Is it because of U or the other person?

Probably because you've finally realized things are how they are and the other person has no interest to change them.

Because of me, I just don't have those feelings for them. It happens

It's uneasy how such powerful feelings can be subdued. People don't realize how fragile affections can be.

There are a multitude of reasons why feelings for a person die and there is no one answer as to why this happens or why we allow it to happen. Love requires work, all day everyday and like our physical health if we dont keep it healthy and work at it then it will die. Yet love is an organic thing and the smallest things can feed it and encourage it to grow.
In my experience i have found that my own desire to hold on to love and make it grow was not enough to keep it because the other had no desire to do so, this forced me to detach and gradually that love and those feelings started to die.
Alternatively i hvae known others that have detatched themselves and allowed their love and feelings to die as a concious effort. TBH i feel that in those circumstances they never really truly loved properly anyway because their thought was for themselves and no other. Love is not like that in its true form.

If you BOTH want to keep it and are willing to work and sacrifice for each other then it can be regained and it will come back in time. If only one of you does then walk....and sooner rather than later because a whole world of hurt awaits if you force the issue.

I wish you happiness and peace

mdiver said:

True. Life happens and there are so many outer influences, next to what goes on in your own head, let alone the other's.

Love always has a way to bring out the best AND worst of us, though... real love is taking both sides into stride and work with them both...

HamsterHuey said:

True brother...very true

Everyones situation is different. In my last relationship I feel the love I felt for the other person slowly died because of the way I was being treated. And I finally realized that he would never change that is who he is and as much as he tells me now that he will change I dont believe it.

people grow and change thats life

what's worse is knowing it totally didn't HAVE to be that way....and the wonderment of what would've been..and the ocean of tears

luvsexy4all said:

yet everything does tend to happen for a reason. sure, you can beat yourself up imagining happier outcomes, but in my experience that gets you nowhere. you just have to let go at some point.

evenstar3 said:

also have to deal with knowing the hell
she lives in that I tried ernestly to
make lighter