CarrieMpls said:

All my female friends are hot. I'm very shallow.

I'm thinking about this and the only straight male friends I have in Mpls are either married or are boyfriends/fiances of my friends. So they don't really "count" in this question.



When I was younger I had lots of straight male friends. I wonder where they all went...

CarrieMpls said:

They went gay

Wow, this is a long thread and I can't be bothered to read it all, but I'll give my two cents anyway.

In my personal experience there is only one female friend where there is absolutely no romantic/sexual tension whatsoever and that is a girl I've practically grown up with. Our parents are long-time friends and since we're almost the same age we've basically known each other our whole lives and regard each other as a bonus sibling or at least a friend so old that nothing even slightly superficial matters anymore.

I guess our friendship is proof that it's possible to "just be friends", but it's also pretty amazing that out of all the friendships I've had and still have with females, it is the only one completely without romantic/sexual tension. In all the others, even if there is just a slight hint of it, there has still been a spark there. Usually it's not something that we need to act upon (although at other times it is...) but it's there nonetheless and I'm sure that on some subconscious level it is affecting the way we relate to each other.

Why is this thread still ongoing?

Cloudbuster said:

Imago said:

Oh that's right. I waved my fairy wand over them, brought them to the bar and poof!

CarrieMpls said:

I know that christopher quoted Chris Rock earlier about how a woman's "male friend" is really just a dick in a glass jar.

But Chris Rock also said that whenever a guy's being nice to you, he's just offering dick.

i'm starting to believe that's true.

JasmineFire said:

Bro's before Ho's!

Imago said:

whatever you say mullet man.

JasmineFire said:

I finally found a way to bridge the gap between boutique stores and those sweet sweet walmart associates.

Absolutely

My best friend is a woman 10 years younger than me

I'm married and 36 she's dating and 26

we have been good friends for 4 years now and never had an issue

ThirdandFinal said:

You'll end up screwing.

Cloudbuster said:

This is a woman I have run a lingerie company and some porn sites with
it isn't an issue


11 years of marriage and I've never had a thought of cheating, and certainly not with my friend

ThirdandFinal said:

You'll end up screwing.

Cloudbuster said:

whatever

ThirdandFinal said:

Lighten up, I'm just messin'.



ps) You'll end up screwing.

you're terrible. married people don't usually take that shit lightly.

JasmineFire said:

I consider it a gift of mine. I have nothing else.

at least you can see the silver lining.

JasmineFire said:

They'll end up screwing.

Cloudbuster said:

someday...

CarrieMpls said:

I know that christopher quoted Chris Rock earlier about how a woman's "male friend" is really just a dick in a glass jar.

But Chris Rock also said that whenever a guy's being nice to you, he's just offering dick.

i'm starting to believe that's true.

retina said:

So pretty much it's always there no matter what whether acknowledged or not?

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, I'd say so (except in very rare cases). It doesn't necessarily have to be a problem though. Sometimes the only concrete effect is that the two people treat each other with a more positive and accepting attitude without consciously hoping it will actually lead to sex, but it still has to do - in part - with sexual attraction. So when some people go on and on about how great it is that all their friendships with the opposite sex are completely neutral I think to myself "yeah, right..." because to me, saying that is like when married people claim to never ever fantasize about anyone other than their spouse. They think it makes them better people, but all it really makes them is in denial over something that's usually harmless anyway.