I think the real question is, do you swallow on the first date?

For me it depends on why I wanted to date them in the first place. If I'm interested in a person just for fun, there's nothing wrong with having sex right away. However, if I really like a guy and want him for more than sex, I know better than to have sex on a first date. Rarely, rarely does sex on the first date end up in a relationship. Just depends what you're looking for.

Good question! They say you ought to build up a personal connection first in order for true respect to build and all that, but I almost always end up doing it on the first date. However, I do respect a lady who sleeps with me on the first date. Mind you, if someone wanted to wait I would respect that to.

Natasha said:

YES...the sexual energy between two people is very important...but I do live in West Hollywood and we play by a different set of rules out here...It would suck if you go on several dates with someone and they're totally cool and you can see yourself maybe being with this person for awhile and then you have sex and the sex sucks...no sexual energy or connection...what do you then?

Natasha said:

i insist on sex on the first date or no dinner for you!

NewFunk said:

Funny, I thought sex on a first date always ended with sex! Or maybe calling a taxi...

sex on the 1st "date"?


been there, done that,
wouldn't do it again (though it probably would be a struggle to resist)
& yes, I learned this "the hard way"


needless to say, once you've had sex with someone, you don't see them the same way (positively or negatively) anymore.

if you're physically attracted to someone (& they to you)
the chances are MINIMAL that the sex wouldn't be great.
lest anyone forget, sex is not only about "the act" itself, it involves other elements. the more solid those elements are, the better the overall experience will be.


plus, there is something
undescribably delicious
to be said for.. "sexual tension"..

I think people should get to know each other first before they have sex. There is more to a good relationship than sex.

If you get to know someone, enjoy their company and want to be with them, adding sex to the equation makes the relationship better, it adds another layer. However, if you just go out with somebody and bang them the first time you go out, what is that adding? What kind of relationship can you build on?

There will always be exceptions in that some people can turn a first night sex date into a relationship, but I think the odds are against that happening.

Although in the past I was a bad example, I actually do not advocate pre-marital sex.

I tend to steer away from sex on the first date...knowing a person first is important to me.

Besides the build up can be fantastic.

sag10 said:

Oooh sag!

If by 'first date' you mean Honeymoon, YES.

I prefer it. Takes away mcuh of the anxiety associated with the first kiss which should come much later like your 5th date, what kind of girl do you think i am anyway?

Not with the woman you want to marry.

If you have sex with a guy on the first date, he's going to think about how many other guys you've done the same thing with.

In my opinion me prefer to wait on having sex with a man. The first date should be to get to know eachother. I don't need to know right away how a man in bed on the first date. I know some people don't mind it having sex on the first date and hey thats cool for them. I'm a sensitive person when it comes to men a first date in bed could mean a one night stand, and I refuse to give into that possibility of that happening. I think its important to also let the person a head of time know what you don't want to happen on the first date. I tell men that me went on first dates with that me feel uncomfortable with kissing on the lips or sex on the first date. I don't mind a hug, but the lips kissing and sex is out on the first date.Some were cool and respect that, but others told me its better the first date doesn't happen between us. I want a man to love me, and me love him before doing all the intimate stuff.
[This message was edited Tue Oct 15 19:16:46 PDT 2002 by kondwanii]

questin should b do u beieve in date on the first sex?

No...wait until marriage

I'm not adverse to a goodnite blowjob after the first date,
but hey, that's just me...
WANNA GO OUT???

00769BAD said:

You are so sick in the head and I'm not talking about the one you use to think with I'm talking about the one on your neck and shoulders.

I'm sure sex on the first date exists. I would say that science could probably conclusivly prove its existence. However, since there probably hasn't been any kind of extensive research on it, I will have to go on faith for now.

Do I believe in it?

Hell, I count on it!

JediMaster said:

Great minds... they say:

IceNine said:

:LOL:

I don't think it's a big deal to have sex on the first date. Although, I wouldn't judge the sex based upon the first time as I've found my chemistry gets better the more often I do it with the same girl. I've had sex with girls who it really wasn't that good with but then the 3rd, 4th time it was. Maybe it's me I don't know...

It's quite funny because whenever you hear rockers talk it's always like I had Sex with her on the first date. Or Stallone and Jagger it's like either you give me what I want Babe or you are History. I think alot of Hollywood guys and Rockers have this Mentality that if they want somebody they just have their Agent arrange a Meeting and they Get it On. It's Absloutely that Simple. They want Somebody they just Get the Person and it's On .

So now what about Promiscuous sex you know you see him in a club and you go o.k. I'm gonna dance with him or her and then you are like well I'm all hot for you and all should we you know go into the Bathroom and Fuck? How about when you are Crusin and just want Sex? Do ya? Do ya Do It? Or are those days Over? Do you Worry or still Hit it? Can you just have a one Night Stand and do ya like them? Can't ya just have Sex for Sex' sake and be Done with it?
[This message was edited Thu Oct 17 20:32:04 PDT 2002 by Natasha]

"Do you believe in sex on the first date?"

Believe in it? I insist on it!

No. i feel u should get to know the person 1st, if your in need of sex right away, stay home and be alone...sex is always that much better after having feelings 4 the person.

nope. before the first date. then relax and enjoy a leisurely dinner.

i believe in sex without dating.

i dont know if having sex earlier on in a relationship can really do it any good, i learnt the difficult way, unfortunately...