first.
Telling some one you love them too soon is a sure recipe for being taken for granted. Keep your cool, keep him wondering How the fuck is someone your boyfriend if they don't LOVE YOU and can't say it  .
If it's just a crush, a datemate, or a fuck buddy you're trying to progress a step forward with I could (possibly) understand. But a "boyfriend" is something different all together. Even if you're not trying to marry the sommamabitch, at least you should know beforehand if he's got your back emotionally before you become entangled. Otherwise that clearly is not your man, and essentially you're just dating and/or fuckin'around ...  | |
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