NO NOT MASTURBATION...


many people prefer to be plutonically surrounded by members of the opposite sex...


if your one, give a reason or two why...

That's easy. I usually don't like other girls very much. I relate better to men and find men much easier to communicate with.

Sweeny79 said:

well that's what everybody will say....but give an example why you think communication with men is easier...


please.

SirPsycho said:

Ummm.... I guess I just feel more comfortable with men. I might get shit for saying so, but I think men tend to be more straightforward then women, and far less catty as well.

Sweeny79 said:

I feel the same way sometimes, especially when I'm going out with ppl I haven't met yet. I'd much rather spend an evening with guys rather than girls.. Girls tend to get insecure or ignorant when girls they don't know join 'em..

One time I arrived at a party, when the hostess, who was a bit drunk, came to greet me by calling me a "fucking whore"...

Girls check the stranger from head to toe and then ignore 'em. I don't get it..

I have met some sweet and lovely girls too, but the whole weirdness tends to happen very often..

Yeah, guys are more laid back and less catty.

Girls will be jealous or competitive.

I have some awesome girlfriends too, but in general when you're in a group you are hanging out with for the first time guys are much less judgmental.

okay....u guys (girls) seem to have a a more fun loving/ happy outlook on things...some men take themselves to seriously (this may be a race specific thing tho..)

I'm more comfortable with the "SPECIES" that is likened to myself. Yet, I still haven't discovered exactly what that is, though.
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SirPsycho said:

Explain a bit more. The race thing too. Please. :

If I'm in a room full of strangers, the gay men and me are probably gonna gravitate toward each other. There's an instant familiarlity and comfort. I don't know how or why it is, it just is.

CarrieMpls said:

I haven't known a lot of gay men in my life, but yeah, I can kind of identify with that too Carrie. I know that I gravitated to Supa right away. I haven't met him or spoken with him (yet), but our conversations are easy and fun. I feel a connection with him.

hokie1 said:

for example:

men are taught to restrain our emotions (there is benefit to this, i've learned but still)women are more freely excused to experience the world deeper than just the tangible without being questioned...


this i can say for all men, but young black males in particular, carry with us the weight of fractured identity and an everlasting threat of extinction. (as drastic as this sounds, it's true) so most young black males, feel they must be on infinite gaurd w/o heavy emotion- all the while seeking to define what black malehood is from scraps of stereotypes and habits left over from slavery...

the end result is what you see in the hood...though none of these men are without love.

black women have to carry the same weight (in proportions particular to them as a sex within the race) but are a little more free to show and experience love..

Mushanga said:

Jeez, That's terrible!

hokie1 said:

I think it'd the competitive streak that I really can't stand in women.

hokie1 said:

It's not a calculated thing, it's just a natural/comfort thing. Maybe cause that's my current peer group. I fell into a group of friends who are mainly gay men and straight women. It all started in our early 20's as we shared common interests, now they are my family.

SirPsycho said:

But how does that relate to women who only hang out with men, and men who only hang out with women?

I'm missing something here.

SirPsycho said:

Thanks for that perspective. I always enjoy hearing other's views on things and their experiences.

CarrieMpls said:

Isn't that so nice? That's a great feeling. I have friends that I would never have to call and see if it's ok if I come over. I just go and walk right in to their house. That level of comfort and ease isn't attained very often in life. It's harder for me as well because I move so often.

Sweeny79 said:

I said:

Sweeny79 said:[quote]

Mushanga said:

She was quite drunk, but it was still very stupid..

I've tried to figure out what the problem is, that I make girls do that? Then a friend of mine told me, that she's noticed the exact same thing...

Do women get insecure that they'll loose the attention from the guys when other girls come over?

Generally I like to hang out with guys when I go out, but I don't have many male friends who I see regularly..

plutonically

PANDURITO said:

Goes well with all of the "Men are From Mars; Women are From Venus" lingo, doesn't it? Venusians, Martians, Plutoniques....OH MY!!!!
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Mushanga said:

I think some girls are just really insecure with themselves. They get their self esteems boosted when guys pay attention to them. I think girls like this are scared that they don't have anything more to offer than just being a pretty face and so they hog attention from guys. I find that girls like this don't like themselves very much and aren't comfortable in their own skin.

I can get along with both sexes but in general I have more guy friends than girls. I grew up around boys so I tend to prefer the silliness of boys over the girlie-ness of girls.

The few female friends I have are awesome and very similar to me.

But overall, boys give me more of the attention I like.

JustErin said:

This is code for sex.

hokie1 said:

Well, yes but not totally. I really (weirdly) enjoy just sexual tension, and with most dudes...it's always there.

JustErin said:

You mean sex isn't the only thing you think about!

I agree, the tension is almost as fun as the actual act.

hokie1 said:

Of course it's not.

Some of my friends are not hot enough to sleep with...but I still like the tension.

Just kidding.....sorta.

JustErin said:

I know.

I do well with everyone.....i don't any..."women are catty" hang ups.

Stop hanging with catty women. Find women who aren't.

My male friends offer different insight on love and relationships than my female friends. I value all of them equally.

JustErin said:

omg....please tell me where to find women like u....i get on mmost of my partners nerves