I've personally never met a socially normal home schooled kid.

I've personally never met a socially normal home schooled kid.

JustErin said:

Yeah.

Its weird, cuz I've spent the last couple weeks, talking to my son about school, and he won't even be starting for another year.

Even so, I stay up at night worrying, and crying about it. I don't want to take my babies to school. I want to coddle them and keep them safe forever.

But ya can't. And as painful and scary as it is, to let them go, I'd NEVER home school.



Veronikka : What was your situation when you got pregnant and had a baby. Like, was it a planned pregnancy or a surprise? Are you still with your baby's father? Who provided child care while you were working?

I had a mother that both worked and then due to a disablity, had to stay home.


The only major difference I remember was that my mom was available for school stuff during the day. She started to volunteer more within the school system. She still cooked daily. She did our laundry and even ironed our clothes when she worked and when she didn't.


I think my daughter has benefitted and lost out because I work but I'm a single mom so, I don't have a choice but to work. Thank GOD for my village...the friends and family that helped out.

I was watching Oprah a little while ago, it was about staying home and working moms and the decision a woman makes after having children. Some moms were convinved that staying home with the kids was the best while the other half, the working moms felt they could still do a good job with raising kids and work at the same time. I have one daughter and have always worked, yes I do feel like I have missed out on a lot but I can't be a stay at home mom, that would have been ideal for me but being single thats out of the question. I have felt guilty at times that I am not there to take/pick her up from school, or be there for school events which is what i miss out on the most since those are the hours I am working.

What are your opinions on this subject?

veronikka said:

My opinion is that it is a personal decision and the mother has to make the decision that is going to be best for her family. A happy mother makes a happy child. There are some quality day care centers out there. I'm a stay at home mom. Lucky to be blessed that I can do that. It was the right decision for me. My husband is in the Air Force and we have never lived near family or in one place. I know that sometimes I get jealous of working moms that get to get out of the house and have adult conversation and earn their own money. My husband has NEVER made me feel bad about not working. He wanted it that way too. He never gives me a hard time about money either. I'm sure you do the very best you can do with your situation. Your daughter is going to learn how to be a strong woman and mother who knows how to take care of herself from you and that's wonderful!

We should just seriously all get along and stop being so judgemental.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I was very young when I had my daughter, I was still in high school. I was very fortunate to have a my family around to help me during this time. My great grandmother and mother helped me out the most, so luckily there was no need for child care because they looked after her. Her father passed away about 7 years ago, we never had a good realtionship and he never helped out.

veronikka said:

Okay well see. Your FAMILY stayed home with her. So she was loved just as if you woulda been there. I mean, thats as close to you being home as she coulda been right?

We all have things we feel guilty about when it comes to our children. But we do the best we can.

WUMEN SHOULD STAY AT THE HOME TO LUCK AFTER THE LITLE ONE,S AND TO COOK FOR THE MANS DINNER WHEN HE GETS IN HOME

WUMEN SHOULD STAY AT THE HOME TO LUCK AFTER THE LITLE ONE,S AND TO COOK FOR THE MANS DINNER WHEN HE GETS IN HOME

It sucks that women feel like they have to choose sides in the situation. Do what's best for you. I stayed home with my son for the first 2 years. Once he was 2.5, I put him in school and I went back to school. I could not sit any longer. I was bored to death. I work. I have to work. I have bills. My son wants things. Luckily, my son loves school. I would pull my hair out if I stayed home all day with my son now and that doesn't make me a bad mother for saying that. I would never home school because I'm not a teacher I like working and I'm not going to stop so I can sit on my ass all day with my kid. In the end, I think he will respect me for it. He will respect that mommy worked hard to provide for him and still had time for him as well. I respect my mother for it. She has worked all my life and I never felt as though my mother was not there for me because she worked. That's what WEEKENDS are for. I spend my entire weekend with my son. During the week, I pick him up from school and we hang out, eat dinner and hang out some more until bedtime. It works for us


Well, I stay at home and I don't sit around vacuuming and mopping. Of course, I do that, but it's not like I run out of things to do. I hear where you are coming from. You don't want to stay home and that's good that you recognize the needs that you have.

I have enjoyed staying home and my youngest just went to Kindergarten this week. I'm moving in about 9 months, so it would be difficult to find and retain a job in that amount of time. Maybe at our next place I'll get one, but we'll only be there a year as well.

Here's one thing I don't like about "stay at home moms": If your kid is little and your homeschooling him/her, that's fine. However, if your kid is 12 or 13, that's just ridiculous, IMO. There is no reason why you should stay home with grown ass "kids". That's an excuse to sit on your ass and watch your stories.


You can only vaccuum and mop so much, you know?




Smooches;)
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MsMisha319 said:

Shit. The org is really annoying me today. Sorry.

I was saying that even though I stay at home I definitely don't get bored. I have so many things I have to do. I do mop and vacuum, but I also do lots more. I volunteer and my sons' schools to read to the kids. My husband is in the Air Force and I do lots of work for his squadron. All of that on top of the day to day tasks that it takes to keep a house running. I'm sure you know.

I hear you on the working thing. I don't think people should feel bad about their choices. It's so personal and it depends on so many factors. Deciding whether or not to stay home is not a cut and dry decision that's for sure.

Shit. The org is really annoying me today. Sorry.

I was saying that even though I stay at home I definitely don't get bored. I have so many things I have to do. I do mop and vacuum, but I also do lots more. I volunteer and my sons' schools to read to the kids. My husband is in the Air Force and I do lots of work for his squadron. All of that on top of the day to day tasks that it takes to keep a house running. I'm sure you know.

I hear you on the working thing. I don't think people should feel bad about their choices. It's so personal and it depends on so many factors. Deciding whether or not to stay home is not a cut and dry decision that's for sure.

It sucks that women feel like they have to choose sides in the situation. Do what's best for you. I stayed home with my son for the first 2 years. Once he was 2.5, I put him in school and I went back to school. I could not sit any longer. I was bored to death. I work. I have to work. I have bills. My son wants things. Luckily, my son loves school. I would pull my hair out if I stayed home all day with my son now and that doesn't make me a bad mother for saying that. I would never home school because I'm not a teacher I like working and I'm not going to stop so I can sit on my ass all day with my kid. In the end, I think he will respect me for it. He will respect that mommy worked hard to provide for him and still had time for him as well. I respect my mother for it. She has worked all my life and I never felt as though my mother was not there for me because she worked. That's what WEEKENDS are for. I spend my entire weekend with my son. During the week, I pick him up from school and we hang out, eat dinner and hang out some more until bedtime. It works for us


Here's one thing I don't like about "stay at home moms": If your kid is little and your homeschooling him/her, that's fine. However, if your kid is 12 or 13, that's just ridiculous, IMO. There is no reason why you should stay home with grown ass "kids". That's an excuse to sit on your ass and watch your stories.


You can only vaccuum and mop so much, you know?




Smooches;)
[Edited 8/15/07 9:38am]

Shit. The org is really annoying me today. Sorry.

I was saying that even though I stay at home I definitely don't get bored. I have so many things I have to do. I do mop and vacuum, but I also do lots more. I volunteer and my sons' schools to read to the kids. My husband is in the Air Force and I do lots of work for his squadron. All of that on top of the day to day tasks that it takes to keep a house running. I'm sure you know.

I hear you on the working thing. I don't think people should feel bad about their choices. It's so personal and it depends on so many factors. Deciding whether or not to stay home is not a cut and dry decision that's for sure.

MsMisha319 said:

Um.

Your saying you don't think women should have to take sides, yet your bagging on stay at home moms.

I could easily bag on working moms, but I REALLY DON'T think we should take sides.

Like you have so obviously have done.

MsMisha319 said:

Um.

Your saying you don't think women should have to take sides, yet your bagging on stay at home moms.

I could easily bag on working moms, but I REALLY DON'T think we should take sides.

Like you have so obviously have done.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

We're agreeing on something. Does this mean Jesus is on his way back?

MsMisha319 said:

Um.

Your saying you don't think women should have to take sides, yet your bagging on stay at home moms.

I could easily bag on working moms, but I REALLY DON'T think we should take sides.

Like you have so obviously have done.

Lothan said:

Ivy!!!!!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

We're agreeing on something. Does this mean Jesus is on his way back?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Oh. And I also wanted to add that, I have been thinking a lot about it, and if my husband is cool with it, I'd like to stay home until the kids are ATLEAST in high school.

Because, who is gonna get up a cook a suitable breakfast and get them off to school, who is gonna DRIVE them, who is gonna attend field trips and help with fund raisers, who is gonna be here to make them a snack when they get home, and make them a nice dinner, and help with they're homework?????

I AM, thats who.

And I don't watch 'stories'.

And further more, while you feel justified, out paying your bills (which is GREAT, thats YOUR thing) MY thing is that I feel like less of a women if my floor ISN'T mopped EVERY DAY!!!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I don't watch stories either...and I feel more of a women when all the beds are made and everthing is all clean and neat

It sucks that women feel like they have to choose sides in the situation. Do what's best for you. I stayed home with my son for the first 2 years. Once he was 2.5, I put him in school and I went back to school. I could not sit any longer. I was bored to death. I work. I have to work. I have bills. My son wants things. Luckily, my son loves school. I would pull my hair out if I stayed home all day with my son now and that doesn't make me a bad mother for saying that. I would never home school because I'm not a teacher I like working and I'm not going to stop so I can sit on my ass all day with my kid. In the end, I think he will respect me for it. He will respect that mommy worked hard to provide for him and still had time for him as well. I respect my mother for it. She has worked all my life and I never felt as though my mother was not there for me because she worked. That's what WEEKENDS are for. I spend my entire weekend with my son. During the week, I pick him up from school and we hang out, eat dinner and hang out some more until bedtime. It works for us


Here's one thing I don't like about "stay at home moms": If your kid is little and your homeschooling him/her, that's fine. However, if your kid is 12 or 13, that's just ridiculous, IMO. There is no reason why you should stay home with grown ass "kids". That's an excuse to sit on your ass and watch your stories.


You can only vaccuum and mop so much, you know?




Smooches;)
[Edited 8/15/07 9:38am]