Hey guys and gals . I usually don't post personal stuff on here . But i think its cool how we have a family type atmosphere on here and we can come to each other for advice on various situations . so here goes .....


I need a "first date" idea . Well its not really a first date ... Ive known this guy for about 3 years. We have been friends during that time .. not super close friends. We'd do lunches or go out for drinks every so often . We've both been involved in separate relationships during that time , but have always been in contact with each other and shared advice. Now, during this time , Ive always had interest in him , but thought he was not interested in me in that way and was happy being just friends. Well while we are on one of our occasional friendly lunches last week ..he lays on me..."what would you think if we actually went on a date date and see how that goes" After thinking it over for about 2 seconds , I coolly replied ..." yeah , Id like that a lot"


Ok so its time to make plans for the weekend.... yes its a first date ... typically that would be dinner out , talk , get to know each other, followed by a movie or something like that . Weve been there and done that several times as friends . I wanted to do something different , but not over step the "first date" bounds.

Heres what I had in mind and let me know what you guys think or if you have anything good up your sleeve . I was going to suggest when he got here. We go out to the grocery store, pick up some stuff for dinner , come back to my place, cook it together. After dinner we'd go out and do a movie or something. Now , I'm thinking this is cool because it would give us a chance to interact on a different level.. give us a chance to learn some different things . like how we interact together when trying to complete a task (neither one of us are cooks so it should be fun).

Then on second thought , im thinking this may be too much for a real first date... like im trying to say ..."see , heres what it would be like if we lived together , or you were my serious boyfriend" and I dont want to scare him away . This thing is 3 years in the making.... maybe I should keep it the standard going out to dinner?

So , what do you think? Im open to any other cool first date but not really first date ideas. thanks in advance.

Going to get groceries and coming back home to cook sounds good. But instead of going out to the movies y'all could rent a movie and stay in and watch it.

DanceWme said:

I thought that would be cool too. But I didnt want to push it. yeah , i worry to much ...lol

I've never quite understood why in North America "going on a date" is often so totally separated from just "hanging out". Why the big hoopla, it's all just about getting to know each other better, right? And in this case you already know what each other like to do, so just go with that.

newpower99 said:

push it..push it real good

retina said:

yes, its all pretty stupid.

Well, since you already know him - "date" has to go beyond the dinner/movie/conversation i.m.h.o

I would suggest you take him go-carting or to play mini-golf, something that you will have FUN with. When you are having fun, you smile alot - never underestimate the power that smiles have! Take along a digital camera - and use it!!! Show him a side of you he hasn't seen yet.

Then afterwards, invite him back to your place to look at the pictures and have a drink or dessert. Print out some pix to send home with him