is it really that hard to find? or do we all simply take everyone/thing other than the one we choose for granted?


what's your opinion

i think that generally it's very hard to find.

I've known love, so I won't take it for granted if it ever comes knocking again.

What kind of love to you mean?

I tend to fall quick and hard, and its happened twice, and I'm 28.

The first time it was real, and the second time, I think was more of an obsession.

Then there was time in the middle where it wasn't sparks and fireworks, but I grew to deeply care and love and have sex with the guy, but it was more a friendship. No chem.



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Love, real love in its purest form is very hard to find. I think it's extremely rare to find that person that is everything you want.

Love is all around us. Cheesy but true. I am very loved, by my family, friends, etc.

Love of the romantic nature, though, is freaking next to impossible. lol.

Lothan said:

See. The everything you want thing, to me isn't even love. I've had guys that had all the qualitys that I wanted....this is the middle guy I was talking about, but there was no sparks.

So am I mistaking lust for love, and I actually DID have love, but I am more into lust?????

I just get SOOOOO confused about this stuff.

Then the first guy. He had A LOT of qualities I wasnted, and I was totally hot for him, but I was a virgin at the time....so does that even count...?

I can get past some bad qualities if theres total sparks and stuff.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I agree, the "all of the qualities you want" thing is more about making a relationship work. Love can be there whether or not that's all there.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Well, I don't believe in settling. If the man has the qualities I desire: things in common, smart, funny, etc., sparks will be there. There is nothing hotter to me than a brilliant man. Looks are secondary to me.

SirPsycho said:

We have to define it before we can find it...we're too busy defining parnters and relationships instead of defining true love so that we understand it better.

Not to sound like a Prince fanatic (lol), but I do agree with what he said in the lyrics to "Last December": that love "just is, and never yearns". Love, to me, isn't those things you yearn for--affection, lust, happiness, safety, etc...it's not about acquiring from others. It's what you express and give of yourself, without the need for any specific result or return. The act of expressing and showing love is the reward in itself. We can't keep treating love like currency.

Anyhoo, just my .02.

Lothan said:

Thats a good thing. Good for you.

Me? I'm the QUEEN od setteling.

You know I just don't know any more, I really don't. I'm not one to settle for less than what I want in the area of love. I wasn't one looking for perfect because I'm not. Perfectly imperfect that was perfect for me.

CarrieMpls said:

As soon as you will accept that love cannot ever mean the same thing to two people in a relationship, you will become the better of it.
There will always be ONE in a relationship that is more romantic than the other. I only had ONE relationship where we were equal in almost everything.

What most people commonly think of as love

is really

just the desire to be loved.

Byron said:

bingo....at least to me

SirPsycho said:

me too

I think Byron summed it up best....

the other three people in this picture have shown me what real love is...it's beyond definition, but it's something I never want to be without again...

SirPsycho said:

I think that you're right in one aspect - we're so ghat damned busy trying to find ROMANTIC love that we take other kinds of love (family, friends etc) love for us for granted or simply don't take it into account at all. That's a major failure cos one day you might find yourself without them if you don't acknowledge them.

SirPsycho said:

your two questions don't seem to relate to me. Love is really hard to find and settling won't help,it would be best to stay single. the real kind that isn't used to mask possessiveness, obsession, lust and insecurities. Nobody is perfect and nobody will ever be everything you want, to find someone who loves you back, accepting your weaknesses as well as your strengths and vice versa is the ultimate to me. opening your soul to someone and having them to love it as is is somethin else.

heybaby said:

You just made the mistake of using romantic love as the only form of love in existance... it's not.

You can make all the love you want. It's free and limitless. And as the Beatles' said, in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.

The older I get, the truer these words are to me.

Teacher said:

thank you....that was gonna be my next question....why do we divide love like this?

Teacher said:

oh i know its not and thats not what i did i have kids and an extended family that i am very close to. they accept me for me also but i'd rather focus on one than start a big ass paragraph about all the many different kinds of love that we all know exist. and when it comes to family love, friendship love etc, etc, we sometimes expect for them to love us like that. i think its something totally different when someone your especially intimate with accepts those same quirks since we all have a fear of rejection on some level in this particular situaltion.

heybaby said:

yes...we do expect this from family....but family is not required to do this by law or nature....mothers have turned on children....brothers have murdered brothers....but the chances of a stranger truly loving you (in general) despite yourself, and a cousin doing the same...are equal are they not? (i know you gonna be like "hell no" )

Love is a commandment. If you are loving the way u r supposed to, it shouldn't be hard to find. Love attracts and draws others. When u understand that love isn't an option but a prerequesite, everything will fall into place. Perfected love casts out all fear. Getting to perfected is the hard part... There is all different types of love but understanding first what love is plays a major part in finding it.

roodboi said:

Awwww...sweet.


ps - how did you ever score a hot wife?

I wanna be adored.

SirPsycho said:

I don't think that love is that hard to find, at least love from family and friends. Romantic love is another story.

I got Love for Christmas, but I've seen it most recently at WalMart.

JustErin said:

my overwhelming charm, of course...




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