I have just had a long conversation on the phone with an old friend I haven't spoken in say 7 years.
I have caught up with a good deal other friends I thought I had lost contact with in the last few weeks/months through that site we know as facebook.
FriendsReunited sucks.

But isn't it lovely when you hear from an old friend?

Do you have any stories to tell?

Yes.


I took my mom on this uber long vacation in Europe this year.

When we got to Germany, I took her to a small town called Paderborn, where an old Thai friend of hers (she's Thai too) lived with her husband for the last 20 years. My mother had not actually seen mhery friend for almost 30 years.

I captured it on film and it was terribly touching when they met. Her friend pulls up in a small car, gets out, and shaking and laughing, and crying at the same time hugged my mom.

It's one of the most unpracticed, sincere smiles I've ever seen on my mom's face. She actually teared up which is very very rare to see on my mom, cause for some weird reason she always thought showing tears was a sign of weakness.

It made the entire trip worth it.

As far as me personally, old friends always find me

And it's often annoying cause I don't exactly want to relive those years with them.

Yeah, but it's not a nice story. I saw at the grocery store the other day, my old doctor (we changed because of insurance reasons) she was truely the nicest lady, and she knew the family really well, she was our dr. for god sakes. Anyways, I hid from her, because I was in a way hurry (just ran in for some milk) and I had not seen her in about 4 years, so I knew we had a lot to catch up on and the such. I am usually not so rude, but I had to get home, I was running late blah, blah, blah

Imago said:

Oh, goodness.

Heres how I do it

Imago said:

That is priceless!

I don't know what it is with old friends, they always hold you in high regard, love you no matter what and when you hear the smile in their voices when they are talking to you, nothing can ever match that.

Imago said:

What did you do to them?

INSATIABLE said:

I know.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

Why did you run?

I found my first boyfriend on MySpace we have always been friends and we still talk every now and then.

MissMe said:

I was a naughty boy back then


I don't want to hear, "remember that time we were at Gener and Steves, and we all ended up in the bedroom with that machine?? "

EverSoulicious said:

That's so cool. I have been looking for "some" old boyfriends, as we have just lost touch, we were still friends afterwards, but they have moved about, as I have and thought I would find them. Funnily enough, I seem to bump into them when I am totally unprepared, but not online which would be so much easier.

Imago said:

And the machine was called Dumb Diane, who you took advantage of but told her she was cool?

Illustrator said:

If you go so fast, how can you see them?

MissMe said:

I hadn't spoken to him in 18 years.....I kinda freaked him when I found him But I'm glad I did, I missed our friendship.

EverSoulicious said:

Isn't it weird how time flies and 18 years seems like 2 years or sometimes less?

MissMe said:

For me yes, for him no He got married, they had a kid, got divorced, he got married again and is now divorced...again. He did a lot

MissMe said:

Because I was running really late, I was late getting off work, which meant my whole day was off, then I still needed to pick up one daughter from practice, and one daughter from her friends house. Plus dinner was not cooking itself.
bad self! I felt really bad afterwards, and now I am feeling guilty.

It's not always a good thing...

I hadn't seen my old friend Brett for about a decade, when we met-up in 2005.

I spent a good part of my early teens with him. We started smoking together, drinking together, went on bike rides together - even masturbated together. I'm talking like between the ages of 13 and 16. He was like the cool kid who moved onto our street one day and I have no idea how we became friends, as I most definitely wasn't cool.

His home was always a pig-sty. There was always dirty pots in the sink, dribbles of piss on the toilet seat and laundry strewn around the entire house as if their washing machine had exploded. His dad, Graham, was this big hairy beast of a man whom permanently walked around in boxer shorts, string vest and sandals. Graham had the hairiest shoulders and back I've ever seen. His step-mother, Cynthia, looked a little like Cher before all the surgery.

Cynthia always had booze in the house. She loved booze, her two dogs, chainsmoking, knitting, playing darts, ABBA and watching Prisoner Cell Block H. She also let her stepsons drink and smoke in the house, as she reasoned that if they were doing it under her roof within her supervision, they wouldn't be doing it on the streets. However, unlike my parents, Brett's parents were hardly ever home...

Brett also had two brothers, a slightly older one and a slightly younger one. The older one was always walking around half-naked (like their father) with his dick flopping out of his shorts. I will forever associate the smell of that house with the smell of men. I was agog half the time. To my teenage mind, their home was a magical nirvana. The 'Sign 'O' The Times' album and "The Black Album" seemed to be the soundtrack to the last Summer I spent at that place. It was literally and metaphorically the threshold between my childhood and adulthood.

Well, to cut a long story short, Brett moved to his birth-mother's home after Cynthia found his pot-stash under his bed and threw him out. By this time, we'd drifted apart. Brett had enrolled at college and I was stumbling from one under-paid job to another. For reasons I can't recall, we always stayed in touch - firstly by a phone call a few times a year, then by text and later by email. We weren't close at the time of his departure, so I have no idea why we remained in contact. We had absolutely nothing in common except our pasts.

Oh. I'll finish this story later, there's something I wanted to watch on the telly starting soon and I'm going to make some tea and toast.

It's funny that you write this because I just ran into a friend I haven't spoke to in 7 years. She wasn't a very good friend to begin with. She was one of those that always had problems and needed help but could never offer help in return. I've been avoiding her but knew it was just a matter of time before I ran into her somewhere. She gave me her phone # and now I have to decide if I want to call her. Part of me wants to know what's going on in her life because I'm nosy but there's a big part that's still very bitter about the way she treated me. I'm reluctant to let her back into my life. I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I tell myself it has been 7 years and people do change. If I do call her (which I probably will), I will definitely tell her about herself and let her know that shit wasn't cool.

Thanks for posting this thread. I feel a bit relieved now.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

Couldn't you just have got a phone no. or address?

MissMe said:

I know her # and address, she was my doctor. I'll call her right now

JuliePurplehead said:

7 years? And by your profile you would be 23? Please!
I know some people aren’t good friends to begin with but you may have common knowledge when growing up together. But times do change. If I were to look back at people I went to school, college with and still judged them as I did back then, then none of us would have a chance in life. Fact of the matter is, there are those I knew in my past, I wouldn’t have even blinked at, but give and take a few years, growing up, those I may have avoided back then, have become great friends now. Why? Because they gave ME the benefit of the doubt, and are doing so well and have changed and have never judged ME! So now why should I judge them because of how I felt when I was young and immature?
Again, as I say give them the benefit of the doubt. Some friends you have lost contact with and get together can be the most precious of friendships. If she/he comes across as never having changed, then at least you know, and you can walk away. But you did give her/him another chance.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

do it!

Imago said:

you needed a NEW POSITION imago.....lol

Justin1972UK said:

An old best friend of mine called me up a couple of weeks ago. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 6 years. He told me he got my number from another old
friend that I bumped into a few months before. But it was good speaking to him. We talked about what was new in our lives, did we have any kids yet in all. And all the crazy shit was used to do back in the day, we had big laughs taking a trip back.

myfavorite said:

actually, i saw an old friend from high school, who invited me to a comedy store he's performing at this weekend. I know it will be fun becuase he is like the link to all the other friends i haven't seen in a long while from school. I've always had a crush on him, even though he has a wife now, we have a history.

I've been catching up with high school friends recently, it's nice, considering that I'm not shy as i used to be anymore