Imago said:

it's become too intimidating i think i won't be able when the time comes

heybaby said:

You know what. Fuck this thread. I refuse to be labeled

IstenSzek said:

x 100000

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

IstenSzek said:

The org makes great porn reading.....

veronikka said:

I have had a similar experience. I actually dated a guy in college and now looking back on things my gut tells me he was/is probably gay. At first things were normal, but as time went on he became more and more distant. Eventually he told me he wanted to not have sex anymore because he wanted to wait until we're married. OK, what straight guy wants to stop having sex. And, no I wasn't bad in bed. We broke up partly because of that and mostly because we fought horribly. But, I think he probably knew his whole life and was just in denial and was scared. He was from a very large, strict Catholic family. He pursued me, but I think he reallly just wanted to convince himself he was straight.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

lol i'm still waiting for my official warning orgnote

it's been ages since i had one. hence the return of
my potty mouth

SaraWright10 said:

Thank you for sharing Sara! OK, I'm sure most of the gay folk here went through the same thing but for me, when I came out I claimed I was bi-sexual and I have absolutely ZERO sexual interest in women. None at all. I claimed I was bi because it sounded better than gay and that was the only reason I claimed that, not because it was true but because I was afraid. And he probably is attracted to you but as a friend. It's still possible for us to love women that we aren't sexually attracted to. I love all my girlfriends. I mean love them but that still doesn't mean I want to get in their pants

I love that the younger generation is able to actually deal with this subject, unlike the freakin dinosaurs before them

IstenSzek said:

Hahah!!

I WAS shocked silly, but said nothing.

Dirty talk is good on you. heehee!

CarrieMpls said:

Right?!.

and the Narnia comment! I just don't believe people when they say they didn't know. That would take the most hard core ignoring of your own damn mind and like you said, unless someone is seriously psychologically distured there is no way they cannot know.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That makes sense.

Yeah, it's horrible what I see him go through. Our town is so naive and past time they don't accept him at all.
I'm with him almost everyday and everywhere we go people say mean things to him and you can tell some people have almost brought him to tears. They are so mean. They'll drive by and scream Faggit. It's rediculous. It makes me so angry.
and Lord knows I will beat any motherfuckers ass that does something to him but he won't let me. He just tells me to keep walking and ignore it which is obviously the best thing to do but sometimes I can't help it and I just want to turn around and punch the people square in the forehead.

SaraWright10 said:

I think particularly at your age things can be confusing. I don't mean that to be condescending, it's just the way it is.

I have crushes on people all the time. People, not just guys. When I meet someone new or develop a friendship with someone who maybe I didn't know so well before there can be a great period of closeness where you're kind of celebrating your relationship with that person. You just like them so much and think they're great and all that. Every new thing you learn about them is exciting and fun and yay.
But I only want to have sex with the guys. That's how you know.
He'll figure it out in time.

CarrieMpls said:

Wow, Carrie! What you say makes a lot of sense. I can also see a beautiful woman and think she's totally hot, but wouldn't want to sleep with her. I'm just not into having sex with girls.

I still don't think I would call myself 'gay'(maybe I'm in denial). I was not attracted to women (at least I don't recall being attracted to any) until about a year ago. I am 34, a mom and was hetero for my whole life.
I had a extremely bad experience with my son's father and was celibate for almost 5 years. I met a woman about a year ago who was pretty and sexy and kind and funny and all that. She was beautiful but so were a lot of women I knew that I had no sexual attraction to at all. But I was attracted to this woman and I still cannot explain why.

I found myself wanting to be around her all the time. I was always looking at her all the time and thinking about her all the time and fantasizing about her. We talked for hours on the phone. I got nervous around her. Anyway after picking up some signals from her and going back and forth in my head about it I decided to bring the subject of my physical attraction up. Long story short we ended up in a relationship this summer that started out as some fun "experimentation" type thing. But I do have some feelings for her now. We're still seeing each other but I swear I haven't told a soul (except you all) and neither has she.I probably will never tell anyone. I really enjoy being with her and I feel happy around her but all that "coming out" business? I just can't see me doing that because I am unsure about what I am exactly at this point in my life; I supposed I am confused. I am attracted to men still I guess but it does seems like everyday men are less appealing to me than they were the day before. Now I look at pics of hot women people post here on the org and think about all the dirty little thing I'd like to do to them. Just like i used to think about men. I am concerned about what is happening to me for sure. But I am also having fun. So, what to do, what to do?

alwayslate said:

You're brave for sharing that. I think as long as you are honest with yourself and others then everything is all good. I'm sure you will figure it all out with time.

alwayslate said:

As most ppl that really know me- know that I had a sexual relationship with a women about 6 years ago. Much like your situation- I just fell for a woman...I did not think about it much really until we started to hang out at all of the places she was used to hanging out at which were gay bars and I did not feel like I fit in there. Up until I was almost 30 I had always been with men- I never had a crush on another woman nor did I ever fantasize about a woman before she came along. I did not feel uncomfortable being with her though I did feel uncomfortable when ppl tried to label me. After we split up I happily went back to men and I really do not think I will ever be with a woman again. We lived together 6 months so it was not just a one time sexual experience for me.
I really try not to label it or myself..it was a wonderful time in my life and I look back on it and smile. We still email from time to time- she talks about her girlfriend and I talk about my boyfriend.

I know people who didn't realize they were gay until adulthood. It is a reality. I've noticed it mostly with women than men

Janfriend said:

For some women the stories the women have told don't exactly qualify. can't say why really. I guess I'm talking more about men here. I don't believe a man suddenly wakes up one day and realizes he loves dick Women tend to be more fluid than men so it seems different to me.

It's funny: I consider myself bi but there are times I should make a choice. Women satisfy me sexually but men satisfy me emotionally which is the more important. Plus I love dick, kind of penis worship but fucking really ain't my thing.

I always knew I was gay

i see no gender..love is love..regardless of little labels people like using.

I'm gay ? I had no idea

weepingwall said:

Oh whatever! some of us truly are labels! There is such a thing as totally straight and totally gay. One guess which side I'm on

weepingwall said:

Oh whatever! some of us truly are labels! There is such a thing as totally straight and totally gay. One guess which side I'm on

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

theodore said:

So did we!
It was obvious.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

see you're thinking in stereotypes..no one is truly a stereotypes..ignorance is the only thing that makes stereotypes evident..all humans think differently..

I'm pretty straight, but there are 2 women I know I'd consider switching sides for

ZombieKitten said:

hokie1 said:

OK, 3