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PrintableTotalANXiousNESS said: MsMisha319 said: It sucks that women feel like they have to choose sides in the situation. Do what's best for you. I stayed home with my son for the first 2 years. Once he was 2.5, I put him in school and I went back to school. I could not sit any longer. I was bored to death. I work. I have to work. I have bills. My son wants things. Luckily, my son loves school. I would pull my hair out if I stayed home all day with my son now and that doesn't make me a bad mother for saying that. I would never home school because I'm not a teacher
 I like working and I'm not going to stop so I can sit on my ass all day with my kid. In the end, I think he will respect me for it. He will respect that mommy worked hard to provide for him and still had time for him as well. I respect my mother for it. She has worked all my life and I never felt as though my mother was not there for me because she worked. That's what WEEKENDS are for. I spend my entire weekend with my son. During the week, I pick him up from school and we hang out, eat dinner and hang out some more until bedtime. It works for us
Here's one thing I don't like about "stay at home moms": If your kid is little and your homeschooling him/her, that's fine. However, if your kid is 12 or 13, that's just ridiculous, IMO. There is no reason why you should stay home with grown ass "kids". That's an excuse to sit on your ass and watch your stories. You can only vaccuum and mop so much, you know? Smooches;) [Edited 8/15/07 9:38am] Um. Your saying you don't think women should have to take sides, yet your bagging on stay at home moms. I could easily bag on working moms, but I REALLY DON'T think we should take sides. Like you have so obviously have done. First off, read the first sentence of my comment. I didn't not say that I was NOT going to take a side, thank you  I said it's sad that we have to.
I could care less what you or anyone else feel about working moms. I work, so what. What does that have to do with you? If you want to stay at home, then please do. I could care less at the end of the day. Smooches;) | |
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And also, I mop my floors and vaccuum my entire house just about everyday! AFTER I come home from work. I also help with my sons school, whenever needed. So don't act like working mothers don't clean their damn houses or care about other things 
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MsMisha319 said: And also, I mop my floors and vaccuum my entire house just about everyday! AFTER I come home from work. I also help with my sons school, whenever needed. So don't act like working mothers don't clean their damn houses or care about other things
Smooches;) why are you defending yourself so hard? You don't have to prove how great of a mother you are to strangers on a forum  I was a stay at home mom for 12 years until all my kids were in school, I enjoyed it . I then went back to school and work full time. So I was lucky enough to have the best of both worlds.  | |
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babooshleeky said: hokie1 said: Shit. The org is really annoying me today. Sorry.
I was saying that even though I stay at home I definitely don't get bored. I have so many things I have to do. I do mop and vacuum, but I also do lots more. I volunteer and my sons' schools to read to the kids. My husband is in the Air Force and I do lots of work for his squadron. All of that on top of the day to day tasks that it takes to keep a house running. I'm sure you know. I hear you on the working thing. I don't think people should feel bad about their choices. It's so personal and it depends on so many factors. Deciding whether or not to stay home is not a cut and dry decision that's for sure. In my post I said I get bored, but I did not mean that I did not have anything to do, just not anything I really want to do, that is what I meant about bored...I always have work to do! and not just mopping..etc....
[Edited 8/15/07 10:19am] I was actually addressing my comment to Ms. Misha so no worries.  | |
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EverSoulicious said: MsMisha319 said: And also, I mop my floors and vaccuum my entire house just about everyday! AFTER I come home from work. I also help with my sons school, whenever needed. So don't act like working mothers don't clean their damn houses or care about other things
Smooches;) why are you defending yourself so hard? You don't have to prove how great of a mother you are to strangers on a forum I was a stay at home mom for 12 years until all my kids were in school, I enjoyed it . I then went back to school and work full time. So I was lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. Plus, Dani never said working women don't clean their houses or whatever. This person above you insulted stay at home moms and sounds like she doesn't have enough maturity to be a parent. | |
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Lothan said: EverSoulicious said: why are you defending yourself so hard? You don't have to prove how great of a mother you are to strangers on a forum I was a stay at home mom for 12 years until all my kids were in school, I enjoyed it . I then went back to school and work full time. So I was lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. Plus, Dani never said working women don't clean their houses or whatever. This person above you insulted stay at home moms and sounds like she doesn't have enough maturity to be a parent. I went back and re read what was said.  Not all of us moms sit on our asses and watch stories | |
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EverSoulicious said: Lothan said: Plus, Dani never said working women don't clean their houses or whatever. This person above you insulted stay at home moms and sounds like she doesn't have enough maturity to be a parent. I went back and re read what was said. Not all of us moms sit on our asses and watch stories  | |
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| At the shit on this thread. I will never allow someone to make me feel bad about my choice. I stay home and probably will for a lot longer. Dani brought up a good point. Just because the kids go to school doesn't mean you aren't needed for certain things. Pick ups and drop offs to events, practices, the mall. I just know I try to be respectful of other peoples' way of doing things.
Ms. Misha, I'm sure you are a great mom, but can I say something? Your tone comes across as negative and downing to moms that do stay home. I'm not trying to hate on you. I'm just giving you my perspective. It feels very hostile. This will be a debate until the end of time because people get so caught up in their thinking that their way is the ONLY way to do things. Peace ya'll! | |
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EverSoulicious said: MsMisha319 said: And also, I mop my floors and vaccuum my entire house just about everyday! AFTER I come home from work. I also help with my sons school, whenever needed. So don't act like working mothers don't clean their damn houses or care about other things
Smooches;) why are you defending yourself so hard? You don't have to prove how great of a mother you are to strangers on a forum I was a stay at home mom for 12 years until all my kids were in school, I enjoyed it . I then went back to school and work full time. So I was lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. I'm not trying to PROVE myself to anyone here. I have done both as well. I know the ups and downs of both. People took my original post out of context. I was not "bagging" on all stay at home moms. I criticized those who use staying at home with their kids as an excuse to sit on their ass. Not all stay at homes do that, so I was not trying to offend anyone. People here get so fucking out of order when someone gives their opinion on something and it's different from theirs
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Lothan said: EverSoulicious said: I went back and re read what was said. Not all of us moms sit on our asses and watch stories if that were the case then my youngest 2 will be grown before I know it  | |
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Lothan said: EverSoulicious said: why are you defending yourself so hard? You don't have to prove how great of a mother you are to strangers on a forum I was a stay at home mom for 12 years until all my kids were in school, I enjoyed it . I then went back to school and work full time. So I was lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. Plus, Dani never said working women don't clean their houses or whatever. This person above you insulted stay at home moms and sounds like she doesn't have enough maturity to be a parent. Excuse me? Who the fuck are you to say I don't have enough maturity to be a parent? Give me a break. If you don't like me comments, then don't fucking read them! It's my opinion, so sit and spin
What I said was that I mop and clean AS WELL AS work, so fuck off! Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: EverSoulicious said: why are you defending yourself so hard? You don't have to prove how great of a mother you are to strangers on a forum I was a stay at home mom for 12 years until all my kids were in school, I enjoyed it . I then went back to school and work full time. So I was lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. I'm not trying to PROVE myself to anyone here. I have done both as well. I know the ups and downs of both. People took my original post out of context. I was not "bagging" on all stay at home moms. I criticized those who use staying at home with their kids as an excuse to sit on their ass. Not all stay at homes do that, so I was not trying to offend anyone. People here get so fucking out of order when someone gives their opinion on something and it's different from theirs
Smooches;) You sometimes insult people here. Don't get mad when people bring it back to you. | |
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greenpixies said: ZombieKitten said:  no way!!!!!
how many kids you have? 
I don't have any but once people have kids they have to rise to the occasion and be responsible. You can't talk then. I used to have so many ideas of how things were going to play out, but wham!!! Real life jumped up and slapped me in my face! Seriously, you cannot plan out life like that! I have had to eat so many words. Some days it's just about survival. Trust me--there will come a day when you realize you aren't super human and that you are only a mere mortal. | |
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MsMisha319 said: Lothan said: Plus, Dani never said working women don't clean their houses or whatever. This person above you insulted stay at home moms and sounds like she doesn't have enough maturity to be a parent. Excuse me? Who the fuck are you to say I don't have enough maturity to be a parent? Give me a break. If you don't like me comments, then don't fucking read them! It's my opinion, so sit and spin
What I said was that I mop and clean AS WELL AS work, so fuck off! Smooches;) I'll read whatever the fuck I please and if I don't agree, I will post my opinion and my opinion, and your subsequent posts keep proving it, is that you are immature. You have nothing of any real intelligence to add, so you tell people to fuck off.
You act like a 12 year old. | |
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hokie1 said: greenpixies said:
I don't have any but once people have kids they have to rise to the occasion and be responsible. You can't talk then. I used to have so many ideas of how things were going to play out, but wham!!! Real life jumped up and slapped me in my face! Seriously, you cannot plan out life like that! I have had to eat so many words. Some days it's just about survival. Trust me--there will come a day when you realize you aren't super human and that you are only a mere mortal.
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hokie1 said: At the shit on this thread. I will never allow someone to make me feel bad about my choice. I stay home and probably will for a lot longer. Dani brought up a good point. Just because the kids go to school doesn't mean you aren't needed for certain things. Pick ups and drop offs to events, practices, the mall. I just know I try to be respectful of other peoples' way of doing things.
Ms. Misha, I'm sure you are a great mom, but can I say something? Your tone comes across as negative and downing to moms that do stay home. I'm not trying to hate on you. I'm just giving you my perspective. It feels very hostile. This will be a debate until the end of time because people get so caught up in their thinking that their way is the ONLY way to do things. Peace ya'll! Well, so damn what. You have your opinion and I have mine That is life. I DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT down stay at home moms. I said That I prefer to work and I don't feel bad about it. Can you people read? Th last paragraph of my original post states my annoyance with moms of older kids who don't need as much supervision as a younger child. Why are you sitting at home at that point? Your kid can't do anything for himself at 13!? Give me a break
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Lothan said: MsMisha319 said: [/b]
Excuse me? Who the fuck are you to say I don't have enough maturity to be a parent? Give me a break. If you don't like me comments, then don't fucking read them! It's my opinion, so sit and spin
What I said was that I mop and clean AS WELL AS work, so fuck off! Smooches;) I'll read whatever the fuck I please and if I don't agree, I will post my opinion and my opinion, and your subsequent posts keep proving it, is that you are immature. You have nothing of any real intelligence to add, so you tell people to fuck off.
You act like a 12 year old. Is now the new 30 | |
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hokie1 said: At the shit on this thread. I will never allow someone to make me feel bad about my choice. I stay home and probably will for a lot longer. Dani brought up a good point. Just because the kids go to school doesn't mean you aren't needed for certain things. Pick ups and drop offs to events, practices, the mall. I just know I try to be respectful of other peoples' way of doing things.
Ms. Misha, I'm sure you are a great mom, but can I say something? Your tone comes across as negative and downing to moms that do stay home. I'm not trying to hate on you. I'm just giving you my perspective. It feels very hostile. This will be a debate until the end of time because people get so caught up in their thinking that their way is the ONLY way to do things. Peace ya'll! | |
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Lothan said: MsMisha319 said: I'm not trying to PROVE myself to anyone here. I have done both as well. I know the ups and downs of both. People took my original post out of context. I was not "bagging" on all stay at home moms. I criticized those who use staying at home with their kids as an excuse to sit on their ass. Not all stay at homes do that, so I was not trying to offend anyone. People here get so fucking out of order when someone gives their opinion on something and it's different from theirs
Smooches;) You sometimes insult people here. Don't get mad when people bring it back to you. Well, I insult people in real life as well, so get over it My story has not changed Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: hokie1 said: At the shit on this thread. I will never allow someone to make me feel bad about my choice. I stay home and probably will for a lot longer. Dani brought up a good point. Just because the kids go to school doesn't mean you aren't needed for certain things. Pick ups and drop offs to events, practices, the mall. I just know I try to be respectful of other peoples' way of doing things.
Ms. Misha, I'm sure you are a great mom, but can I say something? Your tone comes across as negative and downing to moms that do stay home. I'm not trying to hate on you. I'm just giving you my perspective. It feels very hostile. This will be a debate until the end of time because people get so caught up in their thinking that their way is the ONLY way to do things. Peace ya'll! Well, so damn what. You have your opinion and I have mine That is life. I DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT down stay at home moms. I said That I prefer to work and I don't feel bad about it. Can you people read? Th last paragraph of my original post states my annoyance with moms of older kids who don't need as much supervision as a younger child. Why are you sitting at home at that point? Your kid can't do anything for himself at 13!? Give me a break
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Lothan said: MsMisha319 said: [/b]
Excuse me? Who the fuck are you to say I don't have enough maturity to be a parent? Give me a break. If you don't like me comments, then don't fucking read them! It's my opinion, so sit and spin
What I said was that I mop and clean AS WELL AS work, so fuck off! Smooches;) I'll read whatever the fuck I please and if I don't agree, I will post my opinion and my opinion, and your subsequent posts keep proving it, is that you are immature. You have nothing of any real intelligence to add, so you tell people to fuck off.
You act like a 12 year old. I have more maturity in my middle finger than you will ever know. You are immature for not respecting someone opinion. Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: Lothan said: No, actually you made no distinction. You insulted people who stay at home after their kids reach a certain age and that's my only problem with what you said. Then, when people called you on that, now the story has changed.
You sometimes insult people here. Don't get mad when people bring it back to you. Well, I insult people in real life as well, so get over it My story has not changed Smooches;)
And there is nothing for me to get over love. Most people who troll on the internet do not have the balls to say what they say here to anyone's face.
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MsMisha319 said: Lothan said: I'll read whatever the fuck I please and if I don't agree, I will post my opinion and my opinion, and your subsequent posts keep proving it, is that you are immature. You have nothing of any real intelligence to add, so you tell people to fuck off.
You act like a 12 year old. I have more maturity in my middle finger than you will ever know. You are immature for not respecting someone opinion. Smooches;) I guess you are queen of respecting opinions.
I am done. I don't argue with children on the internet.  | |
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MsMisha319 said: hokie1 said: At the shit on this thread. I will never allow someone to make me feel bad about my choice. I stay home and probably will for a lot longer. Dani brought up a good point. Just because the kids go to school doesn't mean you aren't needed for certain things. Pick ups and drop offs to events, practices, the mall. I just know I try to be respectful of other peoples' way of doing things.
Ms. Misha, I'm sure you are a great mom, but can I say something? Your tone comes across as negative and downing to moms that do stay home. I'm not trying to hate on you. I'm just giving you my perspective. It feels very hostile. This will be a debate until the end of time because people get so caught up in their thinking that their way is the ONLY way to do things. Peace ya'll! Well, so damn what. You have your opinion and I have mine That is life. I DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT down stay at home moms. I said That I prefer to work and I don't feel bad about it. Can you people read? Th last paragraph of my original post states my annoyance with moms of older kids who don't need as much supervision as a younger child. Why are you sitting at home at that point? Your kid can't do anything for himself at 13!? Give me a break
Smooches;) Of course I can fucking read. I'm smart and well educated. 
 OK, usually I am pretty laid back and am cool with everybody here, but you are annoying as fuck. You basically just re-iterated that you think women that stay home with kids past the age of 12 or 13 are idiots. People have all kinds of reasons why they do what they do.
Some people just can't be respectful... | |
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I was going to say thanks to Lothan for having my back.  | |
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hokie1 said: I was going to say thanks to Lothan for having my back. you're welcome. | |
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You people are a trip. I did not call anyone here an idiot, I stated how I felt, just as many of you have.
If I insulted, I apologize because that was NOT my intention. You people shouldn't be so damn sensitive. Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: You people are a trip. I did not call anyone here an idiot, I stated how I felt, just as many of you have.
If I insulted, I apologize because that was NOT my intention. You people shouldn't be so damn sensitive. Smooches;) You shouldn't be so annoying. | |
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