Have you ever been so misunderstood it has affected friendships, work relationships, in the past..

And KNOWING later both parties ARE misunderstanding, can anything be done about it?

Yes I have lost friends because of stupid misunderstandings! It truly sucks, because sometimes the other party isnt willing to listen and try and understand!

im misunderstanding this thread

MoniGram said:

It kinda sucks but if non of us are willing to let go.. then either the friendship never was or we are all just stubborn mfs.. lol

horatio said:

then go away

Yes by learning to accept when one is wrong.

REDBABY said:

You are so right on this....because I just lost this friend a year ago, and if she would have really been my friend, she would have understood why I did, and said what I said. But...what can a person do. You learn who your real friends are I guess.

MoniGram said:

I agree. It IS hard to accept, but sometimes it is just that way.

I will come back to this.

Yes, right now as a matter of fact and even though I apologised, nothing. I did what I can do about it though, it's my responsibility to do what I can but I can never affect the other person. It's important to remember that.

Teacher said:

I so understand! I said I was sorry a dozen times, and I am not even sure why I was the one saying sorry. She did something to me, and what I did and said was a reaction to that. Who knows?

REDBABY said:

Yes, it has affected a few friendships. But in the end all is good....nothing a "serious discussion" couldnt fix.

JDInteractive said:

But sometimes you have to accept you're wrong even when you're not, just to get things moving along.

MoniGram said:

I KNOW why I said sorry - what I said was in bad form and I realised that so I've done what I can to make up for it. Apparently it wasn't enough for this person though and that saddens me. In your case though you should stand up for yourself: If the other person can't see cause and effect that's not your problem anymore

Teacher said:

Exactly! That is why we aren't friends anymore...I miss her like crazy, and I cried when this all happened..but I can't beg her to be my friend. I am better then that!

REDBABY said:

Oh yeah, I get misunderstood all the time. It's frustrating, because even I try to explain myself, people still don't get it.

MoniGram said:

Maybe you've got a pattern of this before, between you and her? I used to have this with my best friend and I would ALWAYS cave in...until I told her flat out how I felt and she confessed she didn't mean it at all, and she realised that she'd been thoughtless not considering how I felt. This was over 15 years ago now and we're still best friends.

Teacher said:

She was an interesting person...I was never real sure about our friendship. She use to work for me, and when our company was bought out, and she was out of a job, I felt like she had no need for me in her life any longer.

She threw me for a loop the other day, and sent a wedding gift to my daughter.

MoniGram said:

Maybe she wants to apologise but she's too proud to do it so she sent the gift to your daughter instead, meaning for you to construe her true meaning... don't bother, if she can't apologise to your face fuck it.

I looked at the "OP" and sworn on all that was divine and mighty that my name would be right in that space. Like, I slepwalked to the computer and posted this. Weird how it turns out it was the often-understood "REDBABY"....at least from my point of view.

Teacher said:

I am not going to try and "earn" her friendship...I don't need friends like that in my life!

fhqwhgads said:

I know, thats very true.

fhqwhgads said:

I have bad "allORGies"