Serious said:

Thanks Martina, honest answer is i actually don't care, i have come to the stage in my life when i am done with caring what other people think, if they wanna tell me their opinion fine and i will listen and take it on board, then move on and make MY OWN choice. The issue occurs when they try and make me do what they want and get all judgemental.....under those circumstances they can go fuck themselves

mdiver said:

Nobody can decide what's right for you but yourself . It sucks when somebody who should know both you and the situation quite well doesn't understand though she should. It's good to see that you don't let yourself getting hurt .

ThirdandFinal said:

You don't just contradict them, do you?

yesterday, with my dad, about his illogical bias against muslims. i don't think either of us won as my mom told both of us to shut up.

evenstar3 said:

Sounds like mom won.

JediTodd said:

she usually does when we start shouting.

Mach said:

Same. I get bored so easily.

JediTodd said:

oh damn. you beat me to it.

btw i'm sure she doesn't

emm said:

That's not an argument!

Teacher said:

ditto

Teacher said:

yes it is!

Teacher said:

When someone starts arguing
( ok thats one weird word there say it spell it = weird ! ANYWAY )
with me I find myself laughing inside, then often times I laugh outloud at them , myself the subject,the ego energy and all that

Mach said:

okay, help me out here with this one because the whole laughing out loud thing can be dangers with some folk. how exactly do you pull that off?

statuesqque said:

I laugh

Like I am going to argue with someone over some ego based issue they choose to throw at me ? THAT can be dangerous !! We don't argue in my family - not like that we talk things through calmly so... lets say when a friend gets her panties in a wad and thinks she can throw and argument down my throat - I laugh - she stops and listens to herself, and usually ends up laughing at me in return and herself

Mach said:

okay, I get that... I've known nothing but arguing in my family, my friendships and all things that surround me. So, I said and have tried to do things differently by calmly talking things out when presented with an argument but because it's not what they're use to I guess, (and they actually get off on arguing) apparently I come across as not taking ownership, not doing this or kinda of thing…or I'm not reacting like I should...craziness. Anyway, I usually just agree or concede as I said in my other post just to end it.


I think it's great that your family has that... I'm hoping to start a new trend in mine.
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i rarely argue with anyone,am at a stage in my life where i really cant b bothered to argue and i dont care much about other peoples opinions except my mothers (and i never argue with her out of respect)and my boyfriend,who knows better than to argue with me!

I don't know how to argue. I lose before I even start.

I am not very good at it. I watched my parents argue and fight growing up and it always seemed pointless to me.
I find that I usually do not argue unless I know that I am RIGHT about something- like a fact of some sort.
I do not argue opinions or feelings- that is pointless.
I guess the last time that I was forced to argue in order to stand my ground and secure my future was several months ago...I guess I won..I just gotthe Fed Ex package to prove it.
I still avoid it as much as I can.

shanti0608 said:

I find even that to be rather draining not that I argue more than I stand my ground if it's something I believe in or as you've said know for a fact.

statuesqque said:

Me too..I really get no enjoyment out of arguing...though I have heard make up sex is pretty good...never had that..

shanti0608 said:

oh YES!! make up sex is fabulous but as great as it is I'd rather not have it and be very happy with plain old run of the mill good sex.

statuesqque said:

Well I would like to try it once like right after an intense argument about nothing serious or important then realise how silly it was then go have sex and laugh about the silly argument after I come down off an intense orgasm or two...




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shanti0608 said:

I don't know, for me it's always been amazing after a major tiff or blow up... raw emotion which is why I'd rather not go that route anymore.

statuesqque said:

I have never had that...my ex would just say whatever and walk away..no emotion at all. I guess it is not good to go to either extreme..
Just have good sex

shanti0608 said:

yep, I want the relationship to be amazing. to me if it is then the sex is off the charts...I think.

statuesqque said:

Agreed

You are my twin it is affirmed

shanti0608 said:

Mach said:

I just think of it this way - I trust my ability to form opinions and I'm not really interested in having them opposed by some body who HAS to convince me I'm wrong.

DanceWme said:

You are a good friend to do that!

shanti0608 said:

Bring it