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Printablerushing07 said: evenstar said: awww  that kinda happened to me when i was 14 or 15. i did  at this gorgeous boy all through mass one sunday, and then when he came up to me after and found out i didn't speak spanish he walked off. i was so heartbroken You make Jesus cry  what else is a bored, agnostic teenager supposed to do to while away the time?  | |
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onenitealone said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Sister, please! I got the hookup all the time only to find out they live in other states or other countries!
 I have outoftowndar 
Oh my God - TELL me about it.  A few months ago, I was out with some mates and one of them asked how my love life was going. I mentioned how I'd met some guy - but he lived in the north of England; miles away from me  - and how I'd also met some other guy a few weeks before - but he was from Venezuela. My mate said "Your problem is that you always go for guys who live miles away from you".  I was, like, "I don't go UP to guys and ask them where they live on the map or something?!?". How the hell do you know where someone's from when you notice them? It's just sheer coincidence.
Anyway, we went to this bar around the corner and I met a guy... from Scotland. My mate was, like, 'Hmmmm...'. 
See, my friends blame me too! I have been doing this thing where I've been approaching guys and telling them I think they are hot or whatever and 9 times out of 10 they live out of state or in another country! LA is so huge so it's totally possible to be seeing people you never saw before that live in the city but damn. Wait, this happened with some dude who lives in Wales 
I've gotten to the point that if I'm talking with someone and things are feeling like they are going good, I ask them if they even live in LA [Edited 9/24/07 16:34pm] 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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evenstar said: rushing07 said: You make Jesus cry what else is a bored, agnostic teenager supposed to do to while away the time? Burst aflame? I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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This is one of those situations where you go with your gut. If your first impression of the situation was that she was showing interest (and there certainly seemed to be by what you stated) then rejection probably wasn't a real risk. You have nothing to lose, besides a bruised ego, and everything to gain.
And yes, I have been in a situation like that.... once... and it nagged me enough that I swore I'd never let it happen again. carpe diem, young man... carpe diem | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: I've gotten to the point that if I'm talking with someone and things are feeling like they are going good, I ask them if they even live in LA
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rushing07 said: evenstar said: what else is a bored, agnostic teenager supposed to do to while away the time? Burst aflame? i really should have, for all the things i used to think during mass | |
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evenstar said: rushing07 said: Burst aflame? i really should have, for all the things i used to think during mass Now I think we could be friends, you know. If not for that Herman situation of course. I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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rushing07 said: evenstar said: i really should have, for all the things i used to think during mass Now I think we could be friends, you know. If not for that Herman situation of course.  yeah, we'll always be an inch away from scratching each other's eyes out over him. | |
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violator said: This is one of those situations where you go with your gut. If your first impression of the situation was that she was showing interest (and there certainly seemed to be by what you stated) then rejection probably wasn't a real risk. You have nothing to lose, besides a bruised ego, and everything to gain.
And yes, I have been in a situation like that.... once... and it nagged me enough that I swore I'd never let it happen again. carpe diem, young man... carpe diem Um, I think you're misunderstanding the reasons why I left. It wasn't fear of rejection, it was because my friends were leaving and were urging me to join them, and I had to make a quick decision. And sorry to disappoint you but I'm not particularly young, and don't really have any use for worn out latin quotes. But thanks anyway.  | |
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evenstar said: rushing07 said: Now I think we could be friends, you know. If not for that Herman situation of course. yeah, we'll always be an inch away from scratching each other's eyes out over him. just remember that now, out in college, Spooky is much more susceptible to suggestion... [Edited 9/24/07 16:55pm] I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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retina said: violator said: This is one of those situations where you go with your gut. If your first impression of the situation was that she was showing interest (and there certainly seemed to be by what you stated) then rejection probably wasn't a real risk. You have nothing to lose, besides a bruised ego, and everything to gain.
And yes, I have been in a situation like that.... once... and it nagged me enough that I swore I'd never let it happen again. carpe diem, young man... carpe diem Um, I think you're misunderstanding the reasons why I left. It wasn't fear of rejection, it was because my friends were leaving and were urging me to join them, and I had to make a quick decision. And sorry to disappoint you but I'm not particularly young, and don't really have any use for worn out latin quotes. But thanks anyway. Wow! The fact that you had to clarify that it wasn't about rejection..... That sounded awfully defensive 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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onenitealone said: Peter, you are NOT alone.
Trust me - I should make 'missed opportunity' my middle names. Aww, sorry to hear that, man. But thanks for the sympathy. | |
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heartbeatocean said: I lived in Paris for 5 months when I was 21. It was one or two days before my flight was to take me out of there and a boy who was c-u-t-e saw me on the street. He stopped me and said something like I would be really special to him. When I told him I was leaving, he offered to buy me another ticket so I could stay longer.
 (Parisian guys are like that ) I always thought that was a missed opportunity. Because he was c-u-t-e.So would you really have felt comfortable if he'd bought you a new ticket? It would almost be like buying your time with money, wouldn't it? If you think about it, maybe you would have made the same decision again? That's what I try to think when I end up in situations like this. It usually helps a bit. | |
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violator said: This is one of those situations where you go with your gut. If your first impression of the situation was that she was showing interest (and there certainly seemed to be by what you stated) then rejection probably wasn't a real risk. You have nothing to lose, besides a bruised ego, and everything to gain.
And yes, I have been in a situation like that.... once... and it nagged me enough that I swore I'd never let it happen again. carpe diem, young man... carpe diem I agree, go with your gut even when your flesh doesn't want you to!!!!! One time I was hanging at the neighborhood bar and this guy was sitting there by himself and I was eyeing him and decided to do my little Hi, I think you're hot but I don't care if you care I just wanted to say what I wanted to say routine and so I wrote down my number but I had the biggest nagging feeling not to get involved. By all outward appearances everything was fine 
So I kept the number in my pocket but still said hello and turns out that he is a transplant from the south. The Carolina's or Alabama or some godforsaken place Well he starts goin on:
The people here are really scandalous What do you mean? Oh, just the way of life in this city....it's not like the south where I'm from
whatever, I just let his comment slide as I'm not a fan of the political and social bullshit in the south and maybe about 10 minutes after that conversation he tells me about his ex boyfriend and how he was cheating on him and this guy tells me he was only a top when he was with his boyfriend but then when he found out his boyfriend was cheating with some married guys, that he went out and learned how to be a bottom and stole all those married men away from his boyfriend and how he became the demand of the married men in town. ARE YOU CRAZY????!!!!! TALKING ABOUT HOW LONG BEACH IS SCANDALOUS WHEN YOU WERE TRAMPING YOUR TORID ASSHOLE THROUGH THE RUGGED SOUTH FUCKING ALL KIND'S OF WOMEN'S HUSBANDS?! That's why I can't stand the south because they are brazen goddamn liars and have the nerve to stare you in the face as if you are the worst human on the planet when they have just outscandalized anything you've ever done in your entire life!
Damn! 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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CarrieMpls said: heartbeatocean said: I lived in Paris for 5 months when I was 21. It was one or two days before my flight was to take me out of there and a boy who was c-u-t-e saw me on the street. He stopped me and said something like I would be really special to him. When I told him I was leaving, he offered to buy me another ticket so I could stay longer.
(Parisian guys are like that ) I always thought that was a missed opportunity. Because he was c-u-t-e.The HOTTEST guy hit on me when I was in Chicago a few years ago. It was broad daylight too, just waiting for some friends (endo, anxy, gangstafam  )outside of a shop. He was sweet, too, just asked me out for coffee. I told him I was only in town for the weekend and had plans with friends.
Why is it I have such good luck outside of Minneapolis, but never here?  So would you really not have been able to fit him into your schedule, or was it mainly just an excuse because you felt awkward about him coming onto you like that? | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: violator said: This is one of those situations where you go with your gut. If your first impression of the situation was that she was showing interest (and there certainly seemed to be by what you stated) then rejection probably wasn't a real risk. You have nothing to lose, besides a bruised ego, and everything to gain.
And yes, I have been in a situation like that.... once... and it nagged me enough that I swore I'd never let it happen again. carpe diem, young man... carpe diem I agree, go with your gut even when your flesh doesn't want you to!!!!! One time I was hanging at the neighborhood bar and this guy was sitting there by himself and I was eyeing him and decided to do my little Hi, I think you're hot but I don't care if you care I just wanted to say what I wanted to say routine and so I wrote down my number but I had the biggest nagging feeling not to get involved. By all outward appearances everything was fine
So I kept the number in my pocket but still said hello and turns out that he is a transplant from the south. The Carolina's or Alabama or some godforsaken place Well he starts goin on:
The people here are really scandalous What do you mean? Oh, just the way of life in this city....it's not like the south where I'm from
whatever, I just let his comment slide as I'm not a fan of the political and social bullshit in the south and maybe about 10 minutes after that conversation he tells me about his ex boyfriend and how he was cheating on him and this guy tells me he was only a top when he was with his boyfriend but then when he found out his boyfriend was cheating with some married guys, that he went out and learned how to be a bottom and stole all those married men away from his boyfriend and how he became the demand of the married men in town. ARE YOU CRAZY????!!!!! TALKING ABOUT HOW LONG BEACH IS SCANDALOUS WHEN YOU WERE TRAMPING YOUR TORID ASSHOLE THROUGH THE RUGGED SOUTH FUCKING ALL KIND'S OF WOMEN'S HUSBANDS?! That's why I can't stand the south because they are brazen goddamn liars and have the nerve to stare you in the face as if you are the worst human on the planet when they have just outscandalized anything you've ever done in your entire life!
Damn!
Somewhere here, there's room for one of VainAndy's rants about 'trade'.... | |
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violator said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: I agree, go with your gut even when your flesh doesn't want you to!!!!! One time I was hanging at the neighborhood bar and this guy was sitting there by himself and I was eyeing him and decided to do my little Hi, I think you're hot but I don't care if you care I just wanted to say what I wanted to say routine and so I wrote down my number but I had the biggest nagging feeling not to get involved. By all outward appearances everything was fine
So I kept the number in my pocket but still said hello and turns out that he is a transplant from the south. The Carolina's or Alabama or some godforsaken place Well he starts goin on:
The people here are really scandalous What do you mean? Oh, just the way of life in this city....it's not like the south where I'm from
whatever, I just let his comment slide as I'm not a fan of the political and social bullshit in the south and maybe about 10 minutes after that conversation he tells me about his ex boyfriend and how he was cheating on him and this guy tells me he was only a top when he was with his boyfriend but then when he found out his boyfriend was cheating with some married guys, that he went out and learned how to be a bottom and stole all those married men away from his boyfriend and how he became the demand of the married men in town. ARE YOU CRAZY????!!!!! TALKING ABOUT HOW LONG BEACH IS SCANDALOUS WHEN YOU WERE TRAMPING YOUR TORID ASSHOLE THROUGH THE RUGGED SOUTH FUCKING ALL KIND'S OF WOMEN'S HUSBANDS?! That's why I can't stand the south because they are brazen goddamn liars and have the nerve to stare you in the face as if you are the worst human on the planet when they have just outscandalized anything you've ever done in your entire life!
Damn!
Somewhere here, there's room for one of VainAndy's rants about 'trade'.... Right! Can you imagine the goddamn nerve!? I was like you are not for real just telling me my neighborhood is scandalous with a story like that! 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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retina said: onenitealone said: Peter, you are NOT alone.
Trust me - I should make 'missed opportunity' my middle names. Aww, sorry to hear that, man. But thanks for the sympathy. No worries - and it *does* suck when it happens but I honestly think all these little experiences are mini-lessons. I hope you do get the chance to speak to this mysterious lady soon, though. | |
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rushing07 said: evenstar said: yeah, we'll always be an inch away from scratching each other's eyes out over him. just remember that now, out in college, Spooky is much more susceptible to suggestion...
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damnit! fine, you can have herman! | |
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evenstar said: rushing07 said: just remember that now, out in college, Spooky is much more susceptible to suggestion...
[Edited 9/24/07 16:55pm]
damnit! fine, you can have herman! I was hoping for 2 blind bitches to better my odds at Hermy Scratch away! 
. [Edited 9/24/07 18:04pm] 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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evenstar said: rushing07 said: just remember that now, out in college, Spooky is much more susceptible to suggestion...
[Edited 9/24/07 16:55pm]
damnit! fine, you can have herman!  I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: evenstar said:
damnit! fine, you can have herman! I was hoping for 2 blind bitches to better my odds at Hermy Scratch away!
. [Edited 9/24/07 18:04pm] I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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rushing07 said: evenstar said:
damnit! fine, you can have herman! | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: evenstar said:
damnit! fine, you can have herman! I was hoping for 2 blind bitches to better my odds at Hermy Scratch away!
. [Edited 9/24/07 18:04pm]
well, i can't have him using the advantage of being closer to steal spooky from me. grrr. | |
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rushing07 said: evenstar said:
damnit! fine, you can have herman! | |
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retina said: heartbeatocean said: I lived in Paris for 5 months when I was 21. It was one or two days before my flight was to take me out of there and a boy who was c-u-t-e saw me on the street. He stopped me and said something like I would be really special to him. When I told him I was leaving, he offered to buy me another ticket so I could stay longer.
(Parisian guys are like that ) I always thought that was a missed opportunity. Because he was c-u-t-e.So would you really have felt comfortable if he'd bought you a new ticket? It would almost be like buying your time with money, wouldn't it? If you think about it, maybe you would have made the same decision again? That's what I try to think when I end up in situations like this. It usually helps a bit. Of course, I'd make the same decision again.  I'm not that much of a floosy! But WHY did he have to show up just before I was leaving? If he'd showed up earlier, I might have gotten a cute temporary french boyfriend. 
But actually, the older I get, I find these "almost" opportunities cropping up all the time (when single). Things play out the way they're supposed to and it only clicks, or the stars align, when it's the right time. | |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: The HOTTEST guy hit on me when I was in Chicago a few years ago. It was broad daylight too, just waiting for some friends (endo, anxy, gangstafam )outside of a shop. He was sweet, too, just asked me out for coffee. I told him I was only in town for the weekend and had plans with friends.
Why is it I have such good luck outside of Minneapolis, but never here? So would you really not have been able to fit him into your schedule, or was it mainly just an excuse because you felt awkward about him coming onto you like that? I really couldn't. I had precious little time with the friends I'd already come to visit. And given that, then what's the point? I'd never see him again anyway. |
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I want you to come over to talk to me", this was it. But just as this happened, all my friends were moving out the door and kept calling me to catch up....so I left with them.
Sorry to say it but, you're an idiot. You knew were your friend were going, fifteen minutes to get a name and number isn't that much. No More Haters on the Internet. | |
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onenitealone said: retina said: Aww, sorry to hear that, man. But thanks for the sympathy. No worries - and it *does* suck when it happens but I honestly think all these little experiences are mini-lessons. I hope you do get the chance to speak to this mysterious lady soon, though. Thanks, you're right, and always so nice and friendly. If I'd been gay I'd have pursued you instead of that woman. | |
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heartbeatocean said: retina said: So would you really have felt comfortable if he'd bought you a new ticket? It would almost be like buying your time with money, wouldn't it? If you think about it, maybe you would have made the same decision again? That's what I try to think when I end up in situations like this. It usually helps a bit. Of course, I'd make the same decision again. I'm not that much of a floosy! But WHY did he have to show up just before I was leaving? If he'd showed up earlier, I might have gotten a cute temporary french boyfriend.
But actually, the older I get, I find these "almost" opportunities cropping up all the time (when single). Things play out the way they're supposed to and it only clicks, or the stars align, when it's the right time. | |
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