Should I keep this shit to myself, people? I don't know what to do.

I try so hard to act all aloof and it is just such bullshit. I save up all my emotions and only let them show in bed.

I love this woman. Can I tell her this? Can I tell anyone other than her? I am supposed to call her tonight. She said I've been "acting funny" and she wants to have a talk with me. I've been gone for a week how could I have been "acting funny?" Annnyway..

"I've been acting funny because I am in love with you and I didn't want you know that. Can you dump me and put me out of my misery but please fuck me like 20 times first?" Would any of you actually tell somebody this? I almost wish I never slept with her at all but at the same time, this is the happiest I've been in years.
"Will you be my secret permanent exclusive lover forever never tell anybody wife/husband/none of the above type fuck buddy best friend?"
I need a drink. I'll call her. I'll just spit it out. I love you. Can you handle that?

tell her, if you really do. i totally relate with being too afraid to do it, but i think you should. even if it just slips out somehow. good luck

evenstar3 said:

agreed.

you need to if only so you can move on. sometimes you just need to get it out.

You obviously want her to know, so you should do it. You can't control how she'll respond to it. You can't know what she's going to do. There is no perfect time to say it.... other than when you feel it.

violator said:

I wish I could control her response. I think she'll get freaked out and back away from me. But that's how I thought she'd react from the beginning. I'm late.I haven't called her yet. Stalling. stalling stalling.
Dialing.Maybe I should get her in bed and tell her there. I am in control in bed with her. She may not run then.

I'll see if she can stop by tomorrow. Sit on the porch and discuss our situation.

call her..call her...call her...you'll feel better!

evenstar3 said:

It's ok. you can tell me in an orgnote

ArielB said:

psh, i'm in love, but not with you.

& don't do it over the phone alwayslate! tell her in person if you can.

Hope it all works out and this is the beginning of something beautiful.

"Acting Funny"

Someone told me that a few weeks ago. When someone tells u that,its usually true.

Phones and text messages can really mess u up. Tell her in person,that way u 2 can have a nice long talk and get it all out.

evenstar3 said:

totally!!


get comforatble with your feelings. from what you've said about her she won't run.
if either of you are scared about anything it's not how you feel...
it's how you think you will be perceived. and hell, there is all sorts of time to figure that out.

just trust your feelings

Tell her.

This world is suffering too much from people who don't talk about their feelings. If she runs away, it's not a big loss.

It's time to defy your username.

tell her and good luck!

As many times as I have fallen in love and it not been returned, I have never regretted telling those people that I love them. Tell her, so just incase it's not returned, you can hurt and then get on with your life. OR, she may return the feelings and you can get that feeling of euphoria when someone loves you back.

Best wishes

always tell people how much they mean to you

you or they could be gone tomorrow

I swear I will never understand for the LIFE of me why people have such hang ups with feeling love . They don't have that problem over on this continent Hell, if ya fall in love with somebody you just spit it out, decide whether you'll be together or not, then ya just ride it out until you two aren't in love anymore, then pick up and move on already. Damn



In all sincerity though, don't be afraid to love. It doesn't make you less of a man to connect to the love within and share it with someone else. Actually, it makes you brave and well adjusted. And in case it doesn't work out as you'd hoped, remember that it's not a reflection of you or any weakness you might perceive yourself to have, raher a reflection of that person, and where they are developementally. Allow yourself to fully embrace the feelings of sadness and disappointment, then look for proactive ways to pull yourself out of it. Eventually you will move on to the chance and opportunity to love someone else who is the better fit, most perfectly designed for you
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Ottensen said:

Two things: she's a chick.

And they do have love problems over there on your continent. Believe me, I know.

Lothan said:

Love PROBLEMS, oh well hail yeah! But nobody's ever afraid to say it when they feel it, though. People just up and spit out "I'm in love with you", and in the strangest environments, like at the grocery store, somebody's birthday party, or through the door while you're in the bathroom peeing. Love PROBLEMS we have in spades here just like everywhere else, that's for sure

MarieLouise said:

Man, I remember the butterflies from this experience! It's not easy because her reaction might not be want we want it to be, and that is the toughest form of rejection ever.

But remember the wise words of Shakespeare: "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all".

Or the even wiser words I once read on a poster in a bathroom (and no, Larry Craig was nowhere in sight - I think!): "You will regret the things in life you don't do far more than the things you do".

Good luck!

awwwww.....

DO IT AND THEN BUM IT!!

Do it, live and in person.

Let us know how it goes.

Good luck!!!

omg, I can't wait to hear what's happened.

This has been my favorite ongoing story on the org for some time now.

I'm hoping so for a happy ending.

CarrieMpls said:

They've already had several happy endings.

retina said:

I want the fairy tale ending, then.

Lothan said:

I laughed sooooo hard when I read that. You have no idea how many times I have been mistaken for a guy on the org. In reality I think I am quite the lady. lol. Maybe I'll change my username to alwayslate-tress or alwayslate-ina.
I won't tell her via phone (that was my first choice though, since in addition to being a lady, I am a coward). I'll tell her face to face.

Might as well go ahead. No better time than the present. Ir else, She might think you don't. Run to her. Live the bliss.

retina said:

alwaysscared
alwaysnervous
alwaysworried
alwaysprocrastinating