evenstar3 said:

This is so true.
I do this ALL the time I don't know why.

SaraWright10 said:

i know! i've done it forever and have to really try not to. it's silly when you think about it.

Laurel, is there something you want to share about Spooky?


orgnote me.

Imago said:

i SAID i started this after reading jess and carrie's threads!

evenstar3 said:

Is there something you want to share about Jess and Carrie with me?


orgnote me.

Imago said:

jess is my straight girl crush

evenstar3 said:

Sometimes I even catch myself playing games with guys to secretly make them say it first lol!

totally Highschool!

2the9s said:

july said:

Me, either.

I'm pretty honest when it comes to saying how I feel. never did me any good. But I'm just a bad lier, so I might as well tell the truth.

july said:

no one loves 9s.

evenstar3 said:

How about starting with, defining "love". It means different things to different people.
There are those who can't live without someone and still have physical needs that entail sex with others.

There's two concepts here: honesty and love.
Honesty is based on ethics.
Love is an emotion.
Sometimes with the two, it's like oil on water.

xplnyrslf said:

oh god, i'd have no clue how to define love. it's different for everyone.

evenstar3 said:

official definition of love:
noun
1. deep affection;fondness.
2. sexual passion
3.sexual relations
4.beloved one
5.in some games, no score
verb
1.feel love or deep fondness
2.delight in;cherish etc.

Heck of a lot of sex in the definition, which is surprising.
There's no boundaries on individual perceptions of love. A dictionary doesn't come close.

Because you are smart enough to know that your feelings change.

Because you never want to shut the door completely.

Because sometimes, things are complex enough that you can lie to yourself, for the time being.

Because you are really ambivalent.

Because depending on the outcomes, the price of saying the words are very cheap or very dear.

I think it is difficult to maintain the same emotional intensity day in & day out. We fall in and out of love with the single most person in our life - repeatedly.

Oh Lord.

I layed awake in bed last nite thinking about this exact topic.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Don't forget about the cake in the oven!!!

PeteZarustica said:

So very true....

Although it has nothing to do with the inspiration for the topic, I'd like to see a
Spooky response.....

I have no idea why people aren't more straightforward. Maybe because they are afraid the truth will hurt? Or maybe because people just like being liars? Maybe because they are assholes?

xplnyrslf said:

this is why I wanna be like you when I grow up.....


as far as the subject, a lot of times being straightforward about feelings, whether expressed or not, is a dangerous proposition....because there are people out there who are so starved for emotional attachment that your innocent "I Love You, but not in that way" is completely re-edited for content....in other words, the latter part of the statement is completely ignored....so now you're sitting there trying to deal with this person who just doesn't get it....

jami0mckay said:

I set the oven timer, and went to my appt.

Then on the drive home, hoped that it worked and that I wouldn't be pulling into a fire.

reneGade20 said:

Yes but then cut that person off completely. If that person is in love with you and you don't feel the same way, just leave that person alone.

Lothan said:

Lothan said:

reneGade20 said:

REDBABY said:

Give me the truth over a lie anyday. Don't spare my feelings and I am not really good at getting a hint. Someone sugarcoating shit has hurt me immensely over these last couple of years.

Lothan said:

Truth: I love you.

Lothan said:

This is me.

Same thing.

I didn't take a hint either. And I was sent total mixed signals. For a long period of time. A lot of hurt on my end could have been avoided if this person would have been honest from the get.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Some ppl just can't do that though.. I wonder why though?