heartbeatocean said:

Others' problems always look pretty obvious, don't they?

I think he was excited about having looked at his feelings for the first time in his life, and he thought I should, too. But I'd been looking at my feelings my whole life.

Therapy can help, but for some people it's just emotional masturbation because they are constantly spilling their guts.

For me it doesn't help much, because most therapists don't even direct, they just listen. If I was to get help, I'd need direction.

I suggest that to anyone who isn't seeing one. But that's just me

I would love to go see one

superspaceboy said:

everyone should probably try it a couple times at least.

NDRU said:

I had a therapist on and off for ten years. It got to a point where she didn't have any more to teach me. I had simply outgrown her. It was obvious that I knew myself and what I needed -- much more than she did, and I began distrusting her feedback and seeing around it as biased, always coming through her lens. I actually consider myself to be a very self-aware person, that's why giving my problems over to a student-in-training seems ridiculous to me. To have someone to hash out my past and my emotions with, and entrust them with that power, I need to have deep respect for them. I already have a few people like that in my life.

Now if we're talking couples counseling -- using someone as a moderator to enhance communication, that's something different.

But what I need now is advice on getting a job! I need to go to the Job Bank!

ZombieKitten said:

It's expensive.

I don't know how it is there, but here you get only a few sessions covered by insurance, by which time you've just begun to address some of your problems.

heartbeatocean said:

I imagine therapy would only be effective for fairly short amounts of time--say several months at a time. A re-examining of your life, and then try it on your own for a while. I could imagine it becoming redundant after a while.

And maybe you should suggest couples therapy?

NDRU said:

Good insights.

How about couples counseling? May enlighten as to the relationship itself or the blend of the two of you?




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dump him, armchair diagnosis people irritate me...unless he is a therapist...then...maybe, listen

I think the org is doing a great job at being my therapist

heartbeatocean said:

People want to discount the actual good you can get from this place but by god, if my salvation happened here it can happen to anyone

heartbeatocean said:

How long have you dated him?

xplnyrslf said:

7 months

heartbeatocean said:

How long has he been talking about therapy?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

a long time, it came up quite early in the relationship

heartbeatocean said:

Do you feel that he doesn't want to hear you? I became quite frustrated that my partner was unable to be open to hear my journey and it made me feel quite lonely. Do you feel like you have had the chance to talk out this issue of your relationship with him or did he never really give you the platform for expression and comfort in doing so?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

it started as a few casual suggestions, and I humored the idea. But now I'm firming up my attitude toward the subject. He'll hear about it.

I've read this thread and re-read it. I'm with Slavetothegroove. What I would do in this situation: Lose the guy.
You've done the therapy route, and know how it can and cannot help you.
He's enough to drive you to therapy.....

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I think that's a great idea considering the circumstances.

xplnyrslf said:

thanks

NDRU said:

agree

NDRU said:

Ditto!

heartbeatocean said:

Is he suggesting a menage a trois....and I KNOW i didn't spell that right.



a threeway...u know what i mean....damn...i ruined the joke

heartbeatocean said:

Maybe he wants a threesome and has a thing for therapists.

Or did you mean that he suggests you look for help?

heartbeatocean said:

i thought your name was heartofbacon

And on a more serious note - you're on the org. So yes, most chances are that you need to see a therapist

heartbeatocean said:

Maybe that's his way of saying that he thinks you guys should see other people.

horatio said:

I'm a vegetarian.