It just does not exist now does it? I mean in finding what you "really" want in your mate. The old adage goes...."There's always SOMETHING"...isn't there!

So where do we draw the line? When do we say...ok...this person possesses all these wonderful attributes...so I will "settle" and take what I can get. Or do we all stay damned to being single and picky?

Show's yer cock, Dex.

DexMSR said:

You shouldn't go looking for things, just meet someone and fall in love. I was only ever concerned with ethics

I'm one of the picky ones. I know beggars can't be choosers but my standards have gotten higher.

ThirdandFinal said:

exactly.

Number23 said:

Uhhhhh.....??

ThirdandFinal said:

Is it this easy?

I've never thought i was a picky person but there just qualities that I like.....there's a vibe that I dig...there's a swagger I need.


just gonna go fall in love today...

I am now starting to be a very picky person, which I hope does not mean I will be single forever

Rhondab said:

yeah, I'm not quite sure i know how that works.

Besides, you can love someone with all your heart and not be able to make a relationship work.

Rhondab said:

wow

love is a totally different thing. I was in love but he didn't do the things he was supposed to do so I left his ass and got over it. I think its true that there is no such thing as total package you just have to ask your self what you think you can put up with on a long term basis. Like for me I don't follow anybody. I don't care where you go or when but if you do the things your supposed to do its gravy. A man has to have me as a top priority (if its wrong or right too bad). If not the shit gets old real fast I expect to be treated exactly the way I treat the person I'm with they get what they give. oh! and love helps to j/k btw I'd rather wait till i'm 100 years old than be stuck with someone who isnt right for me

Choosy beggar here.

retina said:

I don't think anyone can be "the total package"
My husband for instance, I would not change for anyone else, or all the money in the world. But, is he the total package, no. I love everything about him except the sports fetish he has. He must watch every sport on tv. He channel surfs if there is more then one game going on (which there always is)
He loves his sports, football, baseball, basketball, soccer, boxing, etc. He also loves to watch poker on tv.
Now I on the other hand, I would not care if sports fell off the face of the earth. But, I love him, so I either..watch with, or always have a good book or magazine on hand and sit with him. He doesn't go out to sports bars to watch them, he doesn't even have guys over for guys night to watch them. He is happy as a clam if I hang out with him, while he watches, and if I throw a few questions in there for good measure..ooh baby!!

DexMSR said:

We settle down alot older these days and become more picky because we have lived our lives alone and become mopre independant. Finding someone who really is THE ONE is so hard, as our vision is marred and we want perfection.

Sometimes I wished I had settled down earlier in life, but had that happened, maybe I wouldn't have experienced the things I have done as a single person. It's too late now to change things so..

I guess if by total package you mean your idea of "perfection" then no. Perfection in a person simply doesn't exist.

But I think you can get awfully close. That's when you decide what you can live with and what you can't. And they decide that for you as well. lol.

I am extremely picky and go with physical chemistry the most, then hopefully everything else falls into place and hopefully the bad things about them are not that bad.

DexMSR said:

The total package completely exists!


I'm just never the object of the total package's attentions.

retina said:

Oh lawd!!! We should start a Choosy Beggars club on here.

Imago said:

no one's completely perfect!

Imago said:

evenstar said:

back at ya

CarrieMpls said:

You smoke with wet hair. I mean. Come on! You. smoke. with. wet. hair.

Imago said:

The man I love now, as impossible as it is, is indeed "the total package". He is brilliant, funny, warm, humble sometimes and a bit cocky at others and cares about the same things I care about and last but not least, he is drop dead gorgeous in my eyes. He is everything I ever wanted.

For whatever reasons, we can't be together but there is no way I would ever settle for less than anyone who is not just like him. He is my prototype. I don't care if I don't fit some classic sense of the word beautiful or if I have kids, it is by no means, any reason to say I deserve less. I will never, ever settle.

Imago said:

I smoke with wet hair right in your face, too.

Lothan said:

that.is.so.sweet.

Number23 said:

CarrieMpls said:

Lothan said:

You shouldn't have to settle!! I've learned that in the last 10 years.