I turn 35 tomorrow and I've been thinking alot about my life lately...things I've done wrong...things I've done right...all in all, I'm kinda bummed...I know I got alot to be thankful for, but still...so, what do you do when you're down to pick yourself up....I'm open for ideas!

roodboi said:

Listening to music always helps me.

First, Happy Birthday!!!!!



Second, I blast one of my favorite albums and dance around my house. It is even more fun if someone else is there to dance like a dork with you

roodboi said:

Remind myself of all the things I should be thankful for (especially when you consider the amount of pain and suffering in this world); get some sunlight; talk to friends; get some rest; watch, read or listen to something funny that reminds me not to take life too seriously.

- Woody Allen

roodboi said:

Happy Birthday soon

I listen to music that lifts me up..Prince always works.
I write down things I have to be thankful for or happy about and things I would like to change then seriously consider making a change.
I try to set realistic goals for myself
I try to remember happiness is not all or nothing- even if some things are not the way that you want them to be it does not change the good things in your life.

listen to music, workout and talk to friends

Happy early Birthday

I don't.



It's true though. When I'm upset/sad/depressed I just have to let myself be upset/sad/depressed. Shut myself in my apartment for the day and sleep/read/watch dvds.

I suppose sometimes I go shopping. A new CD, a new pair of shoes, a new nail polish or something.

If I'm just feeling a little low energy, then I do the music, dance around the apartment thing, but if I'm truly blue, I just gotta feel the blue for a while.

CarrieMpls said:

Good point Carrie- some times it gets worse if you try to fight it.

I like to wallow in my misery. This might seem weird or morbid but I think of all the bad things all in one hit and have a good cry and get it out of my system. Usually afterwards I feel a lot better and 100% more optimistic. Of course, this bothers those around me

This is SOOOOO totally cheesy too, but when I'm up, when I'm feeling good, when I'm happy happy happy I try to write down what I'm so goddamn happy about. The little things that made the day so great.
It helps to think of it later when I'm not so happy. To remember that I've been that happy before and I will be again.

ZombieKitten said:

actually my mood has been affecting those around me alot...that sucks too...everybody wants me to tell 'em whats up or talk about it...thats the last thing I wanna do and that makes me come across as an asshole......

CarrieMpls said:

You are ZK are right..I have had it all wrong..I usually fight it with all of my might. Though I admit it usually hits me at the worst time- like right before work so I have to fight it for a good 9 hrs or so.
I used to journal a lot- I found it was easier to do it when I was depressed though and harder when I was happy.
I need to change that.

[Edited 7/30/07 18:41pm]

roodboi said:

Well why don't you write about it? Write it down, reflect on it. Go back to it periodically so you can reflect on where you've traveled personally since writing it. That might give you the incentive to keep on changing for the better. If you ever feel the need to share it, you don't have to talk about it as you've written what needs to be said.

Happy birthday

I get quoted on the main page of Prince.org.

roodboi said:

I know, I hate the "what's wrong?" question
Usually nothing was really that bad, but when they ask that, suddenly I will start to feel REALLY bad!

ZombieKitten said:

When someone asks me that question, I start to cry. So I kind of like to keep my misery to myself, if that makes any sense.

psychodelicide said:

Crying is good, but awful if you are trying to keep it inside

ZombieKitten said:

Do you find that you cannot even make eye contact when you feel the need to cry? That's how it is with me and the moment I see another eyeball, rivers come out of my eyes

ZombieKitten said:

Believe me, I know. I'm very good at keeping stuff inside and not telling anybody how I feel.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

If I am gonna cry I have to run away I can't bear to be around people, (unless it is at a funeral, or during a sad movie and I am not the only one crying)

ZombieKitten said:

OMG, I'm the exact same way, I hate to have people see me crying.

psychodelicide said:

Well I don't necessarily mind but those tears are triggered if I know someone can see the pain in my eyes

psychodelicide said:

Maybe because it is perceived as a sign of weakness? We are told it is childish, grow up, big girls don't cry.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I do the same thing . . .

Play Prince real loud and Dance all by yourself, you'll feel better. Happy Birthday, at least you're not Dead

Thanks everyone...for the advice and birthday wishes...

ZombieKitten said:

Exactly.

roodboi said:

oh and happy birthday! though you need a happier thread than this one!!!

with and

ZombieKitten said:

nah, this thread will do just fine, usually I'm the post of death on a thread...send 'em right to page two purgatory...

roodboi said:

No crying on your birthday though...
have a great day!

I just turned 36 in June- was not that bad. We shall see how I am at 40