Last week when i was in stripclub i got lap dance from this
hot latin chick.after 2 min into the song i blew my load to make it worst i had wind breaker pants on and for some strange reason i feel guilty like i cheated in wife any advice

I do not consider it cheating perse...but I would suggest not wearing windbreaker pants again...the most likely reason
that you feell guilty is cause well you got off on someone that was not your wife, and you did not even touch her in
anyway that would be considered along the lines of cheating.
But like I said no I do not consider it cheating, it was a lap dance not sex.

not cheating...

u have some moxi to admitting to the premature excitment however
[This message was edited Tue Oct 8 14:07:36 PDT 2002 by DORA]

DORA said:

Hey im just being honest

Of course it was cheating. What the fuck you doing in a strip club getting a lap dance.

You should have been home getting a lap dance from your wife...Men like this digust me, because they have no respect for the partners that they have chosen.

sag10 said:

REVEREND!

do i consider this a thread?

Not cheating..but I doubt it would make your wife happy regardless. Probably best not to mention it!!

sag10 said:

Kick his ass, sag10!

No. But I wouldn't be happy that you felt you had to go to a strip club to get off.

sag10 said:

common... if that was the case ever time a beautiful person was in sight we would have to sheild our eyes... every one would have to wear a god dam burka


Hey i dont cheat but i have a VERY ACTIVE and wonderfully exciting trot through the tulips... reduces stress.. hehehehe

repression sucks..!!

DORA said:

Yes Dora, but he wasn't just looking at a pretty girl in the street, he went to a lap dancing club with the express intention of whatever...

sag10 said:

Sag has SPOKEN.

I say the answer lies completely in what you would consider cheating if the roles were reversed. If your wife got a lap dance and came all over the place without you there, would you say she was cheating?

DORA said:

Who said you have to shield your eyes? Beauty is beauty.

He was there getting a lap dance with a purpose in mind..an then says "was this cheating." I bet you wouldn't like this to happen to you, yes?

Repression sucks, and the thought that his mate would be hurt by his actions sucks even worse...

If you have to ask, then the answer is YES.

U come after 2 minutes by lapdancing? How fast u come when u have real sex ?

I once hooked up with a guy that came on the first grind against me while we were clothed. He left immediately after. I didn't even get mine!

At least this guy lasted 2 minutes!
[This message was edited Tue Oct 8 15:08:34 PDT 2002 by SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

He saw your jaw unhinge, and that was that!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Exactly! Depends on whatever boundaries you and your mate have set up. I personally wouldn't consider it cheating if my hypothetical boyfriend did that. And it's especially not cheating if I knew he was going to the strip club in the first place.

cheating: 1 : to deprive of something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.

I think it's pretty clear that you did indeed cheat. You've deprived yourself and your wife of the promises you vowed on your wedding day; namely, honor, love and trust. The value of these things is beyond measure, and certainly not worth sacrificing for an orgasm.

sag10 said:

Honey, all this WITHOUT any jaw action! Not a stitch of clothing had left our bodies, let alone me being able to use my magical mouth on his wand

Supa oh so naughty! You must have charisma coming out the ass...Ummm, ummm, ummm, shit nevermind.

Janeau said:

That fucker probably comes the moment a woman walks into the room... a one-second wonder.

IceNine said:

I love reading this reply with Ice's "Trillogy of Terror killer doll" looming near

sag10 said:

I won't even touch this

I don't consider that cheating. What would your wife say? Now if you were kissing and had physical intimacy with the dancers. But if you have an OPEN marriage then everything is Allowed that is Agreed Upon.

Ooh, aren't we all moralistic and holier than thou on the Org today

Some points:

1. Men don't suddenly stop being aroused by beautiful women just because they are in a monogamous relationship.
2. Men enjoy looking at beautiful women and there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever.

Did your wife know you were there? If not, would she object to you being there? It's a shame that you feel the need to shop elsewhere to get what you want sexually but that's your business. Whether it is cheating or not is a matter for your wife and yourself to discuss.

And not Prince.org.

I don't go to strip clubs, and if I did I can imagine that my wife would be upset. But it wouldn't be cheating or anything like it. No different to watching an adult video really.

AwhiteguynamedBill said:

2 minutes huh... i think ur wife feels pretty secure..