mdiver said:

I am very happy for the both of you

shanti0608 said:

Very much so .

I should be happy, and it bugs the shit out of me that I am not. So many people suffer so much in comparison yet, I am not happy.

I might try reading a bit on Buddhism, any recommendations anyone?

Therapy has helped, a bit. But I worry too much to ever be completely contented and then "Happy".

I would say I was comfortable.

Serious said:

Thank you sweetheart .. one of the best things is that I get to hopefully meet you.

PREDOMINANT said:

I would say you need a beer!

mdiver said:

Oh is that your answer to everything?

mdiver said:

as homer simpson says "Alcohol! The cause of -- and solution to -- all of life's problems!"

PREDOMINANT said:

I wonder why people think there is happiness in Buddhism, and then they will find their solace.
Surely if Buddhism is the key to happiness, we would all be Buddhists?

shanti0608 said:

Thank you, Val , can't wait to meet you ! First Martina last April and hopefully soon you and Phil, it can't get much better !

MissMe said:

but then we would have to give up our material possessions to do it properly right? I can see why that would not be attractive to many folks

mdiver said:

Yea, but hangover is very UN happy!

PREDOMINANT said:

One day friend we will get together and just have 1 !

ZombieKitten said:

You have a point there.
But who really does most things properly these days? Not many, I guess.

mdiver said:

Yes and pigs will fly...

MissMe said:

I mentioned it because of all Ace's 5 reccomendations it is the one I haven't really looked into.

PREDOMINANT said:

The key to happiness lies within yourself. You just have to find a way to use it. And don't ask me how to do it, I would like to know myself.
It seems to be a lot easier for some people to achieve happiness than others or at least to be content with what you got. There it is again, the "c" word.

shanti0608 said:

Serious said:

I think that the "C" word scares ppl.... me included.

shanti0608 said:

There's some kind of lowered expectations touch attached to it, at least for me . But at the moment I wish I were at least content .

Serious said:

I have been there sister

shanti0608 said:

I'm happy with my life.....happy with my career, even though I seem to be spending more and more of it in Iraq....now that I've managed to repair most of the damage I created in my marriage and as we continue to work together to mend things, I'm happy with my wife...and by proxy, myself....I was able to release a lot of the garbage I've been lugging around throughout the years....and as much as I've liked me, I'm really liking me now!!!

reneGade20 said:

I am so happy to hear a man say that..lately I have been hearing nothing but negative from men about their relationships.
I am so glad that you will be home soon (not soon enough..I know) to continue to do the work in person.
I am very happy for you


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shanti0608 said:

Probably because it implies that you don't need anything else, that you are happy with who you are and what you have. For my mind that is for losers who have given up. There is always something else to do or achieve so how can you be content?

I think it is very dificult for certain personalities to reach happiness, without compramising who they are.

PREDOMINANT said:

I think it is possible to be content in certain aspects of your life and yet still continue to learn, grow and improve other aspects.
It does not have to be one or the other..I do not think.

I think it takes balance.

shanti0608 said:

You know, I remember sitting there in Kuwait when my wife hit me with all that she knew and felt....and typically, I was inclined to sit there and argue and deny....but as I told her, I was just tired of running from everything....her, me, the past, the future.....as corny as it sounds I think I was just ready to start dealing...and she was willing to give me that chance....I even gave her an out...that if she doubted my sincerity for a minute, and pulled out, I wouldn't hold it against her....she stuck it out with me and in the process brought me back to the person that SHE met and wanted back in the day.....while getting herself back to who she was as opposed to, in her words, the whiny needy sad sack wife she allowed herself to become....I know, I know...


I got 101 days left (16 weeks) ....and I am equally happy for you ....it would seem both of us are looking at the calender and getting more and more ....nervous, too.....but more

PREDOMINANT said:

I think that being content is a very different concept from settling, which is what, IMHO, you're describing....

shanti0608 said:

agreed!!

Are you horny?

reneGade20 said:

and nervous...You have no idea. I am about to step into another world it seems and leave this one behind. Which makes me very excited and nervous and scared.
Though in saying all of that I can think of no better person to have by my side to support me than the one person I have chosen to take this journey with.
I have never spent so much time, effort, sweat & tears, into something before.
I never honestly put this much thought into anything before so I guess the many months of distance have done us good- though that does not stop me from complaining about it though..I am a girl after all.