You know, like, when you're out in public at a store or on public transportation or something. What's the closest you can let people get to you without it grossing or freaking you out?

Do you think you need more personal space than most people?

When someone invades your personal space, what do you do?

Thank you, that is all.




Now back up a bit.

I like people to touch me up aslong as they're sexy.

WHY AINT IT SUPPOSED TO BE JUST FUN
OH TO LIVE AND DIE LET IT BE DONE
FIGURE ILL BE DAMNED ALL ALONE LIKE I BEGAN

JDInteractive said:

pretend you are in sexy free zone

I'm sure I know your feelings on this and mine will be exactly the same, Anx.

Like you've mentioned on the Org previously, somehow I have been implanted with a homing device that seems to attract anybody and everybody. Like when you're on a bus and there are loads of seats free, yet someone plonks themself beside you. Or when you're out and about and you run into a random, er, 'character' and you're stuck with them all of a sudden. How does it happen?!

I usually use the stink eye - that works.

Anxiety said:

Well then probably about 3 centimetres.

onenitealone said:

that was part of it! i've been victim to that herd mentality bullshit TWICE this week - i'll be completely alone in an empty restaurant and then someone walks in and decides to sit RIGHT NEXT TO ME. it's irritating and creepy.

but even worse, i was ordering lunch today and AS SOON as they gave me my change, the guy behind me pushes right up and he's basically talking INTO MY CHEEK as he starts ordering. couldn't he wait for me to get out of his way? it was creepy. i could feel his breath. i felt like laura dern in 'wild at heart' when willem dafoe was in her hotel room. it was bad. people need to knock that kind of shit off RIGHT NOW.

I like to have a lot of space. I don't like people very close to me



There have been several times that I have been standing in line, waiting to pay for whatever I was buying, and the person behind me was standing so close to me that if I turned, I would knock into them. It is sooo strange to me that someone would do that


I told them to back up a bit because I had no space to move

jess555ja said:

Arrrrggh! I hate that. That always happens to me. At the mall,the grocery store,someone is always up on me.
I was in line waiting to pay and the guy behind was so close to me. I could feel his breath on my neck. Ick!!

I moved over to the left and he moved right back behind me. It really ticked me off. I turned around and gave him a dirty look.

jess555ja said:

do you think it bothered you because you require more personal space than other people, or do you think it's because that person was being impatient or rude or whatever?

Anxiety said:

especially at the Wild at Heart bit.

It's madness! You can see it happening as well but there's nothing you can do to stop it, sometimes. The last time it happened, I was catching a really late train - I was knackered - and some random, old guy - completely pissed - started going on about the war in Iraq. Even when all I was responding with was variations on 'Hmmm', 'Hmmm...', 'Hmmmm, hmmm' he still wouldn't shut up. In the end, he just got up and bugged some other passenger. I thought it was completely obvious that I was knackered and not interested.

And at that person's breath on your cheek.

Honestly????

ThreadCula said:

do you think he was being pervy?

or do you think maybe some people are brought up in big snuggly families and they just figure everyone in the world just rolls all over each other whenever they please?

i think that sometimes. because i'm an only child and didn't have a lot of physical closeness growing up, i think i need more personal space than someone who came from a great big family.
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Anxiety said:

I don't think that I require more personal space than other people. That person was just being extremely rude. I don't think that it is really necessary to stand 2 or 3 inches away from someone that you don't know at all

jess555ja said:

see, i agree. i think about a foot and a half of personal space is fine.

a foot is acceptable but a little snug.

six inches or less, and we'd better be dating or, like, you'd better be hard of hearing or something.

If I can smell your skanky breath or smell your b.o. you are too close....stand back!

Anxiety said:

I really dont know what his problem was.
At first I thought he was trying to look in my wallet. Because as soon as I got my wallet out,thats when he got closer. It wasnt a long line so its not like he was trying to keep people from cutting.

I think it was a little pervy. I was buying lingerie in the womens department.
He had a shirt,he could have stayed on the other side of the store.

There are some people that invade my space just to be rude. That happens mostly at the grocery store. And that drives me nuts! Thats why I go grocery shopping early in the morning.

Honestly,if a person is attractive and they smell nice. I dont mind if they're close.

Anxiety said:

I absolutely can not handle being crowded by vegans and vegitarians when they're holding meat eating pets.

Anxiety said:

I think I do need more personal space than most people. I really don't like people getting more than 2 feet from me. You can say what you need to say and conduct your business with me safely from that distance. Any closer and I get creeped out. Even though I've been married a long time I still like my space. Of course there are times when we're close and stuff, but man, sometimes I just don't want anyone hanging on me or in my face.

If someone that I know is too close I just tell them to back off. If it's a stranger I move the fuck away. Some people have no concept of personal space though and think your noses have to touch to have a conversation.

Anxiety said:

Imago said:

listen, quit polluting my awesome thread with your filthy opinions!

Anxiety said:

I use to be bad.


I had a thing about being touched...especially folks hugging on me.

When i started doing the women's prevention stuff back in the day and ppl would just walk up and hug me I'm like.....excuse you! I'm now a hugger and QUICKLY realized that my clients needed me to hug them.


I'm still not keen on ppl touching my hair or just walking up on me. that will get you hurt.

Rhondab said:

x 1 billion

Imago said:

you would get a

Rhondab said:

oh damn

I like LOTS, it's *instantly* irritating when people come too close to me in line or standing there talking. I'll back up or something, subtly as not to hurt feelings but to keep myself from going batty. & you KNOW I can't stand that shit @ the GYM

just the site of other people irritates me.
so I'd say I need quite a bit of space.

I read somewhere that the average is around 60 cm. Mine my be a little bit further, but not much. Depending on the context of course.

I HATE when strangers are up close to me.

I dont mind when they are supposed to be, like when I am in a bar or something.. but in a queue, and I move away to get away from them and then THEY step closer! I hate that!

I hate when ppl walk closely to me, and I hate ppl walking behind me

I esp hate when men walk infront of me with their hands clasped behind thei backs, and I hate when they walk too slowly.. I have to overtake them and find my own space..

in a perfect world.. if I can spread out my arms and twirl in a circle.. THATS my personal space, and lo and behold if anyone comes within that boundary!